In terms of interpersonal relationships, some people are always able to build a good relationship and are loved and respected by everyone, while others are always ridiculed and passive. I have always been a person who can be easily manipulated, but through continuous learning and practice, I have found the secret of being popular without manipulation, and I will share it with you today.
The secret is to stay true to yourself and stick to your principles.
I constantly give up my principles and bottom line in order to please others. As a result, instead of earning the respect and affection of others, I fell into a passive and painful situation. Since then, I have started to reflect on my actions and decided to change myself.
I began to learn to say "no" and refuse unreasonable requests and demands. When someone wants to take advantage of me, I will firmly state my position and opinion and let them know that I am a principled and courageous person.
Of course, this is not to make yourself stubborn and withdrawn, but to learn to respect the opinions and feelings of others while maintaining yourself. If we can understand and respect others while still sticking to our principles, we can have truly healthy and equal relationships.
Mencius said, "Something must be done, and then something must be done." This sentence shows that a person knows how to say no, knows how to stick to principles, and it tells us that only by doing something truly meaningful.
Life is full of such examples. For example, at work, if you are always blindly responding to the requests of your boss or colleagues without thinking about the efficiency or quality of your own work, you may feel endlessly busy and exhausted. On the contrary, if you can stick to the principles of work and manage your time and tasks reasonably, you will not only be more productive, but also earn the respect and trust of others.
For example, in a relationship, if you keep giving up your interests and hobbies to cater to the other person, you will eventually lose yourself and become dull and boring. Conversely, if we can protect our lifestyle and values while understanding and supporting each other's choices and decisions, we can build healthy, equal, and mutually respectful relationships.
Defending oneself and adhering to principles is a very important attitude and code of conduct. When we do this, we can build truly healthy, equal, and meaningful relationships while also making ourselves more confident, independent, and worthy.
I hope everyone can find their own secret to becoming popular, live the life they want, and not be manipulated by anyone.