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Some people use a pyramid to describe the Spring Festival of middle-aged people:
The Chinese New Year is the most lively and festive day of the year, but when it comes, many people fall into all kinds of anxiety:
Always compare consumption, worried that the things you buy are worse than others; wandering around various dinners, for fear of missing the opportunity to make contacts; I can't let go of things at work, for fear that I will be too slack ...... vacation
Have a good Spring Festival, because you carry too much, and the result is both troublesome and painful.
When people reach middle age, the burden is already very heavy, and at the end of the year, don't embarrass yourself anymore.
It's a good idea to unload your baggage and let your body and mind relax.
You will find that the "lying flat" New Year often has a different taste.
Materially lying flat.
Some people say that earning money is like picking up soil with a needle, and the expenses of the New Year are like pushing sand with water.
As soon as the Chinese New Year arrives, it enters the peak season of consumption.
Especially for middle-aged people with a good face, after working hard outside for a year, they always want to come back for the New Year in style.
So every year, many people have to change their famous brands from beginning to end, with famous watches.
In addition, high-end tobacco and alcohol are naturally indispensable, and two pieces of jewelry have to be purchased, and even a luxury car has to be bought to drive back ......
How many people have saved up for a year, and most of them have been squandered in just a few days.
As a result, he became materially rich, but he overdrew his money, and even affected his quality of life.
Dale Carnegie once said, "Many of the troubles in reality arise from the fact that we blindly compare ourselves with others and forget to enjoy our own lives." ”
Don't put so much effort into comparison, and there's no need to spend lavishly.
The meaning of the New Year has never been whether the material is abundant, but whether the family is happy.
Physicist Yang Zhenning has lived overseas all the year round, but he has always retained the habit of celebrating the Spring Festival.
Every year for the Chinese New Year, he has a very simple life.
In addition to daily New Year's goods, he never spends too much and buys a lot of things that he doesn't need.
During the Spring Festival, he never went to a restaurant to eat, and mostly took charge of his own cooking, stir-frying a few home-cooked side dishes.
The family sat around the dinner table, young and old, smiling and smiling.
Yang Zhenning said frankly that simplicity is true, the New Year's flavor is reunion, it is a comfortable life, and in terms of material, it is enough to meet basic needs.
Writer Mayumi Kawa said:
Owning an item is equivalent to expending energy on the item;
Whether you are happy in life is not about how many things you have, but how much time you have to be happy.
During the Spring Festival, too much squandering and blindly pursuing material enjoyment can only make you tired.
If your heart is filled with materialistic desires, you won't be able to feel the warmth around you.
During the Chinese New Year, learn to lie flat on material things.
Buy less unwanted items, don't compare with others, focus on yourself, and live a simple and happy year.
Socially lie flat.
Writer Jiang Jingjing said: The Chinese New Year is a socially intensive period.
Many people take the opportunity of New Year's greetings to save up for drinks and give gifts, hoping to get closer to others.
But the feelings at the wine table can't be extended beyond the wine table, and no matter how many gifts you get, it's just a false promise.
During the Chinese New Year, digging out hollowing out circles and making friends can only consume a lot of time and energy in vain.
Entrepreneur Xiao Yiqun shared his young experience.
When he first started out in the workforce, he felt that networking was indispensable for success.
In order to accumulate contacts, every Chinese New Year, he either carries gifts to the leaders to greet the New Year, or participates in various classmates and fellow villagers' dinners.
Since the beginning of the Lunar New Year, he has been going out to socialize every day and coming back drunk every day.
After a Spring Festival, he felt that he had a strong circle.
However, he didn't expect that when he went to work after the year, he encountered some difficulties at work, so he contacted his "connections".
As a result, some people found reasons to shirk his request for help, and some people simply didn't accept his **....
It was only then that he realized that his connections were actually empty.
After that, he never attended any meetings during the Chinese New Year.
When people are young, they always like to add to the circle and are willing to make all kinds of contacts.
Looking back after middle age, I found that there are not many useful relationships, and there are only a handful of those that can really stay in life.
During the Chinese New Year, instead of participating in various drinking parties, it is better to leave time for people who are sincere.
One year, on the second day of the Lunar New Year, a big man went to visit Qian Zhongshu with gifts.
It would have been a happy thing for someone to come to the door to pay New Year's greetings.
But before the man walked into the door, Qian Zhongshu passed through the crack in the door and politely refused: Thank you! I'm busy! Thank you!
He doesn't like to talk to strangers and hardly participates in socializing.
Usually when he has time, he only gets together with a few old friends to talk about poetry and books and life.
Although the circle is small, they are all comfortable with each other.
As Qian Zhongshu said: There is no need to find some indiscriminate people and say something that is not painful.
If you break your head and go in, you can only be free from the edge, so it is better to manage your own small circle.
Middle-aged people celebrate the New Year, please lie down socially, socialize less, and get together more with two or three confidants.
Those friends who are truly close to each other are worthy of your hard work.
Mentally lie flat.
Tsinghua professor Ning Xiangdong once lamented that the whole society has fallen into a "busyness".
After entering middle age, in the face of the high pressure of life, many people keep burying their heads in the hurry, and it is difficult not to be coerced by anxiety.
At the beginning of the year, I wanted to double my savings at the end of the year, but my pockets were still shriveled;
I want to go further in the unit, but in the end I still crawl at the bottom level.
At this juncture of the Chinese New Year, this huge sense of loss is inevitably magnified.
After a year, some of my former friends and classmates have entered the middle and senior levels in the workplace, and some have made steady progress in the system, and it seems that only I am standing still.
For this reason, we will inevitably be secretly anxious and nervous, which will eventually lead to a tasteless Spring Festival.
Writer Dong Qiao said that middle age is a tense stage, and the most important thing is to loosen oneself at any time.
During the Chinese New Year, instead of being trapped in anxiety, it is better to calm down and relax a little.
Relax yourself, only when you have a good rest, you will have enough energy to cope with the days ahead.
Since the ** writer Wang Yue, he has created many popular articles, but his life is very "idle".
Especially during the Spring Festival, when his peers were staring at their mobile phones while celebrating the New Year, for fear of missing any hot spots, he enjoyed the holiday like no one.
Every day, I don't talk about visiting relatives and friends, I sleep when I should sleep, I eat and drink when I should eat, and I don't delay at all.
A friend asked him: Why are you so relaxed, in case you miss the big hot spots?
He replied: If you miss it, you miss it, what's the big deal, working so many days a year, and you are not allowed to have a good year?
In this relaxed pace, he put his work aside and spent a relaxed Spring Festival.
As a result, he was able to adjust his tired body and mind and regain his vitality.
Years later, when others returned to work tiredly, he threw himself into his work with full energy and made his career prosperous.
The Book of Rites says that one piece is relaxed, and the way of civil and military affairs is also.
Middle age is an endless practice, we have to go against the pressure for our livelihood and ideals;
Also learn to slow down and give yourself a little room to breathe and breathe.
This Spring Festival, it's better to lie down, don't push yourself too hard, don't let yourself be too tired.
Enjoy your vacation and let yourself get enough rest to better devote yourself to the hot life after the year.
Writer Feng Jicai said:
The New Year is a festival of review and vows, which allows the battalion to reorganize one's life after more than 300 days of service.
In the new year, it's not just our bodies that need to be adjusted, but also our lifestyles.
After middle age, learn to lie flat for the New Year and maintain a sense of relaxation.
Underweight in material, high in mentality, rest more, socialize less, and have a happy year.
Like it, the Spring Festival is coming, I wish friends a family reunion, happiness and health.