In this complex society, marriage is like a long journey, with both beautiful scenery and bumpy mountains and rivers. However, when we talk about marriage, a seemingly iconoclastic point of view begins to attract widespread attention: "In marriage, women should not treat their husbands as relatives, this is not scheming but vision."
This statement may be controversial, but it has its own unique truth.
Marriage is a feast for two, but many times, we mistakenly think that the other person is all in life in this feast. Such a concept may make feelings stronger, but it is also easy for people to lose themselves in the turmoil of feelings.
Therefore, a rational woman would choose to see her husband as a partner rather than a loved one, not out of indifference, but with a deep understanding of the marital relationship.
The story begins on a sunny afternoon, when a woman named Xiaoyu walks through the streets with her husband, Xiao Ming. Xiaoyu has always been a rational and mature woman with a unique view of marriage.
She believes that in marriage, relying too much on each other is like walking on a muddy path, and it is easy to fall into the swamp of feelings. Therefore, she always sees her husband as a partner, not a relative.
Xiaoyu's view is not out of indifference to feelings, but because she is well versed in the complexity of life.
In her view, marriage is a journey towards the future of two separate individuals, rather than a dependent relationship. She knows how to maintain a certain degree of independence in marriage, which is not only conducive to personal growth, but also contributes to the stability of the marital relationship.
Xiao Ming in the story is a gentle and considerate man who understands and respects Xiao Yu's choice. In his view, marriage is not about bringing two people together, but about allowing two independent individuals to work together to create a better life.
He appreciates Xiaoyu's independence because it makes him feel that marriage is more of a collaboration than a dependency.
There is no lack of romance and warmth in Xiaoyu and Xiao Ming's marriage. They share the bits and pieces of life together and pursue their dreams together, but on top of all this, they do not overrely on each other. This view of marriage does require understanding and empathy from both parties, and in their lives, this resonance is so natural and profound.
Perhaps, in some traditional concepts, marriage is more understood as the blending of two people's lives, but Xiaoyu tells us that keeping a certain distance in marriage is not indifferent to feelings, but a manifestation of independence and respect for each other.
She believes that women should not treat their husbands as relatives in marriage, but should have a vision to see two people grow together in marriage.
However, this view does not blindly reject feelings, but emphasizes more on the independence and autonomy of the individual. Xiaoyu believes that when women can think independently and live independently, marriage can develop more healthily. What she is looking for in her marriage is not only to rely on and comfort, but also to resonate with the soul and support the spirit.
Through Xiaoyu's story, we may be able to see some common problems in marriage. Excessive dependence can make a marriage heavy, while excessive independence can lead to emotional distancing. Therefore, while pursuing independence, moderate dependence is also a part of the marriage that needs to be balanced.
In general, in marriage, women don't treat their husbands as relatives, this is not a scheming, but a vision. It is the product of a deep understanding of the marital relationship and an expression of individual independence and respect.
On the long road of marriage, staying rational and calm can not only make the relationship deeper, but also allow everyone to shine alone on the stage of marriage. Therefore, perhaps we can learn from Xiaoyu's concept of marriage and make marriage more like a wonderful ensemble rather than a single solo.