What is the most likely quarrel in a marriage?
If you think about it, every quarrel is mostly over small things like housework.
In traditional families, women usually take on more of the housework.
But with the development of society and the change of attitudes, men should also take on household chores.
In the modern home,The husband and wife should share the housework and agree on the distribution of housework tasks according to their respective work and living conditions.
Xiaoli and Xiaoli are a couple who have been married for three years, but during this year's Spring Festival, their conflict broke out.
Last year's Spring Festival, Xiaoli, Xiao Li and Xiao Li's parents celebrated the festival together.
In the past year, Xiaoli has been taking on the household chores of her mother-in-law's house, including taking care of the children, laundry and cooking, cleaning, etc.
She tried her best to do her best, but her mother-in-law always found some reason to blame her.
In the eyes of her mother-in-law, Xiaoli has no job, she relies on her son to earn money to support the family, and doing housework is what she should do, and she also came here when she was young.
During the Chinese New Year, Xiaoli thought that she could be a little more relaxed, after all, there would be relatives visiting during the Chinese New Year, and her mother-in-law would share some housework.
However, her expectations were disappointed. The mother-in-law pushed all the housework to Xiaoli on the grounds of her age.
While Xiaoli was busy in the kitchen, her mother-in-law was outside chatting with relatives and friends.
Xiaoli felt aggrieved and angry, she felt that her mother-in-law was deliberately making things difficult for her, but relatives and friends were present, Xiaoli did not break out, but after relatives and friends left, she looked at a table of scraps and a pile of rice bowls, and expressed her dissatisfaction to her husband.
Xiao Li is a gentle man, he understands his wife's hardship, but he also knows his mother's temper.
He tries to mediate the conflict between the two parties, but soon finds himself in a difficult situation.
He didn't want to offend his mother, nor did he want his wife to continue to suffer.
After Xiao Li and Xiao Li quarreled, the matter passed.
But during the Spring Festival this year, when Xiaoli proposed to take the child back to her parents' house for the New Year, Xiao Li's family and Xiaoli had a fierce quarrel.
During this year's Spring Festival, Xiaoli decided to take her children back to her parents' house for the New Year. She can't stand the embarrassment and conflict with her mother-in-law under the same roof, and she also hopes to take this opportunity to calmly think about the future of this marriage.
Xiao Li's reaction was unexpectedly intense.
He believes that his wife's behavior is disrespectful to him and irresponsible to the family
He tried to convince Xiaoli to change her decision, but Xiaoli had already made up her mind and was unwilling to compromise on what happened last year.
A heated argument ensued between the two.
Xiao Li accuses Xiao Li of being too impulsive and willful, while Xiao Li retorts that Xiao Li has never really understood and supported her.
Why don't you understand me? I just want to have a quiet place to spend the New Year! "Xiaoli's tears swirled in her eyes,"At my parents' house, I don't have to do so much, the housework is shared together, when I'm not feeling well, they help me with everything, and I don't get married to be a babysitter. ”
Do you think going back to your parents' house will solve the problem? You're running away! Xiao Li's voice was full of anger and disappointment, "My mother is old, so many relatives are so busy coming, your home is so far away, it is only a few thousand at a time, how hard it is for me to make money alone, do you spend money like this?" “
The two are at a stalemate, and neither is willing to budge.
In the end, Xiaoli still took the child back to her parents' house. Her back when she left seemed so determined and lonely. Xiao Li stood at the door, watching her leave, his heart full of helplessness and pain.
This Spring Festival, Xiao Li faced the empty room alone, and the remorse and pain in his heart were indescribable.
He realizes that the conflict, which was caused by a family dispute, has seriously damaged the trust and affection between the couple.
The distribution of household chores should be based on the principles of equality and mutual respect between family members.
Husbands, wives, and mothers-in-law should all be considered important members of the family and should share the responsibility of household chores and childcare.
In fact, from a legal point of view, the wife has no obligation to take care of her mother-in-law, and the husband's obligation should not be imposed on the wife.
But in reality, as a family, when the mother-in-law takes care of her wife, takes care of her during confinement, and at the same time, she also shares the chores of life such as taking care of the children and doing housework, and the wife can also take proper care of the mother-in-law.
After all, people have feelings, and feelings should be two-way.
If there is a disagreement or conflict over the distribution of household chores, the couple should communicate openly and openly to find a common solution.
They can create a chore distribution plan that distributes housework tasks reasonably and ensures that both parties are able to participate and take some responsibility. By working together, we build a harmonious and balanced family environment where everyone can enjoy equal care and respect.
Everyone looks at the issue of housework in this way, and you are welcome to leave your views in the comments.