Letters from parents
Hello teacher.
My child is 10 years old this year, and since he is a little older, the family has been jumping around a lot.
When the child saw me, he did it every day like an enemy.
He didn't listen to anything I said, and he retorted with confidence.
Sometimes it goes too far, and the child learns to run away from home.
I don't understand why my son, who was so obedient when he was a child, has become like this now?
Why is my relationship with my child so bad? It's really hard to raise a child.
Thank you, parent, for your trust.
A good parent-child relationship can often quickly show its positive impact in the process of educating children.
Conversely, when the parent-child relationship is strained, even simple everyday conversations can lead to conflict.
The relationship between parents and children is supposed to be one of the most intimate bonds in life.
But why do they sometimes become so distant?
An expert said this:"When a child is young, the main factor that determines the parent-child relationship comes from one parent. ”
Therefore, when we notice that our relationship with our children is getting worse and worse, we should deeply reflect on our own education.
Reasons why children have a bad relationship with their parents
1. Poor communication
The lack of effective communication between parents and children is a common cause of relationship tension.
Due to differences in language, culture, personality, etc., both parties may not be able to fully understand each other's thoughts and feelings, leading to misunderstandings and conflicts.
2. Excessive spoiling or strict requirements
Parents who spoil their children excessively or demand too much from their children can have a negative impact on their children's development.
Overly spoiling may lead to a child's lack of independence and responsibility, while overly strict demands can make the child feel depressed and dissatisfied.
3. Lack of companionship and attention
In modern society, many parents are unable to give their children enough companionship and attention because of work or other reasons.
This can lead to children feeling lonely and neglected, which can lead to resentment and resentment towards their parents.
4. Improper education methods
The way parents educate their children has a significant impact on their children's growth and development.
If parents often use inappropriate parenting methods such as scolding and threats, it may make children feel frightened and uneasy, which may lead to resentment and hostility towards their parents.
5. The family atmosphere is not harmonious
The disharmony in the family atmosphere is also one of the reasons for the poor relationship between children and their parents.
Bad atmospheres such as quarrels and cold wars in the family may make children feel uneasy and unhappy, which can lead to resentment and resentment towards their parents.
How should parents repair their relationship with their children?
When there is a problem in the relationship between parents and children, repairing the relationship requires effort and understanding from both parties.
Here are some suggestions to help parents improve their relationship with their children:
1. Establish effective communication
Actively listen to your child's thoughts and feelings, respect their opinions, and try to use calm and rational language when expressing your thoughts.
Through effective communication, misunderstandings and conflicts can be reduced, and understanding and trust between both parties can be enhanced.
2. Give children enough attention and companionship
Children need the attention and companionship of their parents to feel loved and secure.
Parents can arrange time to participate in activities and communicate with their children, so that children can feel the warmth and care of the family.
3. Respect children's individuality and wishes
Each child has their own personality and wishes, and parents should respect and understand their child's choices.
Don't interfere too much in your child's life and learning, give them the right amount of freedom and give them the opportunity to grow and develop on their own.
4. Adopt the right way of education
Parents need to adopt positive and encouraging education methods to guide their children to establish correct values and outlook on life.
Avoid using violence or threats to punish your child, but focus on the reasons behind their actions to help them understand and correct their mistakes.
5. Create a harmonious family atmosphere
The harmony of the family atmosphere has an important impact on the growth and development of children.
Parents should actively resolve family conflicts and problems and avoid quarrels or cold wars in front of their children. At the same time, family activities can be organized to enhance feelings and interactions between family members.
The child's problem is a mapping of the parent's problem!
Problems in the relationship between children and parents are often not one-sided.
Many times, the child's problem is actually a reflection of the parent's problem. As parents, we should not simply put the blame on our children, but should deeply reflect on our own actions and attitudes.
In homeschooling, the role of parents is crucial.
Our actions, words, and emotions can have a profound impact on our children.
If we don't give our children enough attention and love, or often quarrel and cold in front of them, then the child may become withdrawn, cold, and even have psychological problems.
Conversely, if we can give our children more attention and love, respect their individuality and wishes, and establish a good communication and trust relationship with them, then our children will also become more confident, cheerful and positive.
Therefore, as parents, we need to constantly examine our own behaviors and attitudes, and realize that our children's problems are actually a reflection of our parents' problems.
Only when we are truly aware of this can we better understand our children's needs and feelings and create a healthier and more harmonious family environment for them.
Only in this way can we truly be a guide for our children and help them grow into confident, independent and responsible individuals.
Let's work together to create a better tomorrow for our children's future.