Some people say that monogamy is ***, but in ancient China there were three wives and four concubines. The problem is that monogamy is a protection for the poor, but in addition to this, if polygamy is allowed, it may be difficult for men without money to get wives. However, while marriage can protect the property rights of both parties, it cannot prevent emotional infidelity, let alone infidelity.
In these strange times, the human heart is like a pearl in the deep sea, elusive. And when their souls begin to "wander", some subtle signs gradually spread like ripples on the surface of the sea. Today, I Ching began to talk about the "secret six signs" of men's spiritual derailment.
The first signal: the "wanderer" in the eye
The eyes are the windows to the soul, and a person's eyes can often reveal the secrets of the heart.
When they derailed mentally, a "wanderer" look would unconsciously appear in their eyes, as if their souls had drifted into the distance.
There is such a record in "Dream of Red Mansions": "The eyes are full of love, whether they are happy or unhappy. These eyes full of love have turned into indescribable wandering and confusion.
Their eyes are no longer focused on you, but often drift into the unknown distance, as if following the figure of another person.
The second signal: "strangers" in the topic
When men cheat on their relationships, they often unconsciously introduce content that is not related to a common topic.
They may suddenly develop a keen interest in a foreign culture or often mention people or events you don't know.
These topics seem mysterious and fascinating to their mouths, making them feel as if they have become "strangers" and cannot fit into their inner world. This shift is not a coincidence, but a clear sign of their spiritual infidelity.
The third signal: the "lost" of time
Time is a test of emotions and a "mirror" that reflects a man's psychological derailment.
Once two people start falling in love, the allocation of time becomes very mysterious and elusive. You may often use overtime as an excuse to keep you busy, or you may always find various excuses to come home late or go out at night.
This "loss of connection" due to the passage of time is not a random phenomenon, but an outward manifestation of a change in their hearts. They seem to be lost in the torrent of time and can no longer spend precious time with you as before.
The fourth signal: the emotional "king of faces".
Emotions are the "barometer" of a man's psychological derailment. Once you start having an affair, your feelings can become very complicated and unstable.
Sometimes they are happy, sometimes they are sad, sometimes they are kind and caring to you, and sometimes they can be cold to you. This emotional "change of face" makes you feel lost, as if you are facing a stranger.
In the Tao Te Ching, it is said that "heavy, light, and quiet are impulsive", but for them, this balance seems to be broken, and their emotions become their "tyrants". Inner world.
The fifth signal: the "guardian" of the mobile phone
In this information age, mobile phones have become an indispensable part of people's lives. For men who are having an affair, the mobile phone is a "secret channel" to communicate with others.
Setting a password on your phone, changing screensavers or wallpapers frequently, acting unusually nervous or mysterious when receiving certain ** or messages, getting angry when asked, or deliberately hiding things from others.
This over-protective and unfathomable attitude towards their phones is one of the strongest signs of their mental infidelity. Mobile phones seem to have become a "holy place" in their inner world that no one can spy on.
Sixth signal: "stranger" to you
When a man is emotionally unfaithful, there is a subtle change in his attitude towards you.
They may be aloof, enthusiastic, or aloof. Their attention and greetings to you may be negligent. They may even turn a blind eye or hear your presence.
The Book of Poetry wrote: "There is a kind of beauty that is unforgettable at first sight, not seen for a day, and misses it like crazy." "It seems that the feeling of 'going crazy' has disappeared without a trace in their hearts.
They seem to treat you like a "stranger" and are no longer able to approach you as closely as they used to.
Conclusion: Love is the effort of two people and needs to be cared for and maintained by both parties. When a man shows signs of mental infidelity, we need to learn how to analyze and deal with it calmly, instead of blindly doubting or blaming him.
Through communication and understanding, we can rediscover the beauty and self-evident understanding of the past and create a happier future together.
May all lovers cherish each other's feelings, feel each other's deep feelings, and let the flower of love bloom forever!