There must be a difference in the comparison between people, and this difference is not small, especially the elderly who have experienced all kinds of ups and downs, some are indeed very powerful and smart, but there are also old people who are old and still do not live to understand.
I've observed that the really powerful elderly people basically do this!
There are always some elderly people around us who don't care so much about their children, and even if they know about some things, they will pretend not to see them.
Some people mistakenly think that such old people are too lazy and selfish to worry about their children, so is this really the case? I don't think so, in my opinion, as a wise old man, you should be like this, don't take care of your children in everything.
Just look back at these examples around us, like the kind of mother-in-law who is relatively strong, and the father-in-law and mother-in-law intervene in the marriage of their daughter and son-in-law at every turn, there are really few people who can still be happy like this.
When a person lives in this society, whether it is with relatives, colleagues, friends, or with one's own object, there will definitely be some contradictions between the two parties. These contradictions should be left to the parties and resolved by the parties themselves.
Because many of the older generation and the younger generation have different concepts and habits of life, as the older generation, if we intervene in the lives of our children at every turn, there will be more and more family conflicts, and more importantly, many times it is thankless, after all, what we want to give is not necessarily what the children want.
In the past, we were more flattering to raise children to prevent old age, but at this stage, if we still stay in this concept, it is easy to be under a lot of pressure in our later years.
The really powerful old people will plan their pension problems in advance, and will not pin all their hopes for the elderly on their children, but save money for the elderly or pay social security, and receive social security pensions in the future.
After all, the pressure on the children is not small now, completely dependent on the children to support themselves, even if the children are filial, but sometimes they are really powerless, in case of unluck, but also meet an ignorant daughter-in-law, then if you want to rely on your son and daughter-in-law to support the elderly, it will be even more difficult.
The elderly are already frail and sickly, and in the old age stage, various geriatric diseases will slowly begin to appear, so at this stage, it is normal to get sick occasionally.
If it was in the past, many families would not choose to give up even if they were poor, but basically they would not choose to give up, even if they smashed the pot and sold iron, or asked relatives to borrow money, anyway, they gritted their teeth and more or less had to make up for these medical expenses, unless the cost was very high, otherwise it was really rare to see the situation of choosing to give up**.
But now it's different, regardless of whether the children choose to give up **, but many elderly people have their own opinions, if they are seriously ill and need to borrow money everywhere to be treated, they basically will not choose to continue**. On the one hand, I am afraid that if it is not cured, the money will be spent, and the time will be empty. On the other hand, I don't want to be in the last stage, just to prolong the life time that doesn't have much quality of life, and it doesn't seem worth it to put the whole family in debt and drag down the whole family.
To put it bluntly, if your pension is enough to spend, or even too much to spend, plus your body is still relatively healthy and you can take care of yourself in life, in this case, many elderly people, including their children, are eager to live a long life.
It's a pity that not every old man will have this state, some of the elderly have little pension, some have no pension at all, of course, some are frail and sick, and even sick in bed all year round, and some of the more serious life can not take care of themselves.
If the pressure of providing for the elderly is particularly high, and they are not able to take care of themselves in life and need to rely on their children to take care of them, they are not very eager to live a long life in this situation, because they have not lived one more day, which is actually more or less a kind of pressure for their children. Because of this, more and more people have begun to call for stepping up legislation to legalize "euthanasia".
Around us, some parents will prefer sons over daughters, and some parents will be more partial to love a certain child, since as parents can't do a bowl of water. So as children, some children are not so filial, which is also a reasonable performance.
Therefore, some children are not very filial, and if the elderly do not keep it confidential and disclose everything, sometimes it is easier to suffer.