If you have these seven emotions in your marriage, it means that your relationship is about to break down.
1. I always feel that the other party is very useless and can't do anything.
Xiaoqing and Xiaoliang have been married for 15 years, but their relationship gradually faded after giving birth to a child. Two people will quarrel because of a dispute between children or mother-in-law. We were together every day, but it always seemed like we were arguing. There will be a big war every three days. If it's not there. Children, the two have long since divorced.
Xiao Qing didn't have any expectations for Xiaolian since he was a child. Because when Xiao Qing was taking care of the child, whenever the child was unwell, she would always call Xiaolian **. Xiao Qing didn't answer. Or sometimes when he picked up **, the company was too busy, and Mr. Xiaoqing could only take the baby to the doctor by himself, and whenever Mr. Xiaolian needed it, he was not with her. 。
When Xiaoqing was pregnant with her second child, Xiaoqing was about to give birth, but Xiaoli was busy with work. Xiaoqing was scared and wanted someone to be by her side to give her courage, but it had been a few hours since Xiaolian gave birth to the child. Hurry up, Xiao Qing won't bother Xiaolian in the future, she will become more and more independent.
Xiao Qing felt that although she was needed, she was not there. Sometimes even small things need his help. If Xiaolian helps, Xiaoqing will feel more and more tired and need his help. Why did Xiaolian do this? For example, when Xiaoqing asks Xiaolian to clean up the house, Xiaolian will say that he made the house very dirty and bought a lot of unnecessary things. I asked Xiaolian if she thought she was doing better, but he still didn't like it.
Xiaoqing felt that Xiao Liang's existence was worthless, and it didn't matter if he was there.
2.You feel that chatting with your partner is a waste of time, and the thought of talking to him makes you tired.
You don't want to talk to your partner and find it troublesome to talk to him. "It's a waste of time. You are so tired of talking to him that you feel as if you are talking to him. He will never understand the meaning of every word you say. If you say it over and over again. I don't think you want to say that. "Tell him. Talking to him can affect your mood. When the two of them were talking, their moods became very nervous. Oops, you're avoiding talking to him.
But the relationship between husband and wife is more about communication, and if you don't communicate for a long time, when there are conflicts and other situations, emotions will explode. If your partner is in this situation, you can express your thoughts, and if you don't want to face them, you can express it by texting.
3. There are some things you don't want to say, or you find it troublesome, or even feel that there is no need to say it.
When you have a problem that needs to be solved, you have to solve it. "You don't want to talk to him, you don't think there's any point in talking to him, yes, he doesn't understand what you think at all, you think the exact opposite of him, anyway, you're all right. "You don't discuss it with him, you make your own decisions as if it has nothing to do with him.
4. Do you think there is no need to apologize to the other party and admit your mistakes?
In a conflict, both sides are clearly at fault, but there is no need for either side to admit their mistakes. "It's not my fault, it's the other person's fault. "There is no right or wrong answer to marriage, it's a matter of mentality. If you think this is your relationship, mislead the other person. If you truly love someone, you will care about the other person's feelings, you will regret it, you will always apologize to him when you make a mistake, and even if you are not wrong, you will admit it. With him.
5.Feeling like you have nothing to do with your partner. No matter what you do, the other person will not change.
Every couple faces difficulties and challenges in their little life. When one party feels unable to change their minds, the other party's words, demeanor, demeanor, and emotions may quietly tilt. Junjun asked her husband repeatedly, "Can't you do this?" The husband looked at her helplessly. "I've said it many times, but I'm going to do it my way. Junjun took a deep breath, "I know that things won't really turn out this way, and we should work together to solve the problem, not focus on it." I must. The husband didn't answer, just kept his head down. The moment he held the book in his hand, Junjun felt more helpless than ever. He understands his husband. I tried to change my husband but didn't. No matter what I do, my wife's attitude has not changed.
6. You don't have any feelings for the other person, you just lose the freshness. I don't know what's wrong with him, but I just feel awkward when I'm with him.
You will lose the freshness. You are no longer a stranger to him, but you are no longer a stranger to him. I was bored and didn't want to talk to him. You don't want to do anything intimate with him. When he wants to have some kind of contact with you, you avoid and don't mind him having that contact with you. He didn't do anything wrong, but you always feel that he is missing something, and when you are together, not only is it not easy, but it feels awkward.
7.When you see other people on the street, you wonder if it's better to be with your partner after a divorce.
If you are unhappy with your partner, when you look at other people on the street, when you get married, you will realize that if you are not married to your lover, you will be better and happier with your lover. You might think so. Get along well with others.
Be careful if your marriage is experiencing any of the above seven emotions, which means your relationship is on the verge of failure. If you want to cherish the relationship, manage it well. Because every relationship is unique and has its challenges. I learned to communicate, understand, and accept. If you try to understand the other person's position and feelings, you may find that you actually have the same goals. Behind the stubbornness and tenacity of the other party, there is a kind of helplessness and expectation.