Recently, the movie "Hot and Hot" was on the air.
Although there are mixed reviews on the Internet, my feeling after watching it is that this movie is worth taking children to watchEspecially parents with girls.
There are many scenes in it that are worth talking about with children.
Self-reliance and self-reliance
Du Leying is 32 years old and has been lying flat at home for 10 years.
At the age of 22-32, for normal people, it is exactlyA key 10 years of vigorous and career development.
And she is at home every dayEat, sleep, sleep, eat, and be decadent.
In order to encourage her to go out to work, her parents persuaded her countless times, but she was still indifferent.
Although the family runs a small supermarket, his parents are getting old.
If one day the parents are gone, will the task of raising the child fall to the younger sister who is raising the daughter alone?
A person who has no ability to work has been lazy for a long time, even if he is a close relative, he is not immune to dislike.
Although her mother didn't say it, she still favored her sister in her heart and persuaded her to transfer the house to her sister. My sister is always sneering at her, and even fights with her.
Win once? Take advantage of the weight loss now, hurry up and find a good man to marry, just win once! "
My sister wishes she could get married early and not add a burden to the family.
wantonly squandered the love of his family and parasitized it on his family, no matter how deep the family affection is, it will be worn out sooner or later.
The book "Raising Girls" says:
"Girls should be self-reliant! This concept must be deeply rooted in the girl's heart and become an integral part of her character. ”
If there is a girl in the family, you must cultivate her ability to be independent, because all the dependencies in life are only temporary, and no one can be her eternal dependence.
Everyone is an individual. Economic independence, character independence, and soul independence are the foundation of a person's survival, and relying on others will only make you weaker and weaker, until it is difficult to move an inch in this society.
Self-esteem and self-love
Le Ying's two loves, one was cut off by her best friend, and the other ended inexplicably.
In the second love, Our Lady of Le Ying is overflowing with love for "good men" who have ideals and ambitions, and do not go along with the world.
The other party invites herself to eat a cow baby she likes, and she will cater unconditionally; I don't have 2,000 yuan to rent a house, but in order for the other party to be able to participate, I shot 5,000 yuan; It doesn't matter if the other party moves into their own residence at will.
After being ignored, hurt, and abandoned, she woke up.
In the end, Le Ying came out after punching, and when he saw the thin Le Ying, he didn't admire, appreciate, or apologize, but still said with no sincerity: "Let's go, take you to eat bullfrogs?" ”
When you're bad, he leaves at any time, and as long as you get better, he's back ......
Le Ying said lightly, another day. Ask again, depending on the mood, turn around and leave.
Her inner view of love has changed, she has grown, and she will no longer be attracted to this kind of man.
Girls' "love problems" usually appear in the absence of their parents, perhaps at school or at work.
At that time, no matter how anxious we were in our hearts, we could not help or guide her, because we could not follow her on these occasions at any time.
Therefore, the role we can play is that of a coach, to teach her well in normal times.
In love, self-esteem and self-love, keep your bottom line.
Strong inside
Lying flat for 10 years, she was disgusted by her family, and was attacked by her sister for the transfer of the house, which made her disappointed in the family.
Her boyfriend was snatched away by her best friend and forced to attend the wedding of the two, which made her disappointed in her friendship.
reported a private lesson and was toyed with by the coach, which made her disappointed in love.
finally found a job, and encountered sexual harassment in the workplace, which made her disappointed in the workplace.
The discomfort of the camera cooperated with her cousin's work, and her cousin also used her promotion to make her completely disappointed in life.
She thought that there was nothing to be nostalgic about in the world, so she overate and even jumped off a building to give up her life.
Later, by chance, she went to boxing, only to restart her life, come out again, and win for herself once.
Think about it silently, if it is your daughter and her mood falls to the bottom, how will she heal?
We often teach girls to be emotionally stable, but we neglect to teach her how to release her emotions.
When she's in the worst mood, she can get angry and scream, and that's better than hurting herself.
The book "Raising Girls" says:Releasing emotions is also a way to gain strength.
If the child has some interests, such as listening, playing the piano, and drawing, you can also digest bad emotions in these ways.
A girl with a strong heart will also feel anger, pain, or fear, and once these emotions get in her way, she will listen to her inner voice and feel her emotions, but she will not get caught up in them.
When she feels angry, fearful, grief, and tired, she can transcend them by releasing emotions, get rid of them, and do what she has to do.
May every child find at least one good way to release their emotions and heal their health hobbies.
Share wisely
In the play, Du Leying's sister wants to transfer her house to her name for the sake of her children's schooling.
This house was left by her grandmother, and her mother also persuaded Du Leying to help her sister and properly kidnap her.
With such an upbringing, when she has two apples, she also habitually gives them all.
Just like our families with multiple children, it is easy to have the values of "big let small" and "Kong Rong let pear".
They think that children who can share are sensible, loving, grateful, and unselfish. And children who can't share are selfish and stingy, and no one likes to play with such children.
So, in order to help children learn to share, parents will take some radical steps:
When children don't want to share toys, parents will feel shameless and just grab them for other children.
When the younger child wants the older child's things, the parent will say, you are the older sister, you have to let the younger sister.
Even some parents will often pua their children: "Don't be stingy, learn to share, and everyone will like you." ”
But these behaviors are a great harm to children.
This injury is not only at the moment of speaking, but will lead to various psychological problems when the child grows up, and even form"People-pleasing personality".
Teach your child to share wisely.
The premise of sharing is to care about your own feelings and don't compromise on everything.
Sharing is about sharing what you want with others, so it's okay for you to share the small ones with others.
In the case of your own spare energy, it is right to help others to share with others, not to force yourself to share big or all of it.
Even if Le Ying has two apples after the change, whether she shares it or not depends on her mood.
If you think the other person is worth it, you can also give it all. If the other party is not worthy, be able to rationally refuse.
She didn't make the decision because she was worried that the other party would be unhappy, but because she felt from the bottom of her heart that it was the right thing to do.
It's not so much that this is an inspirational film, but more about conveying the values that everyone knows how to love themselves and win for themselves.
For parents, after watching the film, they can talk to their children about the problems and help them establish correct values.
I hope that children can have self-esteem, self-love, self-improvement, self-reliance, and have a hot life.
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