Take another look at your family: how important it is to choose the right partner.
Preface. In traditional Chinese family culture, marriage and children are the most important things in life, especially parents. Parents often worry about their children's marriages, and always want to find a good partner for their children and create a beautiful home together. However, some families have a particular view of "choosing people", that is, they would rather let their children be single than let a certain group of people be their spouses. So, who is it that makes parents so worried and disgusted?
A man who has no respect for his superiors.
In people's traditional consciousness, family members are the most important reliance and reliance in life. Therefore, parents will never have a good result for a person who does not respect his family and the elderly. After getting married, these people will continue to show indifference to their family members, elders, and even contempt for others. Such behaviour often leads to conflict and disharmony within the family, which is very detrimental to the rapport between family members. So parents would rather keep their children single all the time than want their children to marry this kind of person.
Extend. This kind of person is relatively indifferent to his family, filial piety to his children, and his attitude towards his family. They may not have heard the teachings and expectations of the elderly, nor have they cared about their families. After getting married, they treat their families, their parents, and their parents the same, and they lack respect and consideration for each other, which can easily cause conflicts within the family. Such a person will make the atmosphere at home very depressing and make the elderly sad, so parents would rather have their children single than the relationship between their family and the elderly.
People who don't take themselves seriously.
If a person does not have self-esteem, he will have a squeamish, willful, rebellious, self-centered side. Such a person can have an unstable effect on the family and make it difficult to live in harmony with the other person's family. People with such personality traits, if they are the other half of their children, will cause a lot of trouble and trouble at home, so they are also the "mate selection object" that some families strongly reject.
Extend. Such people generally lack a sense of responsibility and responsibility for the family, and appear to be very unstable in dealing with the relationship between husband and wife. They are self-centered, prone to conflict with each other, and have a hard time reaching an agreement. In married life, they can disrespect their partner and their family, making their lives full of conflicts. Therefore, parents would rather keep their children single than let them be their sons-in-law or daughters-in-law.
People who don't respect others.
A person who is self-centered and lacks respect for others will often appear snarky and impolite. Their behavior or behavior can make others feel uncomfortable. If such a person becomes a daughter-in-law or son-in-law, it is easy to cause conflicts and troubles in another family, so he will also be rejected by some families.
Extend. Such a person may be polite on the outside, but he lacks respect for others in his bones. They may become harsh and uncomfortable in their daily lives. After getting married, they will be dissatisfied with each other's family and will have a hard time getting along with each other. This practice will cause many conflicts between the families of two people, so parents would rather their children be single all the time than want their children to marry such people.
People who feel good about themselves.
Men who are selfish, self-centered, and disregard for other people's feelings may appear tough and tough when they get married. They tend to be self-centered and unwilling to contribute to a harmonious family. Such a practice will inevitably cause a lot of unnecessary conflicts and troubles in the family, and thus be rejected by some families.
Extend. These people tend to have a strong sense of self-worth, put their feelings and needs first, and rarely put themselves in the shoes of others. At home, they may appear opinionated, uncompromising, and likely to fall into conflict with their spouse. In the life of husband and wife, they often ignore each other's needs and focus on their own feelings and interests, resulting in a series of conflicts and troubles. So parents prefer their children to be single rather than married to such a person.
Brief summary. In the case of a wide variety of "mate selection partners", parents must carefully choose a suitable spouse in order to ensure that their children enter the palace of marriage and get a happy marriage. Communication between parents and children is very important, and listening to their children's voices and understanding their children's expectations and needs is a prerequisite for building a good family relationship. On the other hand, children should actively communicate with their parents so that they have a deeper understanding of their thoughts and decisions, so that they can minimize some unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts, and work together for a better home.
From the perspective of "choosing a person", careful selection of a spouse is the key to the happiness and harmony of a family. I hope that every parent can have wisdom and prudence for their children's lifelong events to create a bright future for their children's married life. If you think this post is good, you can give me a like in the comment area, thank you for your support and encouragement.