In Eileen Chang's "The First Incense", there are two beautiful young women, Peep and Eye, who work as domestic servants next to Mrs. Leung. She works hard, is witty and intelligent, and with her intelligence, she gradually gains the trust of Mrs. Leung. However, for the same profession, the end result is very different.
In Mrs. Liang's life, his eyes are big and his mouth is very flexible, so he has a very smooth life by Mrs. Liang's side. After seeing that he was fired, he felt guilty. However, Mrs. Leung reprimanded him harshly and subsequently fired him. He is not good at reflection and always thinks that he can do anything. In fact, her mistakes in interpersonal communication and handling of affairs are largely related to her lack of clarity about herself.
He speaks straightforwardly and lacks basic emotional intelligence.
Compared to looking from above, observation is like a bamboo tube pouring beans – straight to the point. Ge Weilong's mother, Ge Lianzhi, was a very cultured woman. Ge Weilong's first visit to his aunt's home was mainly to observe and receive her. In the living room, she saw Ge Weilong. Wei Long sat alone in the living room waiting for her aunt, and from the words she said to Pee'er, it was clear that she was a girl with no emotional intelligence and no mind.
After pouring tea for Weilong, Wangwang and Peep began a relaxed conversation without any scruples. Look at it, this Mrs. Liang is really a housewife who is good at hiding her thoughts, she seems to be gentle and virtuous, but she is actually scheming. Of course, their owner, Mrs. Leung, would always talk behind her back. Jian Jian frowned, and couldn't help but be a little surprised in his heart, Wei Long's words revealed the dissatisfaction of the Qiao family's young grandmother with Mrs. Liang. She said with a smile: Qiao's family, you kid, you've vomited enough! Wei Long sighed, a hint of helplessness flashing in his eyes. I originally thought that the young grandmother had lost her mind, but I didn't expect that a witty person like her still couldn't jump out of his palm!
The peep standing next to her hurriedly warned her: Forget it, don't chew your tongue any more, because there may be other people inside.
You see, when confronted with strangers, he is unabashed and bluntly discusses his master. Her bluntness embarrassed the people around her, who often didn't know how to respond. Despite her kindness, she is not popular.
As Wei Long left and opened the latch, the horn of a car suddenly sounded outside the gate, and it turned out to be Mrs. Liang returning. As soon as she entered, she saw a child sitting on the floor, holding a cigarette in his hand, chewing something in his mouth, as if waiting for his mother to return. The squint suddenly came out of nowhere, and quickly ran down the stone steps, shouting happily as he ran: The young woman has returned! She's here to buy a gift for the young grandmother? Return after the milk is reduced!
The observer standing by the door not only did not greet Mrs. Liang, but looked at her back coldly and said mockingly: Even a trivial thing is worth sacrificing one's life and scrambling to win a championship! Mrs. Liang sighed softly, with a faint worry on her face. Usually I'm just a servant, but I don't appreciate that humble image! Mrs. Liang listened to the words, her face sank, but she did not respond. After saying this, he walked away on his own.
In front of Pee'er, she told Mrs. Liang's jokes, and behind her back, she said that she looked down on her, and she said all the ideas in her heart and put them into practice. Mrs. Liang was secretly vigilant in her heart, and her attitude towards Jian'er was more cautious, and she was unwilling to show her heart easily. Obviously, she did not receive Mrs. Leung's high esteem, and it was impossible for her to become close friends with Overlook.
This type of girl has neither scheming nor a complete lack of interpersonal skills. She is always alone, not good at words, and not good at handling things, so she naturally becomes a weakness in the team. If a person can't get along well with his friends and keep pace with his boss, then it's hard for him to achieve significant things in that place.
If you don't see your owner as important, it's hard to see who you really are.
In the early morning of the day after Wei Long's second stay in Liang Mansion, we witnessed this scene again. "Miss Liang, why are you still here? Mrs. Liang took off her shoes and sat on the sofa with her legs crossed, smoking while using words.
The person who observes mahjong leans against the table and casually throws the mahjong into the rosewood box, making a rattling sound.
When Wei Long stepped into the room, his eyes mistakenly thought that Mrs. Liang had finished speaking, so he turned around and prepared to leave.
However, Mrs. Liang stopped him and continued to mention: Regarding the past between you and Qiao Qi, I have decided not to mention it again. I know you're feeling bad, but we can't always run away. I've scolded many times, but I've only been listening to the wind. But I don't understand why you're doing that. I'm forbidding the young man to come to the door now, and you're secretly looking for him. I'm fed up with your attitude. Sorry, I really don't know! I know you're guilty of being cheap, but I can't embarrass you. You are so humble, so accommodating to him! You can't see his mind, but I can see it. Innate little girl traits!
When Mrs. Liang saw that she had clashed with her master without showing weakness, she jumped up in anger and slapped Mrs. Liang hard.
At this moment, not only did he not restrain his emotions, but he lost control of his emotions and asked Mrs. Liang loudly: Who else dares to make trouble in front of you? Hearing this, Mrs. Liang sneered, her eyes swept over everyone, but she saw that there were many shadows in the corner of the hall, and a strange figure was gradually revealed. It's just the car driver of the Qiao family. Mrs. Liang's face turned blue with excitement from these words, and a trace of anger flashed in her eyes. Every member of the Qiao family, whether old or young, you are fully responsible. And his seventh young grandmother's new young master, I'm afraid you have already decided in advance. Mrs. Liang's face turned blue and was furious. Even if it's a coachman, you won't let it go easily. I'm not afraid of you beating or scolding. If you attack me, then you just have to hit me! You know in your heart that I've done everything I can for this family. Please don't let me tell you good things again!
This resilient young woman seems to be in the dark about her social status and identity. She has a free-spirited temperament, as if she is her own master and is not bound by anyone. In Mrs. Liang's family, she was just a maid, and she worked a job in the Liang family and earned a penny. There is a flame of unyielding burning in her heart, she longs for freedom, longs to break free from the shackles of Yahuan's identity. She could never sit on the same level as Mrs. Leung, but she did not see Mrs. Leung as her master, nor did she consider herself a part-time maid.
Mrs. Leung's clever use of the young girl in the family to attract her boyfriend, although she is not happy with this, she does not know how to make a detour or how to back down, which causes her to lose her job opportunity and thus angers the family.
However, Mrs. Leung said to me in a calm manner, you have left me, don't try to find a job opportunity in Hong Kong. It was as if my heart was being crushed by a stone. Your mother and seven or eight other children want me to promote you, and I dare not take you home against my will for strict management.
After the incident, the audience who realized the seriousness of the incident cried angrily, but it was not too early. Mrs. Leung cried to death in the house. Offended Mrs. Liang, the only result was to be fired, and then obediently went home with her mother.
There is deep affection for illusory love, and the heart is higher than the sky.
Although her appearance gives a sense of straightforwardness and toughness, she also has her own thoughts and plans. She secretly planned in her heart that if she could marry a wealthy gentleman, she might be able to change her fate. She dreams of marrying a wealthy man like Mrs. Leung and eventually becoming the mistress of the family. When dealing with each other in private, she is always cautious, for fear of being discovered by Mrs. Liang or Qiao Qiqiao. Therefore, she did not tell Mrs. Liang to have a secret relationship with Qiao Qiqiao's frivolous rich son.
But she never thought that the men that Mrs. Liang fancied were frivolous, how could they really be tempted by a girl like her? Georgie Qiao is well aware of her identity and does not want to be put in an inappropriate position. When Mrs. Liang reprimanded her, she mentioned that if I were so accommodating to Qiao Qiqiao, Qiao Qiqiao might not accept me yet! She has an unwillingness in her heart, feeling that she is not a girl's embryo, why should she be at the mercy of others? Even though I'm not a little girl, people still don't dare to ask me for advice. She looked gloomily at the needle and thread in her hand, bitter in her heart. I really don't understand why!
It is clear that the observer blames Mrs. Leung for his failure in the search for his ideal partner. She thought that Mrs. Liang was a gentle, virtuous and cultured woman, but she could not accept such a husband. Therefore, when facing Mrs. Liang, he did not flinch, and made all her affairs public, and did not feel relieved until he completely angered her.
It must be admitted that although the method of observation seems ingenious, the actual operation appears to be very unskillful. She knew in her heart that relying on marrying a rich man was not a long-term solution. As a maid, she failed to fulfill her job duties properly, and blatantly clashed with her master's family, only to suffer a miserable defeat in the end. In order to change his fate, he decided to no longer rely on his son-in-law. As a young woman, the attempt to rely on a wealthy husband to change her destiny is fraught with great risks.
Therefore, in front of Wei Long, he would say to Mrs. Liang in a vengeful tone: I will not necessarily be short! Mrs. Liang's heart sank after hearing this, and a sharp look flashed in her eyes. The people who replaced the work arrived early. This time, the son can be satisfied, his own blood and bones, the family lives affectionately, and the fat and water do not flow into the fields of outsiders. This time, I am really grateful that my family all live so passionately and do not let excess fertilizer flow into their fields.
Compared to strabismus, his observation ability is significantly inferior! Under the mask of hypocrisy, she thinks she is superior, but she unknowingly falls into the role she hates. She used that mouth to pick out the most touching words, claiming that they would not win people's affection at all. The owner didn't like her double standards, so he often made her suffer behind closed doors. She has a contemptuous attitude towards the servility of her master, and yet she is engaged in servile work. As a servant, she has a contemptuous attitude towards her servants, which also leads to her inability to earn the trust and satisfaction of her master.
From this point of view, although she looks at her fate as a maid, she is more inclined to rely on men to gain power through Mrs. Liang's way. Her life was destined to deal with men. Her heart is higher than the sky, which is her greatest weakness. She's stupid because of her "stupidity".The word "stupid" is her biggest characteristic. She is stupid because she doesn't know how to make concessions at the right time, thus maintaining a kind of human freedom and stability.
It is necessary to face the fact that in this particular historical period, girls know how to guard themselves and avoid needless conflicts with fate so that they can live a peaceful life. So, girls like to do small things, like, do one thing. However, in the long run, not much is considered.
On the day his mother took him away, he turned his head and looked unconcerned when he saw that Mrs. Leung had just threatened him. She silently chewed those peanuts, but her heart was full of helplessness and grievances. Her eyes were red and swollen with tears, and her face was expressionless, but she was chewing peanuts in her mouth. Therefore, if a woman does not learn her lessons and sum up her experience, her fate may be adversely affected!