The phenomenon of umbrella-tearing parents is widespread, and the education method needs to be carefully reflected!
There are many that seem to be cultured"Umbrella parents"In fact, their lives are terrible!
Once upon a time, education to:"Severe punishment and strict law"Corporal punishment is used to make students remember their mistakes and avoid making the same mistakes again. Although this method is no longer recommended, the impact of quality education on parents is great, and their educational concepts are becoming more and more new. However,"Umbrella parents"Not unusual.
Tear the umbrella"The term originated on the Internet and describes tearing someone's umbrella on a rainy day, when a teacher asked his classmates to leave their books in a hallway to prevent cheating in an elementary school exam.
As a first-hand experiencer, I can deeply understand the thoughts and intentions of future generations. This phenomenon occurs not only among teachers, but also in:"Umbrella parents"These people are so lax in educating their students that they don't know anything.
When parents educate their children, they often say, "I have suffered hardship, you have never seen it." "Many parents take the trick of elementary school students as their own, so they feel that they understand the minds of their students, and they use methods that they think are effective, and they think that this is the best way to educate.
In a ** that circulated on the Internet, a girl was talking to her father in the car: "Dad, you have a flaw Sometimes you make other people unhappy I don't think it's a good thing, could you please change it?" After saying her opinion, the girl hoped to be affirmed by her father. However, Dad said firmly"Nope"γHe believes that as long as he deliberately provokes a girl, the girl will calm down and be like an invincible flower. This is the most common phrase used by parents: "I'm here for you." β
Seeing this scene, instead of thinking that my parents' education method was right, on the contrary, I felt a kind of sadness. As a parent, who doesn't want their children to be able to endure hardships and stand hard work, not afraid of wind and rain? Because I have a clear understanding of the concept of education in the process of children's growth, I began to use the use of dismantling students"Umbrella"γ
This type of education looks good, but it can make children more emotional and cruel. In the process of growing up, teenagers will have a rebellious mentality and dislike the words and deeds of their parents, which will lead to a growing distance from their parents. However, some parents are smug and think that they have achieved something, when in fact they have done everything that they hated in the past, and it is just another way to transfer the damage they have suffered in the past to their children.
Use it or not"Tear the umbrella"It depends on the situation. The purpose of the teacher's teaching method is to encourage students to work hard, develop good study habits, develop good study habits, and avoid relying on textbooks or cheating in exams. This approach is commendable. However,"Tear the umbrella"It is not always valid for parents, but it is analysed on a case-by-case basis.
If the child really has a problem, such as falling or crying, the parents have to do something to break it"Enchantments"to get your child back on track. But if it artificially makes it more difficult for students to learn, it is not necessary.
I believe that children will experience many setbacks on the road of growth, and when children encounter problems, what parents need to do is to give them proper guidance, help them in a timely manner, and let them learn to solve problems. Artificially setting up difficult problems not only fails to achieve the educational effect of students, but also may cause students to have low self-esteem, timidity and lack of self-confidence.
Both parents learned from older generations, and they know it very well"Humiliation"or"Self-excitation"Pain and depression caused by educational methods. Today's education methods also need to keep up with the times. If we continue to follow the teaching mode of our predecessors, we will inevitably enter a vicious circle, which is not conducive to the growth of students.
Parents often put themselves in the picture"Someone who came over"I want to see through the hearts of children and pave the way for their future. However, excessive anxiety limits students' right to make independent choices to a certain extent, and also cuts off the communication channels between them and their parents, making the phenomenon of "willfulness" continue to be prohibited.
Those who have experienced it can better understand the real needs of children, and they also need more respect and understanding. Parents should start from the child's point of view, look at things from the child's point of view, and don't put on a high-minded and commanding appearance, so that the family can become parents"One word"γ
Pay attention to listening to their perspectives during the teaching process. Parents should use this as a basis to discover their strengths, praise more, belittle less, and don't follow"Someone else's home"The children should be allowed to grow up slowly, not forced.
Parents look back at their experiences and also think about what they expect from their children's education. They must be aware of their own problems and can no longer let go"Tragedy"Replay.
Author's Comments] Parents are former children, and they should understand the difficulties of this issue. When educating students, know when to do it"Tear the umbrella", when to should"Hold an umbrella"In this way, we can create a positive family atmosphere for children, so that they can grow up more confident, sunny and happy. The topic you have to your parents"Hold an umbrella"What do you think of the move?
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