I'm a staff member in the system, and my name is Aya. My life was uneventful, but it was very pleasant. Every **9 to 5, I get along well with my colleagues in the office, and my work is quite smooth.
Wang Bin is my male colleague and has a sense of humor. We have a very good relationship with each other, and we can say that we are like sworn friends. He joined me two years earlier, and he often helped me at work, occasionally I would invite him to have some afternoon tea, and after work, we would occasionally eat together and complain about the unhappiness at work. I have always felt that it is not easy to meet such a colleague at work.
Whenever I encounter difficulties or are in a bad mood, Wang Bin is always the first to stand up and support me, which makes me feel very warm and grateful. Sometimes I would jokingly say to him, "Oh, you have to tell me when you have a girlfriend, and we have to keep our distance so that she doesn't get jealous." Whenever he hears it, Wang Bin always smiles and doesn't speak.
I never thought that there would be any change between us, until I found out that Wang Bin seemed to be deliberately making some ambiguous gestures to me, such as giving me small gifts, chatting with me frequently, complimenting me on my beauty from time to time, and so on.
This kind of behavior with male and female feelings bothered and embarrassed me, and I began to realize that Wang Bin may have developed more emotions for me.
Once, when I had a mistake in conference work, Wang Bin did me a great favor at a critical time, so I decided to invite him to a meal to express my gratitude.
After eating, Wang Bin said that the courtesy was still exchanged, and he wanted to invite me back to watch a movie, and he chose "Don't Stop the Annual Meeting" that we discussed two days ago that we wanted to watch, so I didn't think much about it, so I agreed.
However, on the way home, Wang Bin suddenly stopped the car on the side of the road, turned around, and kissed me.
I was shocked and embarrassed, and I froze there at a loss, filled with confusion and uneasiness. Until I got home, I was in a state of confusion, not knowing how to deal with this sudden change.
And when I tried to explain to him that we were just ordinary friends, Wang Bin said, "We are all kissed, and we are already in love."
What shocked me even more was that I actually saw Wang Bin "vaguely" officially announcing our relationship on the circle of friends, with a photo of our previous trade union activities. At work, even our colleagues make jokes about us, intentionally or unintentionally.
I tried to communicate with Wang Bin and explain that we were not a couple, but he was unwilling to accept my explanation. He threatened that if I dared to propose a breakup, he would be in the unit, saying that I had seduced him, but dumped him again.
One time when we were arguing about this again, Wang Bin's behavior got out of control, yelling loudly downstairs in my dormitory, claiming that I had betrayed him, and refusing to admit our relationship. The onlookers of my colleagues made me feel embarrassed and didn't know what to do.
Now I am exhausted by this "relationship" that I made out of nothing, and I don't know how to solve this dilemma, on the one hand, we are all in the system, and it is simply unrealistic to resign, on the other hand, I don't want to be misunderstood and bound by Wang Bin.
I felt completely helpless and didn't know who to turn to get me out of this situation and bring peace back to ...... life