The world is unpredictable, life is cool several times, and the impermanent life deserves more warmth. After Ye Tan fell ill, he put down the sword in his hand, picked up the love in his heart, opened Sister Tan's mailbox, interacted with netizens, replied to netizens regularly, and warmed netizens. [email protected], you have life, family, work, career, illness, pain, ......Anyone who wants to talk can find Sister Tan.
Netizen Tina wrote a letter, she is an unmarried woman in her 30s, wandering between career and family, asking for Sister Tan's opinion.
(Letter from netizens).
I am grateful to have such an opportunity to connect with you, so that I can get closer to life and feel the strong energy of life. The life of people in the world may not be all angry, but when they are born to die, they will burst out with more vigorous vitality and overcome obstacles in this world.
I am a girl in her early thirties, unmarried and childless. At this age, it will be somewhat embarrassing to still achieve nothing.
After graduating from college for 7 years and the epidemic for more than 3 years, my job was hit hard and I had to start all over again.
Fortunately, I have been diligent in reflection, and I have been accumulating experience in the field of education, and I have my own unique perceptions and methods, so I am currently exploring the possibility of my own independent career, and I hope that everything will go smoothly in the future.
Exploring my heart, I want the happiness and joy of growing up with children, and I also want the sense of accomplishment of gaining a career that truly belongs to me.
I never seemed to have doubts about which was more important, but when I reached the age of thirty, I had some hesitation and doubts in my heart.
I knew that such a vacillating mindset would make me unable to get results between the two options.
Choosing marriage, I admit and accept it in disguise, to be mediocre and inactive for a considerable period of time, I don't know if it is possible to turn the tables in the future; Choosing to fight against the odds to make a career is equivalent to basically giving up my right and possibility to be a mother wholeheartedly.
For the problem that there is still a struggle in the heart, I want to ask the woman:
If you look back at your 30s and choose again, will you fight for your career or choose your family?
(Ye Tan replied).
Look at the causes. If God gives us the ability and the environment to start a business, why not have a hard time?
If you meet a loved one, don't miss it, a good marriage can only be cultivated in 500 years.
Women have the freedom to be financially independent and ideologically independent in order to have self-esteem and the freedom to avoid being reduced to the object of choice.
On the other hand, a good marriage is not easy, it is not something you can have if you give up your career, and the weight on both sides is not equal.
Good things always work for each other, not for each other.
I'm afraid that women will give up their careers, give up themselves, find scumbags, become resentful women for the sake of scumbags, and worry about wrinkles and abandonment every day.
As for myself, I am always grateful to God for allowing me to have so many experiences, so many opportunities, and so much gain. No, now I have met a self-aware woman again.
I'm sure you can understand.
I wish no internal friction and no entanglement!