In the past two days, I saw a ** on Douyin, which can be summarized simply:
For us depressed people, we are the kind of people who are more prone to internal friction, and it will take ten years or even more after stepping into society to really find a path that suits us.
Internal friction also means high sensitivity, and from birth to adulthood, we need to face five major tests:
1.Family of origin.
2.School.
3.Society.
4.Love Marriage.
5.Workplace.
After the end of these five tests, we can usher in a life that truly belongs to us, that is to say, our flowering period is actually very late, but our advantage in blooming is that we are far freer, fresher, more agile and full of vitality than others.
It's like, star Song Jia said in an interview:
When I was in my twenties, I was very unhappy, very nervous, very reserved, very confused, very worried, very afraid that people would not like me.
Teacher Chen Shu also said:
The least favorite thing is twenty, although many people say that you should still be any year at that time, and I say yes, but I really want to share,Youth is not only youthful, it is accompanied by a lot of pain, entanglement and helplessness, and even confusion about the future and emotional uncontrol.
And isn't that exactly what we're experiencing with depression?
A brief review of one patient's personal experience:
onset at age 12 with somatization;
A 14-year-old was diagnosed with severe depression, severe anxiety and severe obsessive-compulsive compulsion, accompanied by psychotic episodes;
Between the ages of 14 and 18, he was admitted to the hospital twice, once in the first hospital of Shandong University and the other in a psychiatric hospital.
At the age of 18, due to the overdose of drugs at that time, he switched from depression to bipolar disorder, and he had a manic episode.
At the age of 20, although the doctor recommended lifelong medication, I firmly stopped taking the medication.
At the age of 21 and 22, there were two different degrees of **, without medication**, and they all relied on themselves to go out step by step.
None of my days have been easy, and I haven't been able to play as freely as my peers.
**Wanfen Incentive Plan What you see now is that my original family is very harmonious, and I rarely quarrel with my parents, even if there are conflicts, they can be resolved, but you don't see what kind of vicious words my parents used to slander me, I didn't see me who was forced to commit suicide by my parents, I didn't see a girl thrown in the middle of the road, and the road of reconciliation with my parents, I went from 12 years old to the present;
The path of reconciliation with society, I have come from the age of 16 to the present;
You don't see that there was a child who got up at 4 o'clock in the morning and went to bed at 12 o'clock at night, riding a bicycle with one eye open and one eye closed, and the road of self-reconciliation, I don't know how long I walked.
Everything I have now, everything that seems to be good, is because I left a little earlier than you.
As I said, my youth, from the age of 12 to now, eleven years, I have nothing, I have no decent education, I don't have outstanding looks, I don't have amazing skills, I can get to where I am today, all because of patience.
I believe:It's not that I'm not good enough, it's just that I'm not familiar with the world.
For us who are depressed, in the years of depressive episodes, we are indeed worse than dead, and our sensitivity once became a weapon to torture ourselves.
But this sensitivity also has a strong insight and delicate touch.
Did you find out?
Because of our innate sensitivity, we have faced many tests, and these have left a deeper imprint on us.
This means that our suffering is far deeper than that of others, and in the same way, our increased wisdom is not comparable to others.
There is a saying that whatever doesn't kill me will make me stronger.
That's true, so everyone who can come out of depression can be said to be reborn and reborn.
Depression is like a process of breaking oneself, and restructuring is our life problem, and we are slower than our peers.
But who says slow is a failure, a bad thing, or a bad performance?
But we have developed the most resilient core, we have born strength in fragility, and we have found a rhythm of life that suits us step by step.
As we all know, life is a marathon, and the fastest ones are those who have a rhythm.
Therefore, all the tribulations and sufferings of the present time will gradually be transformed into strength and wisdom in life, and these will guard us and allow us to firmly enjoy all the possibilities of life.
Finally, I would like to tell you that the most interesting thing about life is that until the last moment, you don't know if that experience is good or bad.
Therefore, it is true that we who are depressed are a little slower in the course of life, but in terms of future development, we are not inferior to anyone else.
And if you are miserable now, it is because you have not yet found the rhythm and the best distance to get along with the world, just give yourself time to slowly get familiar with the world.
The personality of the late stage is the eighth wonder of the world - the compound interest curveThe growth in the early stage is extremely slow, and after accumulating to an inflection point, it grows rapidly.
Let's get to the day when a miracle happens.