As the years go by, people reach their twilight years, their bodies are like ancient ships that have gone through wind and rain, and their souls are still drifting in the river of human growth.
Thankfully, life flows through the seasons, and time has carved signs of aging on the body, but the soul is eternally young.
When life is coming to an end, there is still the possibility of fulfilling those unfulfilled wishes. Instead of lamenting the rush of time in the sun and moon, it is better to make up for the regrets of a lifetime in the cold and summer.
In the later years of life, if the relationship between siblings becomes alienated or even hostile, there are 4 things that are particularly important and need to be treated with caution.
Under the influence of life, the original pure family affection will gradually be dyed with various colors, including sweet joy and bitter disputes. These conflicts caused by daily trivial matters are not indestructible obstacles.
Even if the relationship between siblings is strained due to a conflict of interest, those precious memories of growing up together and the deep bond of blood will open a window into reconciliation. The rift in the heart is not an insurmountable chasm, and as time passes, people become more and more aware of the priceless treasure of family affection.
When children are around and siblings support each other, life will be enriched by the nourishment of family affection. The rift caused by trivial things in youth will gradually heal with the soothing of time. As long as each other is willing to adjust their mentality and cherish this family relationship, then it is natural for siblings who once opposed each other to come together again.
In later years, as experience and horizons expand, the meaning of life becomes richer. The entanglements that were difficult to let go of when they were young have become a thing of the past in old age, and the resentments of the past have become insignificant.
Therefore, we should adjust our mentality as soon as possible and cherish the family time in front of us. Don't wait until harmony is a thing of the past to regret it, and let regret accompany you for the rest of your life.
Contradictions often have their deep-seated causes, and in many cases, the triggers for contradictions are actually only superficial phenomena, and there may be deeper problems hidden behind them. If disputes are dealt with on a case-by-case basis, without digging deep into the root causes of the contradictions, then these contradictions are likely to make waves again in the ocean of life.
Therefore, when conflicts frequently arise between siblings, we should delve into the essence of the problem and actively seek solutions. We must not allow these small contradictions to accumulate and eventually turn into huge rifts that destroy family relationships.
To find out the cause of the contradiction, we can take a variety of approaches. When the relationship is relatively relaxed, you can guide the other party to express your inner dissatisfaction in a clever way, so as to eliminate the estrangement; When the conflict intensifies, you can also face the problem directly, let each other communicate frankly, and resolve the differences together.
Either way, the key is to remain calm and rational when conflicts arise, and to get to the point through effective communication, so as to avoid new conflicts in the process of resolving them.
Siblings spend time together at a young age and start families as adults, but the bond of affection still creates many opportunities for them to come together.
The life of an adult is far more complex than that of a teenager, and is rendered by various colors of society and life. Therefore, between brothers and sisters, we should not interfere too much in each other's lives, but should give enough space and freedom to avoid breeding conflicts in excessive closeness.
Keeping an appropriate distance, neither too far nor too close, can reduce the occurrence of contradictions, but will not completely sever the ties of family affection. At such a distance, we can support and help each other through the difficulties and challenges of life together.
As the saying goes, "distance produces beauty".
Loved ones come together to form a big family; And when we are separated, we have our own little families. Overly intimate affection may enhance the cohesion of the extended family, but it can also break the harmony of the smaller family.
Therefore, maintaining an appropriate distance, supporting each other without relying on each other, such a state is more conducive to maintaining long-term family relationships.
A pair of parents who are partial and unfair often tend to exacerbate conflicts between siblings. Living in such an unfair environment for a long time, the reason in the heart can be overwhelmed by anger, causing some siblings to be estranged by hatred, and every time they meet, they are as tense as enemies, completely forgetting the blood that is thicker than water.
However, as the years go by, this resentment that grows from injustice will eventually be soothed by fate. The injustice of the original family is only a bumpy part of the journey of life, when you go out of the house and face life independently, the future road must be grasped by yourself after all.
Therefore, we should look further and not be held back by the injustices in front of us, but go all out and pave the way for the future with our own hands.
When we are young and vigorous, we may feel unbearable in the face of injustice, but after the vicissitudes of the world, we will see the momentary gains and losses as the experience of life, so that we can continue to grow and make our lives more resilient.
If our parents can't handle the same bowl of water, we don't have to worry too much about them, let alone argue with our siblings. The family gives shelter, and the size of the stage of life ultimately depends on our own ability.
Independence is the only way for everyone to grow. From youth to twilight years, we will develop a deeper understanding of independence and the importance of doing our best in an unfair environment.
We may feel aggrieved and resentful when we encounter injustice, but these negative emotions cannot be an obstacle to our progress. The most important thing in life is to live your life well, so that you will not be disappointed in the suffering and hard work.
When life is coming to an end, if you are still estranged from your brothers and sisters, don't let the conflict continue to escalate. After all, family affection is like blood and is difficult to part. If life is at the end of the day, who wants to leave a lifelong regret because of the rift between family relationships?
Now that you have experienced the beauty of the mountains and rivers in the world, the brilliance of the sun and the moon, why not let go of the resentment and attachment in your heart, stay away from the hustle and bustle of the world, and let the last corner of your soul be filled with tranquility and satisfaction. Let life come to an end in peace and relief, leaving no regrets, no disputes, only the purest family affection and warmth.
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