As the saying goes, "A good man doesn't marry a tiger thorn plum, and a good woman doesn't marry a streamer hammer", what does it mean?
Whether in ancient or modern society, marriage is a very important thing for everyone. Thus, the aborigines summed it up"Good men don't marry tigers, and good women don't marry fluorescent hammers"This sentence is a warning to future generations.
What do the tiger thorns and flowing hammers refer to in this proverb? Why do Aborigines advise men and women to avoid both groups of people when making their choices?
Heroes don't suffer immediate losses.
The most important thing is that a good man will not marry a tiger and leopard grass. Tiger Wanjin is actually a creeping clump of plants, and although it looks beautiful on the surface, it is actually densely covered with spikes on the branches at the roots.
Not only that, but this plant has even more flowers than lotuses"It can be viewed from a distance and not blasphemed"and has a certain toxicity.
If we consider the characteristics of this flower in relation to women, it is clear why the aborigines advise good men not to marry tiger and leopard flowers.
Think about it, how should a woman with a beautiful appearance and a strong personality adapt after marriage? Don't think about the fairytale love between them, the country is easy to change, and the nature is difficult to change.
Even if the character image is acceptable, what about the heart? Take Pan Jinlian in "Water Margin" as an example, she is a living tiger thorn plum.
When she lied to Ximen Qing, her husband Wu Dalang was injured. Pan Jinlian didn't feel the slightest guilt, she even thought of this:"Dalang, it's time to take medicine"
An elixir box drops, and a life disappears. Such things may rarely happen in real life, but tigers are poisonous, and who doesn't feel the thrill of the heart?
So, don't marry a millionaire, no matter how good-looking you are, you can't compromise. Especially when the purpose of marriage is to support each other and move forward together, but you want to find a woman who will destroy the family?
Maybe someone will use the one in the Book of Songs"My Fair Lady, Gentleman"to oppose it. After all, everyone has a love for beauty, and who can control it.
What's more, if you don't spend a lot of time together, you won't realize what kind of people you are for each other.
However, it is worth noting that in the Book of Songs, the ancients emphasized the character of the woman rather than the appearance. The so-called lady is knowledgeable, kind-hearted, and has a heart like an orchid. Just looking at appearances is very vulgar.
I feel sorry for many scholars in ancient and modern times who regard vulgarity as vulgar. The ancients have long warned people today to learn a lesson. A lesson from the past, a teacher for the future. If a person insists on going his own way, it will be too late to regret it.
A good woman does not marry a bad man.
Secondly,"A good woman doesn't marry a water hammer"The water hammer is also known as the cold weapon used by the military generals of the former dynasty.
At first glance, this cold weapon looks colorful and complex, but it is much more difficult to use than you think.
This design is particularly heavy on the head and is not suitable for generals to exert their strength. If you see such a ** on the battlefield, you can roughly estimate the real combat effectiveness of the opponent's generals.
It is used as a metaphor for men, referring to men who are outwardly outwardly distinguished but not on the outside. It looks attractive, but it doesn't really do anything.
In ancient societies, men were usually breadwinners due to time constraints, while women relied on men for survival.
However, if a man is always inconsistent and does not give a woman a real sense of security, then he is not destined to end well. Even if a woman decides to follow a man for the rest of her life, she can only be destitute.
If you don't earn enough money to support your family, if you're irresponsible, if you don't work all day, it's scary to think about. So the aborigines firmly believe that a woman should not marry such a man.
Even if the other party is a wealthy gentleman, there is no need to gamble on how long you can maintain a happy marriage and spend the rest of your life squandering the other party's family property.
Isn't that the richness in "Alive"? He is obviously a rich young master from a landlord family, but he gambled and gambled and squandered his family property.
What's more interesting is"I was in a lot of debt during this time, but my calligraphy improved a lot"This sentence. When he had to move out of his ancestral house, did anyone sympathize with him?
Luckily, Fugui eventually learned to repent, and although his life was miserable, at least he survived.
But can gambling addicts really be able to lose everything? It's not that it's not impossible, it's just rare. If a woman marries such a man, what is the point of living in fear after marriage?
As the saying goes,"A good woman doesn't marry a fluorescent hammer"。If you do twist it, no one can help you.
Marriage is never a whimsical choice or decision. In the long journey of life, both men and women want to find someone who can be with them for a lifetime.
Speaking of which, why not listen to the lessons of those who have gone before us? On paper, I finally feel shallow, and I never know that I have to do it. If you really want to learn in life, you will definitely go through hardships.