Today I had dinner with my friends, and an important topic during the dinner was "getting rid of orders", which I believe is also a hot topic on the New Year's dinner table every year!
To be honest, there are really a lot of excellent independent women now, but it is difficult to find a satisfactory Ruyi Langjun. The excellent boys you can meet basically have an object, and it's not as good as your own, and you don't necessarily look at it, and then you're single.
During this period, I also wanted to help one of the very good female friends, student A, connect with a high-quality man, student A has been a top student since he was a child, and now he is a returnee, a doctor, and a university teacher. Then I thought of another excellent returnee friend B, who happened to be the manager of a returnee circle, and asked if there were any single male classmates in the circle of B with the mentality of trying it out, but B said helplessly: Mr. Wu, I have basically found what I am looking for at present, and those who do not want to find are not in a hurry to get married.
Yes, but if you want to find a high-quality returnee man, it is really simple, even if you are not good at socializing, there will be a group of matchmakers who will take the initiative to help introduce, and you don't have to worry at all.
As for the excellent girls, most of them are new women with independent thoughts, economic independence, and independent personalities, and they will not really find a random boy to marry in order to get married.
So, in this way, a contradiction arises. When I thought about it, the essential reason might be two words: "scarcity".
What does that mean? Why are high-quality boys easy to find a partner? Essentially, they are a scarce resource, and they are all sought-after in marriage agencies; And what about quality girls? If you look around, are there more and more excellent single women? They are excellent, but they are not scarce in the marriage market.
Although the essence of this is very heartfelt, it is the truth. Of course, the reasons for this must be complex, and they are all related to the economy, culture, social development, and demographic structure. Is there any good way to do that?
Yes, since I brought it up, I wanted to solve the problem! I think we can apply the first three habits in "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People": be proactive, start with the end in mind, and put things first.
1.Start with the end in mind: Make getting rid of orders the main goal of the year.
2.Be proactive: actively expand your social circle and increase your own popularity; As the old saying goes: men chase women across mountains, women chase men across the veil, and when you see the boy you like taking the initiative to pursue, at least take the initiative to give the other party a signal, that is, give him the opportunity to pursue you.
3.First of all: Within a year, your main social interaction revolves around the goal of getting rid of singles, and the social traffic that has nothing to do with this "important thing" is behind.
I believe that achieving these three habit requirements, not to mention 100% off the list, will at least improve the success rate. If you don't believe it, you can try it, and you won't lose if you try anyway!
In fact, doing so many actions, your purpose is to explore and occupy "scarce" resources, isn't this the underlying logic?
Also, not only high-quality girls, but also single boys with ordinary conditions, if you want to find girls with better quality than him, you can also use this logic, what is ordinary in the eyes of others may be excellent and scarce for you!
Come on, I wish all single friends in 2024 can make their wishes come true and get off the list smoothly!