A mother's personality determines the success of her children
We use it a lot"Hard work"But in fact, the image of mothers is diverse, some are examples for us to learn, and some need us to understand deeply and make changes.
When dealing with mothers' mistakes, we need to criticize and educate on the basis of tolerance and understanding. Only when two generations work together can the family truly become harmonious and beautiful.
It is undeniable that the future of the child is inextricably linked to the character of the mother.
It is said that "mother's love is like water", and the mother is a person made of water, gentle and transparent. Mother's whole life is busy for her family, revolving around her children and living around her husband.
But some mothers have lived like "tigresses", and they are the unshakable "number one" at home. Su Mu in the TV series "It's All Good" looks very delicate, but has a strong personality.
Su Daqiang, as a husband and father, has no weight to speak at home. Especially when it comes to making decisions, Su Mu is almost all-encompassing. The Su family consists of five: husband and wife, one daughter, and two sons.
Under the patriarchal thinking, Su's mother's attitude towards her daughter Mingyu became tougher and tougher. When her daughter was born, Su's mother thought that she was holding her back legs from flying away, and rarely called her daughter "girl, Mingyu", just like a stranger, called "you, her".
Over time, the relationship between mother and daughter becomes ossified. When Mingyu wanted to buy an exercise book, Su Mu was not very happy. Su Daqiang secretly made money, and wanted to buy an exercise book, but was discovered by Su's mother, so he didn't buy it.
Mingyu's problem of going to school made Su's mother pour cold water several times, and finally had to choose a free teacher to reduce the burden on the family. What the future holds is another matter. Looking back at the three children of the Su family, their relationship is really average.
Before Su's mother's bones were cold, the brothers and sisters began to quarrel. Writer Yin Jianli once said: "Your three-point temper with your child will cause seven points of harm to your child." ”
Think about it, in a family, the mother "strongly suppresses everyone" at every turn, and the atmosphere will be very dull. Strength is often accompanied by the logic of "irritable, unreasonable, and competitive".
The tip of the needle is against Maimang, how can there be a peaceful day at all? The pedagogue Sukhomlinsky said: "The main thing for every young person is to remember not to fill the emptiness of the mind with brutal emotions such as shouting, irritability, **." ”
Young people's freedom from irritability and quarrels is based on the tenderness of their mothers. The atmosphere of the family is not unilaterally regulated by the children.
Mother's love is an invisible force that can affect a child's life. If the mother always complains about life and does not have a positive attitude towards life, then her children will also be influenced by her and become negative and pessimistic.
If the mother does not care about the family and only cares about her own happiness, then her children will also be affected and become selfish. If a mother does not distinguish between her children and allows her children to do the wrong things, then her children will also be affected and become morally corrupt.
Therefore, the mother's negative energy will seriously affect the child's growth and make the child fail. On the contrary, if the mother has positive energy and can give the child the right guidance and let the child do something worthwhile, then the child will have a positive attitude, have the right values, have the ability to face difficulties, and have the ability to succeed.
03 The cleanliness of a family often affects children's self-discipline. Not all homes are clean and tidy, and some families feel uncomfortable and even want to leave immediately.
In this case, the image of the mother will be greatly affected, and the warmth of the family will be reduced as a result. I have an old neighbor who lives in a building but has a keen interest in raising chickens and ducks.
Every morning, the mother would take the ducks downstairs and herd them to the mountains behind the compound to graze. The smell of chicken and duck manure is always in the house, which is out of place with the surrounding environment.
During the Chinese New Year, the daughters and sons-in-law of the old neighbors would come to the house, but they would not come into the house and sit down, but would leave the gifts at the door and leave. In addition, their son is almost forty years old and is still single, which may be related to the cleanliness of their home.
Montesquieu once said, "Beauty must be clean and innocent, in the image, and even more so in the heart." "Mothers who don't care if their homes are clean even though they have their clothes clean will have a hard time raising self-disciplined children.
They only look neat on the surface, but in fact they do not start from the habits of the family to raise the next generation. The neatness of a family's clothing can also affect their social image.
If the whole family goes out in sloppy clothes, then they will be looked down upon, not to mention good luck and good fortune. Therefore, a clean and tidy family environment has an important impact on the growth of children and the overall image of the family.
While we praise mother's love, we should also remind mothers to keep making progress and never stop. However, for unqualified mothers, we should keep our distance and bravely go it alone.
Don't let the influence of your original family drag down your life. The first words we learned were taught to us by our mothers, and when we started walking, it was our mothers who led us, and the first revelation of life was also taught to us by our mothers.
How can we ignore the role of motherhood? A knowledgeable mother can make her child stand on the shoulders of giants. A mother with sunshine can make her child's life bloom like a flower.
Having a gentle mother can make the child grow up in the cradle of happiness. A strong mother can let her child move forward with confidence. A visionary mother can set high ideals for her children from an early age.
The mother is the guiding light of life, and her direction is the way forward for the child, so we must choose carefully. - Cloth and coarse food.