1. Practical interests and interpersonal relationships.
Socializing with people is inevitable in our lives. However, how do you maintain good relationships? One of the answers is: it is necessary to show real benefits.
This is not to say that all relationships should be utilitarian, but that the interests of the other person should be taken into account in the relationship.
Let's say you have a friend who is an artist and wants to create a large mural, but lacks space.
You happen to have a vacant lot that you can offer to have him create there.
That's a practical benefit. When you think more about others in your relationships, taking into account their needs and interests, people will naturally be more willing to associate with you.
Of course, that's not to say we're going to be too utilitarian. While helping others, you should also do what you can and do not sacrifice your own interests. Remember, good relationships are built on mutual benefits.
2. Feedback and gratitude.
When we get help from others, we must take the initiative to give back. It's not just a courtesy, it's a sign of gratitude.
Some people may take it for granted that others help them and therefore don't need to give anything back. This is wrong.
Imagine if you helped someone, but they didn't show anything, not even a word of thanks, what would you think? You may feel like you're being ignored for your efforts or even feel like you're doing something wrong.
In the same way, when you receive help from others, if you don't give the right feedback, others will feel the same way.
So, when someone helps you, whether it's a dinner, a small gift, or a simple thank you, it's a great way to give back.
This will not only show your gratitude, but also deepen your relationship.
3. The way of adult interaction.
Children always say, "I'm never going to be friends with you again" when they quarrel, but adults don't say that directly.
When a relationship goes awry, adults often choose to slowly distance themselves from each other rather than speak out.
This is because adults are more mature and sensible. They know that expressing it directly can hurt the other person and can also complicate things.
Therefore, they will choose to express their dissatisfaction and disappointment with actions. If you find that a friend is slowly starting to distance yourself from you, don't worry too much or question them impulsively.
Maybe they just need some time to process their emotions, or maybe they feel like something is wrong in your relationship.
You can try reaching out to them and asking them how they are doing to see if there's anything you can do to help. But if they still choose to distance themselves from you, you should also respect their decision.
4. Requests and expectations.
When we ask someone for help, if they don't say yes right away, most of the time it means to refuse.
This is because most people are reluctant to say no to someone in person, so they will choose to respond in silence or procrastination.
If you don't say yes right away when you ask someone for help, don't force it. This is not to say that the other person is not willing to help, but that the other person may need more time to think about it or that there are other reasons.
If you push too hard, you may make the other person feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. The best thing to do is to give the other person some time to think about it.
If the other party ultimately refuses your request, you need to respect the other person's decision and thank them for their consideration. At the same time, you should also reflect on whether your request is justified or whether you are looking for the wrong person.
The next time you ask someone for help, you can do your research ahead of time or find someone more suitable.
5. Measure money and feelings.
In Chinese culture, money is a very sensitive topic. Many people often measure the depth of their feelings for each other by their money.
It is better to give more money than to give less or not at all. This is because in Chinese culture, money is seen as a blessing or thanksgiving, as well as a symbol of social status.
If you give too little or no money, it may be perceived as disrespectful or emotional.
Interacting with people is an art that requires us to manage and maintain it with our hearts. In interpersonal communication, let us treat everyone with sincerity and kindness, and let good interpersonal relationships become the most valuable wealth in our lives.