In the long course of life, we are all travelers. On this journey, we need not only personal growth and spiritual practice, but also learn to build and maintain relationships with people. Today, I would like to talk about the "3 Don'ts" principles that we should keep in mind when being invited to dinner, which are not only necessary for etiquette, but also for the wisdom of interpersonal communication.
1. Don't be empty-handed
There is a story about a talented young man who always attends banquets empty-handed. At first, his friends admired his talent and didn't care that he came empty-handed. But as time went on, people gradually became disappointed. His actions were interpreted as disrespectful and selfish. Eventually, the talented man lost many of his friends and became a lonely bystander.
In interpersonal communication, reciprocity is a fundamental principle. When invited to a banquet, even a bouquet of flowers, a box of candy, or a bottle of wine can show our gratitude and respect. Such a small gift is not only a material exchange, but also a transmission of heart. In giving and receiving, our relationship is balanced and deepened.
2. Don't pick and choose
There was once a celebrity who was notoriously fastidious. Every time I go to a banquet, I am always critical of the food, the environment, and even the host's speech and behavior. Over time, people began to avoid associating with him, and his reputation deteriorated. The celebrity eventually lost his friends and respect.
In interpersonal interactions, being overly critical is a big taboo. Everyone has shortcomings, and every occasion can have flaws. If we are always critical of others, we risk losing the respect and friendship of others. Instead, we should show basic respect and cultivation and avoid unnecessary criticism. When we evaluate less and praise more, it will be easier to get closer to people.
3. Don't show off
There is also a story about a general who ended up losing his dignity and life because he excessively flaunted his exploits. He boasted about himself at every gathering, trying to show that he was superior to others. At first, people listened out of awe or politeness, but gradually, his rhetoric caused outrage and eventually tragedy.
Excessive ostentation not only fails to earn the respect of others, but can have negative consequences. In social situations, it's wise to keep a low profile and be humble. We don't need to exaggerate ourselves to earn recognition, sincerity and humility are more likely to earn the respect and affection of others.
4. Mutual understanding and sincere relationship
The most important thing in our social life is to build mutual understanding and sincere relationships. We are all individuals, but our feelings and hearts affect each other. When we show sincerity and sincerity in our interpersonal interactions, it is also easier for others to open up to us.
Gratitude is another key to maintaining relationships. Be grateful for the kindness of others and appreciate the company and help of others. Such an attitude not only deepens our relationships with others, but also nourishes our souls.
Wrapping up
At the living table, we are both guests and hosts. Remembering the "3 Don'ts" principle will not only help us better maintain and develop interpersonal relationships, but also allow us to maintain our sincerity and kindness in this complex society. Let's put these principles into practice in our daily lives and work together to create a harmonious and welcoming social environment.