How can one achieve a successful and happy life?
In Charlie Munger's latest interview, the 99-year-old Munger has a very touching piece of advice:
Don't wrestle with pigs. Losing money is going to get toxic people out of your life. The sooner the better! ”
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wrestling with pigs, you get nothing but soiling yourself;
Associate with poisonous people, except for "poisoning", you will get nothing but "poisoning".
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Once you understand the truth of anything, no matter what price you pay, you must have the determination to stop the loss in time. ”
Life is expensive, don't waste it on people who don't deserve it.
Especially the following three types of people, you must stay away.
Stay away from people who don't know how to be grateful
There is a saying: There are three kinds of people who cannot be with him, one is ungrateful, one is unfaithful and unfilial, and the other is mad. ”
If you go near those who do not know how to be grateful, you will suffer.
When Muzi first graduated, his salary was not high, and he basically had nothing left of his monthly salary except for food, clothing, and rent.
In that situation, a friend of Muzi told her that something had happened at home and wanted to ask Muzi to borrow a few thousand yuan.
Muzi didn't think much about it, and without hesitation, she transferred her salary for that month to this friend.
A few months later, Muzi received a reminder from the loan platform**.
It turned out that her friend had borrowed a lot of money on the loan platform, and the emergency contact person was filled in Muzi.
The loan platform couldn't contact the friend, so she could only call Muzi ** and ask her to contact the party to repay the loan.
For two months in a row, Muzi was bombarded with money reminders every day, which made her physically and mentally exhausted.
Muzi had no choice but to contact her friend.
Unexpectedly, my friend not only denied that he had borrowed a loan, but also threatened:
Isn't it just a few thousand dollars owed to you? As for the fact that you didn't come to urge me again, it's really not enough friends! ”
Send another message to this friend, Muzi has been blocked.
There is a saying: "The so-called soft-hearted is to hand a knife to someone else and stab yourself, and it is ungrateful, and nothing more than that." ”
The biggest mistake of a person in this life is to pay the wrong person who will take revenge.
You give kind help to others without expecting anything in return, but you can't guarantee that the evil in human nature will not bite you back.
People who don't know how to be grateful have their hearts like iron and stone, and they can't melt no matter how they cover them.
Once, Yang Jiang's family was forced to live with his colleague Zhao Xiangfeng and his wife, and Yang Jiang took great care of their family.
Zhao Xiangfeng is busy with work and has no time to watch the children, so Yang Jiang often helps her take the children with her;
Zhao Xiangfeng is not good at housework, so Yang Jiang helped her build a stove and make a fire to cook ......
But Zhao Xiangfeng not only did not feel grateful, but also had to inch in.
Once, Zhao Xiangfeng asked Yang Jiang's daughter Qian Ying to help wash clothes, but Qian Ying felt unreasonable and politely refused.
Zhao Xiangfeng thought that Qian Ying didn't give her face, and scolded her until a scuffle.
Afterwards, Zhao Xiangfeng kept verbally attacking and abusing Yang Jiang's family, thinking that he had been greatly wronged.
After this incident, Yang Jiang's family decided to cut off contact with Zhao Xiangfeng.
People who don't know how to be grateful, no matter how much they ask, they feel that they deserve it.
When I suffered a little loss, I felt that I had suffered the greatest injustice in the world.
Being merciful to the ungrateful is like cutting your own flesh to feed to a wolf, and instead of being satisfied, they want to gnaw your bones to the fullest.
To the ungrateful, giving oneself good will only nourish their evil side.
Staying away from people who don't know how to be grateful is not only the best protection for yourself, but also a responsibility to others.
Stay away from people with "poisonous mouth".
In life, it is not difficult for us to encounter such a situation:
When you are just praised by the leader, some people will say, "What's so great about this", and the joy will be shattered instantly;
When you wear a good-looking skirt, you are said to "dare to wear a skirt with such short legs", and the good mood immediately fell to the freezing point;
After making friends of the opposite sex, some people spread all kinds of harsh gossip, and the original pure friendship changed ...... in an instant
As the saying goes: good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June.
People with poisonous mouths, inside and outside of words, are critical of others; In the name of kindness, he said stinging words.
Miss Lin went home on May Day, and when she rarely had time to go home, she accompanied her mother to go shopping.
When I was shopping happily, I met my neighbor Aunt Wang.
As soon as Aunt Wang came up, she chattered at Miss Lin:
How did you get fat like this, no wonder you're single! ”
I heard that you want to learn to draw, what's the use, it's better to learn something that can make money, otherwise all these years of reading will be in vain! ”
You don't come back often to look down on us, people with jobs, it's really amazing! ”
The rambling is endless.
Miss Lin was very angry when she heard this, and wanted to fight back and scold back.
But her mother tugged at her sleeve and stopped him.
Mother said that Aunt Wang also cared about her and asked her not to care about these words.
But these words, like a bloodless needle that kills people, pierced Miss Lin's heart one by one, making her unable to calm down for a long time.
Writer Zhou Yu said: "Kindness needs to be shown through good words, and there is malice under evil words." ”
All advice must be based on respect and understanding, otherwise, it will be a naked injury.
The evil in a person's mouth is the embodiment of the darkness in his heart.
A netizen once wrote a heart-piercing story.
A few years ago, his distant cousin married a wealthy businessman and lived happily ever after.
After their children went to school, their idle cousin and a friend partnered to start an advertising agency.
Soon a large order was signed, and in order to celebrate the good news, my cousin traveled abroad with her friends.
During this time, my cousin shared some sun, beach and food in the family group.
When netizens were happily browsing these **, two vicious messages suddenly popped up in the group:
She's just married to a rich man, what's there to show off! ”
made netizens feel happy, but they were a little overwhelmed for a while.
The harm to the parties can be imagined.
I've read a sentence:
For the sake of an emotional catharsis and purpose, even if it is a righteous purpose and a high-level emotion, like a wheel, it is another kind of anger. ”
Some angry people do not sprinkle salt on your wounds, but first chisel out the wounds for you, and then put some salt.
The best way to avoid getting hurt is to invite people with "poisonous mouth" out of their lives.
Take the initiative to stay away from people who speak badly, so that the lake in your heart will not be disturbed often, and you can better enjoy this wonderful world.
Stay away from people who complain all the time
A writer who once studied in South Korea met several Chinese students like him.
As soon as these people sit together, they start to complain in turn, and they all talk the same thing, but they never get tired of it.
No one in the circle dared to be absent every time, and if anyone was not present, that person would surely become the object of complaint.
From the beginning to the end, everyone rushed to pour the bitter water in their hearts, and they kept going.
So every meeting was a long ordeal for him.
A few years later, he returned to China to invite one of his former classmates to dinner.
Not long after he sat down, his classmate began to complain again, as if the negative energy of the whole world was condensed on him.
To his surprise, he was also "naturally" complaining - he was taken aback by the fact that he was "assimilated".
So he hastened to settle the bill, and politely sent the classmate away, determined never to have any contact with those people again.
Man is a product of the environment, don't overestimate your ability to conquer the environment.
A person's tolerance for the complaining person is to invisibly allow negative energy to destroy one's own life.
Over time, you will fall into an endless dark zone.
On Zhihu, a netizen talked about such a thing.
She has a friend Xiao A who has known her for more than ten years, and she likes to complain the most.
complaining about school when I go to school, complaining about classmates when I don't get along well with classmates;
went to work and complained about the company, and the two chatted, basically Xiao A was complaining.
Xiao A asked her about things, and she almost didn't give a clear answer, so she could only reply to emojis, because if the advice given to her was wrong, Xiao A would complain again.
At first, she thought that her friend just loved to complain, but later she became pessimistic and negative, and even misanthropy, she completely blocked her.
There is a saying, "When we complain about not having shoes, we find that some people have no feet." ”
People who love to complain are lacking in their hearts, so they must use the way of provoking the outside world to satisfy the holes in their hearts.
For example, a person who feels powerless about his work complains about the unfairness of the system, but in fact he is helpless about his own incompetence;
A person who always talks about his friend's shortcomings and faults is actually a cover ...... for his own lack of goodness
If complaining becomes a habit, it is like the mind is locked, and there is no moment of relief. ”
We can't change others, but we also don't have the responsibility to bear the shackles of others, and we have to prevent ourselves from being infected and wear this lock.
Stay away from people who are always complaining, the sooner the better.
There is a saying: the way to keep yourself from being sad is to stay away from some right and wrong, and avoid some people. ”
Life in the world, ** like weaving.
We can't choose what kind of people we want to be in our lives, but we can always choose what kind of people we don't associate ourselves with.
Invite toxic people out of our lives, and life will be different.
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