As a classmate, we had a good relationship when we were studying, shopping together, participating in activities together, and taking English classes together. After graduation, because I was in a city, I had more contacts, I gave her a red envelope when she got married and gave birth to a baby, and I also lent her money when she bought a house, of course, I also borrowed money from her when I bought a house. But then I contacted her in a hurry because I needed money urgently, and she said, "Why do you keep borrowing money?" Actually, it was the third time I borrowed money from her. I was speechless and uncomfortable. Since then, no more contact. She doesn't contact me, and I don't contact her. Ten years without contact. Ten years, she has her own circle of life, and I also have my circle of friends.
I didn't expect her to contact me suddenly, and after a simple politeness, she went straight to the point, she was doing micro-business and wanted to pull me along. I politely declined. In fact, I don't dislike micro-business, because everyone in the circle of friends is posting, which is a very common form of business now.
I'm reminded of the past. I remember not long after graduation, my dad was hospitalized and the money was not enough, I asked my classmates for help, some of my classmates took out all the money they had saved at that time, a boy in my class braved the heavy snow to send me money, one of my classmates, I didn't open my mouth to borrow money from her, because I knew that her salary was not high, but she took the initiative to contact me to lend me money after knowing the news, and I am grateful to them so far. Of course, I also remember that my classmate, the one mentioned earlier, lent me money that was really lower than I expected, because in my expectations, we had a good relationship, and her salary was relatively high. That was the first time I had asked her to borrow money, and I was disappointed anyway.
So, I rejected her more because I didn't trust her. A lot of people can't see what is going on until they've been there.