When your parents are old, please stop doing the following to them immediately, many people regret it
The disputes between people never stop, the strong side always oppresses the weak party, and the education we received from childhood is to be kind to others, not to cause trouble, to endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky. But can such an approach really allow us to live a peaceful life?
In fact, sometimes, our honesty, kindness and generosity will become a reason for others to bully, calculate and offend us. We do not know how to protect our own interests, dare not express our own will, and will not refuse the unreasonable demands of others, but will only let ourselves fall into passivity and predicament, and lose our dignity and value.
is too honest, so he is always bullied by others. We've all been there, whether it's at school, work, or at home, there are always people who bully us for no reason and make us do things they don't want to do, or take our stuff away, or speak ill of us behind our backs. We can only suffer in silence, dare not resist, and even greet them with a smile, thinking that this will be in exchange for their kindness and respect. But in fact, they will only go more and more excessively, and they will not take us seriously enough, because they know that we are soft persimmons and easy to bully. This is because we lack vigilance, lack of heart, and do not know how to protect our own interests, leaving an opportunity for the wicked to take advantage of.
If you are too kind, you will always be calculated by others. We've all had this experience, whether in life or on the Internet, there are always people who will ask us for help for various reasons, asking us to borrow money, help, donate, or give them likes, ** comments. We give alms without thinking and help indiscriminately, thinking that this will show our goodness and justice. But in fact, they will only take advantage of our kindness, and will not return the money, thank us, reciprocate, and even hurt us, because they know that we are fools and easy to deceive. This is because we don't know how to distinguish between truth and falsehood, and we don't know that some people are not worthy of our kindness, but will use them maliciously, and finally turn into scimitars to hurt us.
If you are too generous, you will always be offended. We've all had the experience that at work or socially, there are always people who make us make concessions, or violate our rights, or offend our dignity. We don't care, we don't argue, we don't refute, we think that this will show our generosity and bearing. But in fact, they will only gain inches, and they will not be grateful, respectful, corrective, or even more arrogant, because they know that we are cowards and easy to bully. This is because we reward and punish according to our personal preferences, and we do not know how to stick to the bottom line, and we do not know that some people will not appreciate our tolerance, but will offend us unscrupulously, because the other party knows that there will be no price to pay for doing so.
Don't be too honest, too kind, or too generous, otherwise you will only be bullied, calculated, and offended by others. You must know how to protect your own interests, have your own edge and choices, don't get used to hurting your people, don't forgive those who bully you, know how to refuse, learn to turn your face, there is no need to cherish the hypocritical relationship, you should turn your face, and protecting yourself is the key to life.
Mencius said: "Those who are filial are good at following the aspirations of others, and they are good at telling people's affairs." "Our parents are our benefactors, they give us life, raise us, and educate us to be human beings. We should be grateful to them and do our best to repay their kindness, which is filial piety. But what should you do with your parents as they enter their old age?
Stop blaming your parents and be patient. We've all had the experience that there was a generation gap between our parents and us, and that their thoughts and behaviors were different from ours and even out of step with the times. They will stubbornly stick to their opinions and not listen to our advice, or they will repeat their own words in nagging, regardless of our feelings. We will find them annoying, ignorant, and backward, and we will even get angry at them, accusing them of being ignorant, not progressive, and out of place. But in fact, their thinking and habits are still stuck in the past, there is no way to keep up with the changes of the times, and they do not deliberately want to oppose us, but out of concern and love for us. We should be more understanding and considerate of them, instead of making false accusations, because they are no longer young, and what they need is our respect and support, not our indifference and disgust.
Don't blame your parents, be grateful. We have all had such experiences, and some people blame their parents for their misfortunes, thinking that they did not give themselves a favorable environment, did not give themselves good genes, did not give themselves enough love, and even brought burdens and troubles to themselves. They will get angry with their parents, blame them for their incompetence, complain about their injustice, and even abandon them and ignore them. But in fact, they don't know that their parents have done their best, and they don't know how to be grateful, because their parents are selfless, they sacrificed their dreams, endured their own suffering, and gave everything they had for our happiness, they didn't ask us to give them anything in return, they just hoped that we could be healthy and happy, and grow up successfully. We should know what our parents are giving, instead of blaming them for their incompetence, because they are no longer rich, and what they need is our gratitude and filial piety, not our complaints and abandonment.
Don't let don't make your parents angry, be accompanied. We've all had the experience that some people have a lot of arguments with their parents, leaving them in anger and causing them to be physically and mentally damaged. They will be dissatisfied with their parents, not understanding, disrespectful, and even hurt them, let them down, and make them lonely. But in fact, they don't know how to control their emotions, and they don't know how to respect their parents, because parents have feelings, they will also be angry, they will be sad, and they will be lonely, and what they need is our companionship and care, not our conflicts and hurts. We should live in harmony with our parents, not make them angry, because they are already unhealthy, and what they need is our warmth and comfort, not our indifference and distantness.
Parents are old, don't do these 3 things to them, otherwise it will only make them sad and you will regret it. Give them a little more patience and less blame, and don't always complain, but try to be the support of their parents. While everything is still in time, be filial to your parents and cherish the time you spend with each other.
The purpose of this article is to remind us that our parents are our dearest people, their love for us is selfless, and we should take responsibility for their old age, not let them down, don't let them be lonely, and don't let them grieve. We should use our actions to tell them that we will always love them, always support them, and always accompany them. In this way, we can truly achieve filial piety, can we truly grow, and can we truly achieve happiness.