Don't take the initiative to help others, or you will be unlucky! --Large Pond.
Free giving is often not cherished, and is even taken for granted, after all, human desires are not fed.
Everything has a cause and effect, but you see that someone else is in a difficult time, if he doesn't take the initiative to ask you for help, you don't take the initiative to help him, because your initiative can not be exchanged for his understanding and gratitude, although not everyone is so ungrateful, but human nature is like this, you don't bet on this special case, otherwise you will get into trouble.
If you think that not taking the initiative to help others is indifferent, you can only say that your social experience is not deep enough, the things and people you face are not complex enough, and you do not have a deep understanding of human nature.
As the saying goes, "the Tao is not lightly preached, the law is not sold cheaply, the hexagram is not vacated, and the doctor does not knock on the door", which means that everything has to pay a price, which is a kind of transaction. This is the law, and if you break it, you will violate the law of human nature.
Because human nature can't fill the desire, you take the initiative to help, because others don't pay the price, he won't cherish it, and he feels that it is too easy to come, and he often won't cherish the things that come easily.
There are many examples of this in society.
For example, a certain star subsidizes poor students to go to college, but because the college student skipped classes during school and even spent money indiscriminately, a certain star stopped funding.
So, the student wrote an article to accuse a certain star, she was **, and wanted the star to have his reputation ruined.
Even the parents kept asking the star for tuition and living expenses, asking for his son to finish college.
This kind of person is a typical white-eyed wolf, who obviously gets help from others, but does not cherish it, but takes other people's funding for granted.
For example, if you give 1,000 yuan to a person every day, and suddenly you only give 10 yuan one day, then he will definitely resent you, because he has become accustomed to and has already thought in his mind that it is your obligation and responsibility, and thinks that the money is his.
Everyone will have this kind of mentality, human nature is like this, if you don't follow the laws of human nature, you will inevitably suffer.
Everyone has their own destiny, we don't take the initiative to intervene in other people's cause and effect, if you take the initiative to intervene is to destroy his law, then it is also bad for you, if things develop, you will be blamed for the unsatisfactory.
If you want to help, you can, unless the other party takes the initiative to ask you or you give you the conditions to help, that is, don't let them get help without paying the price, you must exchange, preferably an equivalent exchange, he will be grateful to you in his heart, and his heart is not burdened, so your relationship and relationship can be maintained for a long time.
Especially those who have a better relationship, the more you must pay attention to proportion, otherwise it is easy to cross the line, and the people around you who hurt you the most are often the people around you.
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