Psychologist Yu Deji said: "There are always challenges in life, and the challenges themselves do not bring pain, but the internal friction caused by self-struggle is the root cause of pain." ”
People with serious internal friction often have distracting thoughts in their hearts, repeatedly think about people and things, and are overly entangled, so they indulge in the cage of emotions and suffer unbearable.
In fact, when the heart is simple, things become simple; Distractions are let go, and life becomes easier.
If you want to live a better and better life, start by staying away from these 3 internal frictions.
Only by staying away from emotional internal friction can we focus on doing things
A writer once said: "The so-called dilemma of life is nothing but the shackles you set up by your cranky thoughts." ”
Sometimes, the difficulties we encounter are not what really traps us, but the shackles of our inner thinking.
Indulging in gains and losses, it will be difficult; Focusing on the smallest details will inevitably lead to exhaustion.
This feeling of internal friction is like two villains fighting fiercely inside, feeling physically and mentally exhausted every day, even though they are actually doing nothing.
Some scholars have done a psychological emotional experiment:
Two newborn sheep were placed in different environments.
One of them is free-roaming in the vast grasslands, running freely every day.
The other was chained to a stake with a wolf tethered to it, though the wolf could not reach it.
After some time, the free sheep grew up healthy.
However, the tethered sheep unfortunately died, not being devoured by wolves, but in the face of the vicious wolf, full of fear in his heart, he had no intention of eating, and finally died of excessive anxiety.
Therefore, the length of a person's life and the success of his career are closely related to the quality of his emotions.
I agree with the saying: "There is no thing that destroys a person more than emotional internal friction." ”
When we are facing difficulties, internal friction is the most dangerous enemy.
Once we fall into the whirlpool of internal friction, even small things can turn into huge disasters; Even the brightest minds can become confused; Even if the route ahead is clear, it will be obscured by thick fog.
Really powerful people have long learned to abandon emotional internal friction, focus on their own things, and grow towards the sun.
Without the drag of internal friction, the journey of life will become lighter, smoother, and closer to happiness.
Only by staying away from family internal friction can we reap happiness
Zhu Zi's family motto has a cloud: "The family is harmonious, although the food is not good, there is also joy." ”
The unity of the family is like a strong glue that binds the hearts of the family members together.
Such a family, filled with laughter and laughter every day, usually brings about a continuous rise in the family's fortune.
On the contrary, if there is a lack of unity among family members, it is like a plate of loose sand that cannot withstand the test of wind and rain.
In the TV series "Thirty Only", Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan were originally a couple with both talents and good looks and a successful career, and their family lived a happy life.
However, everything was ruined by each other's unsupport and incomprehension.
Xu Huanshan regards the fireworks business as his dream and has been committed to designing stunning blue fireworks. But Gu Jia was not optimistic and stopped Xu Huanshan's pursuit.
Gu Jia hopes to win more business for the company and enter the upper class. However, Xu Huanshan thought that Gu Jia was too vain and produced blue fireworks privately, which deviated from Gu Jia's expectations.
Although Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan seem to be in love on the surface, in fact, they never really consider each other's feelings. Eventually, it led to the breakdown of the family and the collapse of the company.
Husbands and wives go through the journey of life together, and if they do not understand and support each other, they will inevitably go down the wrong path and tear the family apart.
True happiness can only be achieved between family members, whether in career or in life, by supporting each other.
As the writer Yishu said: "The biggest mistake people make every day is to be too polite to strangers and too harsh to close people." ”
We tend to show a respectful posture in front of outsiders, but we seem to be arrogant and unreasonable to our family members.
He gives patience and kindness to others, but behaves unusually hard with his loved ones.
The family is a harbor, not a battlefield.
We are all people who love each other the most, not enemies who fight each other.
Quit internal friction in order to be full of happiness.
Stay away from social internal friction and reap a refreshing life
Teacher Ma Weidu once said: "People are mixed in society, and dullness is more important than sensitivity." ”
A truly mature person will not keep his troubles in his heart and ponder them repeatedly, but know how to say no to internal friction.
Life is too short to learn to please yourself rather than blindly pandering to others.
Jia Pingwa was so afraid of someone knocking on the door for a while that he moved five times.
Those who came to visit him all valued his talent and connections, and sought his help.
At the beginning, in order not to disappoint others, Jia Pingwa also met them very politely.
However, as more and more people came knocking on the door, and all kinds of unreasonable demands increased, his patience was gradually exhausted.
So, he made a rule: no door will be opened without an appointment.
Since then, knocks have decreased dramatically. Jia Pingwa finally has more time to focus on his career and life.
If a person always ignores his own inner needs and cares too much about the thoughts of others, then he will fall into the quagmire of social internal friction for the rest of his life.
Yang Lan said: "To evaluate the quality of a relationship, it depends on whether the two people in the relationship become a better version of themselves because they are together. ”
A good relationship is mutually nourishing and mutually fulfilling, while a painful relationship only wears each other out.
Only by leaving those who consume you can you meet those who nourish you and reap a refreshing life.
As the saying goes: "Those who have a heart are tired, and those who have no heart do not care." ”
Life is always full of confusion, we often hesitate, sometimes cowardly, rather than not retreating, it is better not to break or stand, first destroy everything in internal friction, and then establish a new inner order.
The happiness of life sometimes lies in emptiness.
You don't have to think too much, you don't have to worry about yourself, you can look at the world with a simple mindset, and you can get a peaceful and happy time in the complicated world.
Encourage your friends.
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