In this fast-paced, high-pressure, and ever-changing era, parent-child relationships are facing many challenges and confusions, how to establish and maintain a healthy and harmonious parent-child relationshipHere are 10 tips for rebuilding your parent-child relationship to help you get along better with your child.
1.Learn to let go, learn to trust. Letting go doesn't mean giving up, it means trusting. Trust your child's abilities and choices, your child's growth and development, and your child's future and dreams. When you let go, you are actually giving your children more freedom and space, so that they can explore and realize their own value according to their own wishes and pace, and also let them feel your respect and support, and enhance their self-confidence and autonomy.
2.Parents should do a good job of emotional management and stabilize their children's emotions. Emotions are one of the most basic human needs, and they affect our thinking and behavior, as well as our relationships and well-being. As your child's first teacher and role model, your emotions will be transmitted directly or indirectly to your child and affect their emotions. Therefore, you need to manage your emotions well, learn to identify, express and regulate your emotions, and also learn to understand, accept and guide your child's emotions, so that emotions can become a bridge between you and your parent-child relationship, not an obstacle.
3.Accept your child's "imperfections". No one is perfect, and children are no exception. Children will have a variety of shortcomings and deficiencies, such as naughty, lazy, stubborn, sensitive, etc., which are normal phenomena in the process of children's growth, and are also the embodiment of children's personality and characteristics.
You don't need to force your child to meet your expectations and standards, nor do you need to criticize and blame your child excessively, but accept your child's "imperfections", appreciate your child's strengths and strengths, encourage your child's efforts and progress, and help your child overcome and improve his or her own shortcomings and deficiencies.
4.Find an outlet to communicate with your child. Communication is the foundation and core of the parent-child relationship, it can enhance the understanding and trust between you, and can also solve the conflicts and problems between you. However, in reality, the communication between many parents and children is lacking and inefficient, even conflicting and hurtful, which can lead to distance and estrangement between you, affecting the feelings and intimacy between you.
You need to find an outlet to communicate with your child, such as common interests and hobbies, such as daily life and learning, such as interesting topics and questions, such as sincere praise and gratitude, such as warm hugs and kisses, and so on. Through these communication outlets, you can establish a good communication habit and atmosphere with your child, so that the communication between you will be smoother and more effective, and your relationship will be closer and more harmonious.
5.Protect your child's well-being. Happiness is the ultimate goal and the highest state of life, and it is also the greatest expectation and deepest blessing of every parent for their children. However, in this highly competitive, stressful, and volatile society, children's happiness is often ignored and sacrificed, and they are often forced to adapt and pursue something that does not conform to them, such as scores, rankings, money, status, etc., although these things seem important, but they do not bring real happiness and satisfaction to children.
You need to protect your child's sense of well-being, so that your child can choose and develop your own life and career according to your own interests and strengths, so that your child can enjoy and cherish your own process and experience, so that you can be grateful and give back to your family and society, so that you can have and maintain a healthy and balanced physical and mental state, and so that you can find and realize your own happiness and meaning.
6.Build your child's self-confidence. Self-confidence is a kind of strength and motivation in life, which can make people more courageous and strong, and can also make people more positive and enterprising. Children's self-confidence is often affirmed and encouraged by their parents, and they are often influenced and restricted by their parents. In order to make their children more excellent and successful, many parents tend to make excessive demands and pressures on their children, or excessively compare and belittle their children, although these practices are well-intentioned, but they will weaken and destroy their children's self-confidence, making them inferior and negative.
You need to build your child's self-confidence, so that your child can recognize and accept your own strengths and weaknesses, so that your child can respect and appreciate your own value and contribution, so that you can believe in and pursue your own abilities and potential, so that you can face and overcome your own difficulties and challenges, so that you can become a confident and sunny person.
7.Stimulate your child's internal drive. Internal drive is a kind of motivation and enthusiasm in life, which can make people more active and creative, and can also make people more happy and satisfied. Children's internal drive is often based on their own interests and hobbies, and they are often supported and encouraged by their parents.
In order to adapt their children to the needs and expectations of society, many parents often arrange and intervene excessively in their children, or reward and punish their children excessively, although these practices are well-intentioned, but they will inhibit and destroy the child's internal drive, and make the child become passive and dependent.
Parents need to stimulate their children's internal drive, so that children can discover and cultivate their own interests and hobbies, so that children can enjoy and devote themselves to their own learning and activities, so that children can explore and create their own knowledge and experience, and so that children can become enthusiastic and motivated people.
8.Stop meaningless internal friction. Internal friction refers to a negative and ineffective way of interaction in the parent-child relationship, which can lead to conflict and contradictions between you, as well as harm and isolation between you. There are many manifestations of internal friction, such as quarrels, accusations, complaints, threats, sarcasm, indifference, etc., these are all inappropriate and unreasonable ways for you to express your dissatisfaction and needs, and they not only do not solve the problem, but will exacerbate the problem.
It is necessary to stop meaningless internal friction and make the interaction between you more positive and effective, such as communication, consultation, understanding, tolerance, cooperation, compromise, etc., these are the appropriate and reasonable ways you use to solve problems and meet needs, they can enhance trust and cooperation between you, and can also reduce conflicts and contradictions between you.
9.There are expressions of love every day. Love is the soul and cornerstone of the parent-child relationship, it can make your relationship stronger and deeper, and it can also make the relationship between you warmer and sweeter. However, in this busy and indifferent society, the love between many parents and children is ** and missing, they often do not have the time and opportunity to express and feel each other's love, and even some parents and children love is conditional and limited, they often use some conditions and requirements to measure and limit each other's love, which will cause the love between you to become pale and fragile.
Parents need to have expressions of love every day to make the love between you visible and unlimited, such as a "I love you", such as giving a gift, such as cooking a meal, such as hugging, such as kissing, and so on. Through these expressions of love, you can make your child feel your love and care, and you can also let yourself feel your child's love and response, making the love between you more real and lasting.
10.Half relaxed, half involuted. Relaxation refers to a relaxed and comfortable state of mind and state, which can make you and your child enjoy and cherish the present life and time more, and can also make you and your child more healthy and balanced physical and mental state. Involution refers to a phenomenon and environment of competition and pressure, which can make you and your children work harder and enterprising, and can also make you and your children more adaptable and responsive to the needs and changes of society.
In this complex and pluralistic era, you and your children need half relaxation and half involution, so as to achieve an optimal balance, which can not only allow you and your children to have a happy and satisfying life, but also allow you and your children to have an excellent and successful life.
This balance can be achieved by arranging fun and meaningful activities for you and your child, such as creating some relaxing and enjoyable atmosphere for you and your child, providing you and your child with some appropriate and rewarding challenges, such as establishing some positive and healthy habits for you and your child, and so on. In these ways, you can find a perfect balance between relaxation and involution between relaxation and involution, and make your parent-child relationship more harmonious and beautiful.