Whether in the workplace or in the system, there is often such a phenomenon: the higher the level of the leader, the more cloudy and foggy when speaking, making it difficult for people to grasp the core content of the topic. Just like when we were new to reading comprehension questions in primary school, we always doubted that there were no standard answers to these questions.
One. Why does leadership like to make us guess? In fact, this is because level and responsibility are linked, and the higher the level, the greater the responsibility. In ancient times there were"One word" and"These words are all used to describe the weight of a person's speech, which can play a decisive role in the development of things. Therefore, these higher-level leaders will never easily express their positions and sign, because these are all responsible for them.
Imagine which of these leaders is not a person who has experienced strong winds and waves, and they all know very well that "be cautious in words and deeds.""The importance of the matter.
In addition, it is also because the leader is also observing and considering the emotional intelligence and comprehension ability of his subordinates when arranging the work, and he is examining whether the subordinates have understanding, and will take this as the standard for whether they can be promoted in the future.
Two. The importance of correctly understanding the intention of leadership is due to the above reasons, so how to lead from the leadership"The true intention of the words of "Cloud Mountain Fog Cover" plays a decisive role in the future development of the individual. We can even think of correctly understanding the intention of the leader as a kind of work ability that must be mastered, which is also the embodiment of personal emotional intelligence in the work. Of course this comprehension of others"The ability to "speak outside the system" can be used not only in the system or at work, but also in life outside the system.
For example, when a boy and a girl fall in love, they often feel that their girlfriend is inexplicably sulking. We removed some of the factors that girls were too tossing and tossing, more because the boys didn't understand their girlfriends' voices. Boys often say, "Tell me what you want!" ""What's the matter, you speak! “"What exactly do you want? "At this time, the girl will say, "I don't want anything!" ""It's okay, I'm fine. ""Okay, you go and play games with buddies. "If the boy really believes the superficial meaning of these words, everyone should be able to think of breaking up. Girls will think: you don't understand me, you are not my true love, my prince is not you.
Similarly. If a person does not understand the true intention of the leader at work, and the leader does not say it, he will definitely make a hard note in his heart: this person is too wooden and useless.
Three. How to accurately understand the true intention of the leader?
1.To have the consciousness of observing words and colors, and to have others in their eyes, first of all, I think that observing words and colors is not a skill, but a consciousness. When you first train yourself to observe words and colors, you may remind yourself all the time, but after using them, you will find that reading words and colors is like breathing. Do you deliberately control your breathing? Obviously, he won't, but he hasn't stopped breathing, because if you don't breathe, you can't do it, you're going to die. It's the same way you do it, and you don't even realize you're looking at it. A person who can do this is like opening the eyes of the sky, and often can see more details that others can't see.
So what is the observation of words and colors? The dictionary explanation is to ponder the other person's words and observe the other person's face in order to guess the other person's mind. In fact, to be more accurate, it is to gain insight into the character's inner thinking process and the decisions he makes based on a person's external emotional changes. When we say that we now say that observing words and colors seems to have added a little derogatory color invisibly, in fact, this word first came from the "Analects of Yan Yuan", which was Confucius answering Zizhang about"How can a taxi be called a master? The original sentence is"The person who is also a man of good quality and righteousness. Observe the words and look at the looks, and consider the following". Therefore, even Confucius believed that if you want to be accessible, you must learn to read words and looks, and consider others (others in your eyes).
2.Accurately distinguish the styles of different leaders (personalities, characteristics, hobbies, etc.), as the saying goes"Thousands of people, thousands of moods, thousands of appearances"Everyone is different, and there are no one-size-fits-all rules in this world, especially when it comes to judging people. The leader is also an ordinary person, he also has his own joys, sorrows, likes and dislikes, so the key point is that you have to spend time with the leader"Take the pulse". You can hold the lead"Pulse", I'm afraid that I can't see through the leader's "heart disease.""？Some leaders belong to the centralized power type, and they like to make their own decisions about everything, like to speak in a word, and have the final say. Some leaders belong to the openness of power, are cautious everywhere, like to study and study everything, and everyone makes ideas together.
Some leaders have a heavy sense of responsibility, are generally relatively young, and want to go further, so they must do everything personally. Some leaders belong to the chaotic type of living a day less than three days, and they don't like to make things too complicated. Therefore, we must consider the human factor before doing things, and we can't see things without seeing people, after all, when we judge how this thing is done, it is not only the perspective of engagement, but also people's feelings. As the old saying goes:"If you can't do your job, you'll be exhausted and useless.
One thing that strikes me about correctly distinguishing between different leadership styles strikes me in particular. We might as well refer to them as leader x and leader y. Leader X was a soldier before, and then transferred to the local area and was promoted step by step, he is the centralized leader we mentioned above, he likes to make decisions about everything, and he doesn't like people to go against him, and even in some more important meetings, he directly interrupted the speeches of the deputy positions of other teams, and said strongly that this matter is so decided, just do as I say.
Moreover, the leader X likes fake democracy, that is, he likes to put democracy verbally, and if you have any opinions, let's sit down and talk about it. But if anyone really disagrees without opening his eyes, he will feel very uncomfortable in his heart, but this discomfort will not explode on the spot, and will definitely be left on other occasions in the future to return to those who disagree.
So in front of this kind of leader, you just do it"Wherever it is called, everyone will be happy. Why bother to find yourself unhappy and attract leaders to hold grudges. You must remember that in the system, it is always the official level that crushes people to death, so don't twist your own arms and other people's thighs. Not everything has to be right and wrong, good and bad, many times I see other lower-level leaders fighting with leaders for trivial things, and their necks are thick, and their hearts will be anxious for them.
There is no doubt that these people who are red-faced with the leader X will be adjusted in the next cadre adjustment. Because if you insist too much on your own ideas in front of this controlling leader, you will be considered to be working against the leader. This kind of behavior is obvious disobedience, once you are labeled as disobedience within the system, no matter how capable the leader is, he will not use you. You say"I'm not right about things and not about people", when can we clearly distinguish things from people in the system? After so many years of history, which dynasty and generation have done things and people are people?
The style of leader Y and leader X is very different, and it is typical of the cautious miniature. Leader Y has a habit of often liking some of the superiors' clean government articles in our internal WeChat group, such as what new regulations or so-and-so has been punished for something, such as what red lines can not be touched or the bottom line cannot be stepped on by Communist Party members, etc., so it is easy to think that this is a leader who is very afraid of making mistakes.
Therefore, when we see this kind of leadership, we must be cautious in our work, especially to pay attention to some small details. For example, the province organizes a joint meeting in our unit every year. Because all the cadres who came were department-level cadres and some department-level cadres who accompanied them, some tea breaks were arranged for the meeting every year. The director of the office of the unit didn't think much about it, but arranged the tea break in the same way as before, which was actually a very simple coffee, black tea and some small snacks.
That night, the leader Y was not worried about the arrangement of the venue, so he called the director of the office and called me to the venue to check again. When Leader Y arrived at the venue and saw the arranged coffee breaks, he was furious, loudly reprimanded the office director for not telling him in advance, and asked the office director to remove these tea breaks quickly. He said that it is now the period of strict investigation, why are you so bold and rise to the level of the chief of office who does not talk about politics.
The director of the office was scolded for his blood spray, and he was also very aggrieved in his heart, he had always been like this before, and these drinks were just more decent than boiled water, which was really not extravagant and wasteful, but how dare he say these words. Let's analyze the reason why the director of the office was scolded, isn't it that he did not grasp the pulse of the current leader, and did not make appropriate adjustments according to the style of the leader in time, and it is reasonable to be scolded.
3.Be good at grasping the position and interests of the leader - individuals can perfectly hide their joys and angers, can perfectly manage their expressions, and can perfectly control their words and deeds, but when faced with the issue of positions and interests, they will inevitably show their fangs and tails. When judging a person, if you are accustomed to thinking about things from his position and interests, you will not make too many mistakes. There was a section member in my original unit, let's call him Little K. This person belongs to the kind of person who only looks up with his eyes, that is, there is only a leader in his eyes, because he has offended many people because of this character. This person also has his own specialty, that is, he is very good at "doing things in the heart of the leader". If the leader has high blood pressure, he can ask someone to buy special antihypertensive drugs from abroad; The leader likes to walk, so he follows the leader every day; If the electric light or water pipe in the leader's house is broken, he will fix it as soon as possible.
People are emotional, and they are quite appreciated by the leaders when they come and go, and later because of this relationship, they were even mentioned to the level of deputy department in a short period of time. However, this person's mass base is too poor, and almost no one in the unit is willing to have too much contact with him. He was also happy to be quiet, relying on himself to hug his thighs, and didn't take everyone's snub seriously. Every year there will be units"One report and two reviews"Not surprisingly, the newly promoted deputy director received a very low percentage of votes that year, not exceeding the prescribed rate, so it was necessary for the organizational department of the unit to write a report to explain the situation to the above. The report was very informative and provided a full account of the shortcomings and shortcomings of the Deputy Director"argumentation". After the report was written, the organization department showed the report to the leader, and the leader was very unhappy after reading it, so he directly asked the organization department to take it back and rewrite it. Why? Obviously, the problem has been written clearly.
The reason is that the comrades of the organization department forgot that the deputy department was promoted by the leader, and the clearer the report was written, the louder the slap became. Later, the comrades of the Organization Department changed it to"The deputy director of the division adheres to principles in his usual work, which leads to offending people in his words and deeds, and he does not pay much attention to ways and means in the process of work, so some comrades do not understand it very well. "Then I showed it to the leader, and the leader signed it without saying anything.
4. Several tips for comprehending the intention of leadership are all relatively large aspects, and the content of thinking is more than the actual operation content. In order to make better use of this course, here are a few tips from the technical level.
5. Ask more questions and ask for more instructions, the solutions to many things are actually very simple, but we make them complicated ourselves. Some young people may have a fear of leaders because they usually have less contact with leaders, thinking that leaders are high up and cannot be approached. In fact, if you have more contact, you will slowly find that leaders are also ordinary people, and he has the seven emotions and six desires of ordinary people, so you should treat him as a respectable elder.
When you first enter the system, when you still have little social experience, when the stakes are high but you are confused about things, you might as well ask more questions. Even if you think your boss is not mature enough, it's much better than getting things wrong and causing more trouble. Asking more questions is not to ask repeatedly, but to ask at critical times, don't pretend to understand and deceive yourself.
The skill of asking more questions does not conflict with the content of guessing the leader's intentions that we talked about today, and when you are at a loss, you may be able to solve the problem just because of one more question. "Speculation on the Holy Will" is not something that anyone can do, and before you have the ability, you must first make sure that you do not do things wrong. "One mistake eliminates ten merits, and ten merits are difficult to pass", if you want to walk steadily in the future, you should always keep the idea of making fewer mistakes in mind.
6. When appropriate, you can repeat the leader's words again, or you can think that it is a different way to say it again.
For example, tomorrow someone from above will come to inspect the unit, and the leader said that he will send the car he often takes to pick him up. But the leader usually has two cars and often sits. How do you know which one it is at this time. So you should say: did you mean to send xx's car to pick it up?Whether you say right or wrong, the leader will clearly tell you a result.
7. We often say that we must think from the perspective of the leader, but the premise is that we must know what the leader is thinking. Not everyone has the opportunity to get close to the leader, but you can communicate more with the people around the leader, such as the leader's secretary, driver or office director, and pay attention to building a good relationship with them.
And there will be some in every office"Ears and tongue"Relatively long people, although these people are usually more annoying, they like to go through some scandals or gossip when they have nothing to do, but don't underestimate their role, these people's gossip is sometimes faster than official news, and the credibility is relatively high. For these people, you might as well give some small favors, and they may help you a lot at critical moments.
8.Pay attention to the true intentions of the leader inadvertently, many times the leader will read the speech to the end according to the speech on the stage, you can not pay too much attention to these contents, because these speeches are all work needs. You should pay special attention to the fact that in the course of his speech, when the leader raises his head and departs from the speech manuscript to play freely, at this time, his repeated mood on certain issues and his own understanding of certain issues are his true intentions.
There are many times, such as when going out to research, when chatting on the plane, or even when playing cards, you often inadvertently reveal your personal likes and dislikes.
Written in the back of the thousands of roads, hard work first. Only learn but not practice, the teacher has two lines of tears. You can't know how powerful these things are if you just read them, you have to use them in your work to see them. The road is long, I advise you to be a man of action.