Writer Feng Tang offers profound insights into interpersonal communication in his book. He pointed out that as social classes rise, so do the skills that people demonstrate in interpersonal interactions. In fact, people care far less about things than they do about individuals. The book "Capable Things" warns us that we should conform to human nature and say less harsh words, rather than resisting or challenging human nature. Most people tend to hear words of praise and have an aversion to criticism. Truly wise people learn how to conform to human nature and avoid offending others in words. Speak to the point, to the point when necessary, and remain silent when you don't say much. In this world, it is a kind of wisdom to overcome rigidity with softness, and moving against the current will only encounter more resistance. To study human relationships is essentially to study human nature, and vice versa. By reading the ten records of the remarks of the ancients, we can grasp the wisdom of the eight ** love worldliness.
Here are some specific interpersonal wisdoms:
1.Diplomatic skills are more important than mere hard work, because society tends to weed out those who only work hard and don't know how to communicate.
2.When you go out, you should pay attention to your image, and even if you don't have money, you can show your charm through a neat appearance to build and expand your network.
3.The emotional investment of reaching out to others when they are in trouble is often more valuable than adding to the cake when others have already succeeded.
4.When asking for help from others, no matter how intimate the relationship is, the interests of the other person should be taken into account so that a good relationship can be maintained.
5.Using money to solve problems can sometimes save a lot of unnecessary human debts.
6.When a person becomes popular or successful, it is often accompanied by more rights and wrongs, and sometimes it is necessary to step back in time in order to move forward better.
7.Gift-giving is an art, learn the skills of socializing and gift-giving, and even if you have ordinary qualifications, you can navigate life with ease.
8.When running errands, skillfully use gifts such as cigarettes and alcohol to get through contacts, which is an effective means of socializing.
9.In business communication, it is important to be good at gift-giving, build good interpersonal relationships, and know how to cooperate.
10.Maintaining a good relationship with superiors can often lead to more opportunities and protection for individuals.
Through this wisdom, we can better understand the importance of interpersonal communication and how to succeed in complex social relationships.