The psychologist Adler once said, "Maturity is not about understanding things, but about understanding human nature." ”
However, there are both commonalities and individual differences in human nature, and there is no fixed formula that can accurately calculate and perfectly display the human characteristics of each person.
Only by clarifying the common points of human nature, getting along with others with heart, seeing through without saying anything, and keeping a proper distance, can we avoid harm and live a good life.
1.Adversity knows people's hearts
Shen Congwen said: "Great sorrow and joy can see yourself clearly, and big ups and downs can see friends clearly." ”
In the great sorrow and joy, the enlightenment, see yourself clearly and experience yourself; Test people's hearts in the ups and downs, see friends and screen friends.
And friends are to "share the blessings and difficulties", and the real friends should not only share the blessings and shares, but more importantly, the difficulties together.
However, it is human nature to be able to "share blessings and shares", and it is human character to be able to "share difficulties".
When he is in a high position, there are many people who are icing on the cake; When you are at a low point, there are few people who send charcoal in the snow.
As the saying goes, "knowing people, knowing faces, but not knowing hearts", you only know the external appearance of others, but you can't know the inner thoughts of others.
Only when you encounter adversity can you truly understand the hearts of those around you.
Those who can still lend a helping hand when you are in despair are your true friends.
2.Interests see character
There are no eternal friends, no eternal enemies, only eternal interests.
The relationship between people is actually very simple, and it can be said that it is almost entirely determined by interests.
Because of the existence of interests, friends and enemies can be transformed into each other, and relatives can also turn against each other.
When there is no conflict of interest, everyone around you is friends, and there is peace and tranquility.
Once there is a benefit, everyone will show their original form and begin to tear their faces unscrupulously in order to compete for interests.
No matter how strong the relationship is, as long as the interests are big enough, it is difficult to survive to the end.
Don't believe in character too much, be fully mentally prepared, and don't be surprised to be betrayed by your friends.
If you can't protect your own interests, you must protect your heart, face it calmly when you encounter betrayal, and you can't fall down.
3.Get along with each other and know your personality
Personality is a comprehensive embodiment of a person's character, temperament, behavior, thoughts, abilities, etc., and is an important criterion for evaluating a person, not formed overnight.
People with charismatic personality are welcomed by everyone by virtue of their own advantages. Not by money or by material things, but entirely by themselves.
If you want to know what a person's personality is, you can't just listen to others, you can only know if you have personally spent time with him.
In this world, in fact, everyone is living with masks, and they may show different faces in front of different people.
In front of people who are stronger than themselves and useful to themselves, and in front of people who are inferior to themselves and useless to themselves, such people can maintain the same attitude, such people are truly noble.
Only by being with each other in person can you truly understand a person's personality.
Write at the end
You can't have the heart to hurt others, and you can't have the heart to defend people. People are complex, and getting along with people is not easy.
Adversity knows people's hearts, interests see character, get along with people to know personality, and dealing with people is dealing with human nature.
May you be able to protect yourself from being hurt by others.