Before discussing this issue, it should be noted that the "lover" here does not refer to a third party who is in a marital relationship, but refers to a person who has feelings for the man, but does not necessarily live together. In conclusion, let me clarify that I am referring to women who are not.
A "best friend" is a friend of the opposite sex who can communicate spiritually with you and share your inner world.
In a man's world, a woman's three roles – wife, lover, confidant – are like three pieces of a puzzle in life, shaping their emotional world.
Each character has their own status and occupies a different place in the hearts of people.
Let's start by introducing each of these three relationships:
A wife is the nucleus of a family. She has accompanied men through countless springs and autumns and experienced the ups and downs of life.
From black hair to white hair, wives are always a man's strongest ally. Everything she does is for the sake of her family, working tirelessly to take care of children and the elderly, and to support her family with men.
In a man's heart, his wife may not be the most passionate love, but it should be the most real and warm love.
In the entertainment industry, the love story of Andy Lau and his wife Zhu Liqian is a story worth celebrating.
Andy Lau and Zhu Liqian's relationship lasted for 20 years and was not made public until 2008.
Andy Lau always tries his best to protect Zhu Liqian's privacy in public and cherishes her very much. This is enough to prove that he feels sorry for his wife.
Honey, the word always carries a little ambiguity and **.
She is beautiful, intelligent, and considerate, and may be able to meet the needs that a man's marriage cannot provide.
But at the same time, lovers also bring a lot of risks and harms, and can also destroy a happy family.
In a man's mind, a lover may be attractive, but it is not a permanent home.
The unforgettable love story of Jack and Rose in the movie "Titanic" has become a classic in the hearts of generations.
Although Jack and Rose did not grow old together in the end, their deep friendship in the shipwreck deeply touched the audience.
However, this type of relationship is often difficult to sustain and will fade away over time.
A best friend is a person's spiritual companion. She understands men's emotions, needs, and thoughts.
Although she is neither a wife nor a lover, she is an integral part of a man's life.
A confidant is the harbor of the human soul, a place to find peace and sustenance in a complex world.
In our long history, there have been many famous close friends.
For example, Yu Boya and Zhong Zi in the Spring and Autumn Period were able to understand each other's thoughts and feelings through **, and became a model of "meeting friends in the mountains and flowing water".
Another example is Zhuge Liang and Zhou Yu during the Three Kingdoms period. They fought side by side, the Battle of Chibi, and together they wrote a legend through the ages.
The deep friendship between these confidants shows that the status of confidants is equally important in the minds of men.
So, which comes first: wife, lover or confidant?
This question can vary from person to person, as everyone has different values and emotional needs.
But in my opinion, there is no doubt that the wife is the most important woman in the hearts of men. She is the pillar of the family and the silent partner behind the man.
She accompanies the man through the ups and downs of life, sharing his joys and sorrows.
Married life is full of trivial things, but it is these simple happiness that make people cherish each other more.
Of course, this does not mean that lovers and best friends are not important. Each of them has left a unique mark on the person's life in a different way.
To sum up, in my opinion, the wife should be the most important woman in a man's heart.
She witnessed a man's growth and supported his family with love and generosity. No matter how beautiful the outside world is, the man will eventually return to the harbor where his wife waits, enjoying humble but sincere happiness.