Introduction
With the implementation of China's family planning policy, single-child families have been in the majority over the past few decades. When we are young, we may think that only children are happier, but as we get older, we gradually realize the essential differences between multi-child families and one-child families, and these differences are quite real and profound.
The only child has poor ability to work under pressure
The only child is often the focus of the stars in the family, and has enjoyed the meticulous care of his parents and elders since he was a child. However, this excessive pampering leaves them with little to no grievances in life and a lack of opportunities to face adversity.
They lack self-protection mechanisms, and the pressure and competition in life are like flowers in a storm, and once they face pressure, they often show a state of collapse and inability to adapt, and appear extremely vulnerable.
On the other hand, they are accustomed to being the center of the family and do not need to care about the emotions and needs of others. This makes it difficult for them to be sensitive to the words and actions of others in social situations, and it is even more difficult to build good interpersonal relationships.
Children from families with many children are more popular
The essential difference between families with many children and families with only one child is even more pronounced in terms of children's social skills. Children from families with many children develop richer interpersonal experiences because they live in an environment that shares resources.
1.Balance between sharing and competition
In a family with many children, children have to face resource sharing and competition with siblings. This balancing act taught them early on in how to deal with people.
In order to get more parental attention and resources, it is necessary to know how to coordinate with siblings, which also makes them more resourceful and flexible in social interactions.
2.Experience collaboration and independence
In families with many children, children often need to work together on certain tasks, such as tidying up the room and preparing dinner together. This kind of cooperation experience develops their ability to work as a team at an early age.
At the same time, they also exercise their independence when completing some tasks independently, which makes them more well-rounded social skills.
3.Sensitivity and concern for others
Children in families with many children develop greater sensitivity because they need to pay attention to the needs of their siblings. They are accustomed to caring for other members of the family and are better able to read words and understand the emotional state of others.
Such experiences make them more empathetic socially and easier to build good relationships with others.
4.Be more flexible in the face of problems
In a family with many children, children learn to face problems in the family from an early age. Solving problems with siblings develops their problem-solving skills at an early age. This makes them more flexible socially and better able to cope with various challenges.
To put it simply, the family environment has a profound impact on a child's development, and families with many children have their own unique advantages in cultivating their children's social skills.
The burden of pension is even greater for only children
The issue of old-age care is also a major challenge for single-child families. Supporting two elderly people alone, with no siblings to rely on, is not only financially stressful, but also mentally tested.
In contrast, families with many children can share this responsibility and take care of each other, reducing the burden on individuals.
The issue of old-age care has always been the focus of social attention, and on this issue, families with many children and families with only one child face very different situations. The only child bears more pressure on the responsibility of providing for the elderly, which is not only a financial burden, but also a lonely journey of responsibility.
1.Single pension liability
The responsibility of providing for an only child is mainly concentrated on one person. With no siblings to share, they have to take on the responsibility of their parents' care alone. This makes them more isolated on the issue of pension, unable to share the pressure of the family, and financial support needs to be done by one person.
2.Financially independent burden
In a single-child family, one person is responsible for both the parents' medical expenses, living expenses, and other possible expenses. This financial independence burden will have a huge impact on the individual's life, making the only child bear greater financial pressure on the issue of pension.
3.Spiritual loneliness
Pension is not only an economic issue, but also involves a spiritual aspect. In a one-child family, parents may feel lonely and lost as they grow old because there are no siblings to share in the care of the elderly throughout the process. This makes the only child more lonely mentally.
4.Increased stress in life
The isolation of only children in the issue of pension also increases the pressure on their lives. While taking care of their parents, they may also have to face multiple responsibilities such as work and family, which makes their lives more stressful and busy.
Therefore, the responsibility of the only child in the issue of pension is even heavier, both financially and spiritually.
A message from Guo's mother
In life, everyone faces their own strengths and weaknesses, and having multiple children and being an only child is only part of the difference. No matter what kind of family we are in, we should understand and cherish what we have, because life is always fair.
It is important that we are able to face our situation calmly, play to our strengths, and live a positive and happy life. I hope that we can all face the challenges of life with a more rational and open-minded attitude.
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About author:Guo Ma, a family education instructor, focuses on sharing parenting knowledge, parent-child education experience, marriage and family insights, welcome to pay attention.