The mother of three children cried on the flyover, and the social pressure was high, which resonated!
The mother of three children stood on the flyover and cried bitterly, and every word she said was so true.
In the article, Yang Lan, a well-known host, talked about what women are facing today"Triple dilemma": Career and family choices.
There is a famous saying that is touching: if you can take care of your family, they will expect you to achieve something in your career; They want you to love your child, but don't pretend to care.
Many people understand this. The criteria for a "good mother" are often harsh. You have to be a successful and successful woman, both to take care of your husband and to the satisfaction of your family and loved ones.
This includes taking care of children, guiding them in their studies, and raising children. But if you only think about your children and give up your job to be with them, you're done"Housewife"Finish.
My social circle is getting smaller and smaller, and I desperately want a job", a mother who is about to give birth to her third child is on the verge of depression.
The flyover seems to have become a cathartic for modern people"Harbor"And we often see people experiencing loneliness and frustration. A woman looked at the traffic and hesitated.
Eventually, she finally came to her senses, but when she was insulted, her long-suppressed feelings exploded.
This short comment may resonate in the hearts of many mothers. Once you have children, you can find yourself drifting away from your colleagues who are still struggling at work. Sometimes, friends who think you are close and have a lot of common topics will also become silent because of you.
After all, no matter how busy they are, parents can feel lost, which is not the same as when they go to work. On the other hand, outsiders don't seem to want to be housewives.
Sometimes, when communicating problems encountered at work, the other party may find it difficult to understand; Discussing performance may be seen as a show. On this rare weekend, mothers can pick up chopsticks first, and then go to coax crying children.
Netizens have mixed opinions on this. Some sympathized with her plight, but also said it would be forgivable if she had only one child. If she wants to give birth to three, she knows that it is not easy to give birth to children, and her self-adjustment ability is limited, isn't she asking for hardship?
In the comments, the truth is revealed and resonates; The answer to the question of whether parenting is easy or not may not be clear. One woman said that she was crushed by carrying three children alone and sending them to different schools. Many netizens expressed sympathy and indignation at this.
If a person has a lot of energy and has to carry three small children, it is too bad. In addition, the way of raising children is very different from before. Do you think it's okay to let the kids go to school and kindergarten?
Especially in elementary school, you have to guide your child not only through homework, but also on what is seen"Parental Responsibilities"work such as handicraft, painting and so on. If you are a little slow to respond to the class, even the teacher will make fun of you for "not caring enough about education".
Not every family can afford to hire more than one nanny or governess. Therefore, many netizens say that there is no definite answer to whether raising children is hard or not.
After all, raising a child is both labor-intensive and economical. Some families are wealthy, and their families value their mothers more. Since there is no financial pressure and the elderly people in the family do not deliberately engage in complicated interpersonal relationships, it is a pleasure for them to have three children.
In some families, raising children becomes a burden for both the elderly and the elderly. Just like some netizens said: Do you think that only work can crush people? I have to work and take care of children, and I am really helpless.
At the same time, it is also necessary to take responsibility for fertility issues. A video circulating on the Internet shows that they can't afford a luxury car because they don't have a $50 shopping voucher. Similar to that, though.
Second, the three-child policy has been relaxed, but the number of families that can consider having children is very limited.
Many people feel that modern people get married late, or do not have children, which is a taste of selfishness. However, such a view is even more selfish and short-sighted, because they are not aware of the situation of this generation.
In the workplace, many people feel that finding a job is easy and pays well, and it also frees up some time to take care of their families. In a family, no matter how harmonious the relationship between people is, when the material life cannot be satisfied, all kinds of conflicts will arise.
Even the woman on the overpass, many people are puzzled by this, knowing that it is difficult for them to gain the trust of their relatives, why would they believe that others have three children? My husband can't afford to raise four people alone, why do you have so many children?
It can only be said that he caused all this single-handedly. Sometimes, the so-called responsibility is to have a clear understanding of one's own situation and ability, and carefully choose whether to have a child, rather than casually wanting a second child.
What do you think of this girl?