01. Get used to the alienation of others.
There are many things in this world that are not as we think.
Some people should leave because of our will.
Nothing lasts forever, and nothing lasts forever.
We have to get used to the departure of others, and we also have to get used to the estrangement of relationships.
Nothing is always in the same state.
Even for ourselves, there is no way we can not allow ourselves not to change.
Take the departure of others lightly.
Others choose to distance themselves from you, that's someone else's choice, and we can't interfere.
Life is like this, sometimes separated, sometimes reunited.
In the face of other people's alienation, we should accept it as if it were a normal thing, and not be too sad.
You don't have to deny yourself in a hurry, not because your incompetence can't keep him, but because he already wants to leave.
Let him be estranged if he is estranged.
So many times we have to have an indifferent heart.
Nothing is changed according to our thoughts.
Then we should think more about the nature of this thing, and think more about the result of this thing.
We should not treat anyone as a dependency on our lives, because this dependence can easily hurt us.
02Learn to choose.
We're going to meet so many people and make so many friends.
Is it true that everyone we meet should be cherished?
That's not necessarily, we have to be good at learning to choose.
Just like when we go to choose clothes, we have to choose clothes that suit us and what we like.
So it's the same in the process of making friends.
We have to keep waiting, and don't show our sincerity too quickly.
When you give everything you have to others without reservation.
Then you yourself have lost the bargaining chips to leave.
At all times, we must learn to put ourselves first.
People sometimes need to be selfish.
People who love themselves are less vulnerable, so think more about yourself.
With so many people, we can only wait for time to help us choose.
The person who has been with you for a long time, then he must have paid sincerely.
Because you can't live without each other, the relationship has always been maintained.
The more time passes, the more we can see that person for what he really is.
And the more time passes, our shortcomings are exposed, but that person is still willing to stay for you.
Then you must cherish this hard-won relationship.
03 If there is a dilemma, then two breaks.
If there's someone who really puts you in a dilemma, it's time for us to think about it.
Sometimes we don't know what to do for the sake of a person.
Keep going, but there is little hope for the future.
And choosing to leave him, he has a lot of reluctance in his heart.
But people are so contradictory, and it seems that no decision is good for them.
How can there be so many things to hesitate about?
If the relationship can really continue, then communicate well.
If you don't think so when you show him your heart, there's no need for the relationship to continue.
Because this is a circle of vicious circles, he comforted you this time, and next time you will be angry because of it.
Like you said you like strawberry cakes, but he always buys you mango flavored cakes.
You may not be angry the first time, but the more you remind him, the less patience you have.
In fact, if that person really loves you, he will remember what you say.
What you have reminded him many times, he will remind himself as well.
That's no matter how much you ask him not to repeat the things that make you sad.
He still doesn't change, so what is the meaning of the existence of this relationship?
If one person wants you to change, and the other person always goes his own way, then he is also more selfish.
Naturally, you are in a dilemma, and you have certain reasons to persuade yourself to leave, so it is better to break off the relationship.
04I like things that have results.
We sometimes expect something that doesn't work out.
For example, after you talk about a partner, you have already thought about the scene of getting married.
Every day you imagine what he will look like when he proposes to you, or what you will look like when you put on your wedding dress.
But this relationship has just begun, and you don't know him well.
Because you want to spend more time with him, you're always going to do something crazy.
Something that violates both, or something that violates your moral code.
You often break these consciences and moral codes for his sake.
But when you gradually open your heart to him, he loses his curiosity about you.
And what you envision, those things that will be yours alone in the future.
He never included you in his later life.
So we must not always think about things that do not work out.
It's possible to be rich, but it's impossible to force someone to love you.