Every time I ask my child to do his homework, he always has various reasons to prevaricate, one will drink water, and the other will go to the toilet.
Many parents have no choice but to take their children, and they can't forcefully order their children to do it, and many parents rely on "outwitting" to let their children complete things obediently and no longer procrastinate.
Poor willpower
Children have no requirements for themselves, no principles for doing things, and their own temperament. And laziness is human nature, the choice of easy to abandon the difficult is the easiest choice, if not trained and guided in the day after tomorrow, the child is easy to have poor willpower, do everything like to procrastinate, especially the usual homework, do not drag until the last resort, he is not calm to complete, in fact, this is a typical psychological escape.
The child's rebellious mentality
Some children are not born with procrastination, nor is it due to their personality. But they also have this problem, it may be that their parents usually discipline him too strictly and too harshly, so they have a rebellious mentality, deliberately working against their parents, such children are often very angry and stubborn.
I am an excellent example, when I was a child, naughty and disobedient, was "taught" by my mother, when it was time to eat, I was angry not to eat, my mother called twice, saw that I was still sitting firmly on Mount Tai, so I took the family law to "invite me", I immediately ran to the table, but to the table, I was still angry, so I deliberately slowed down the speed of eating, and then my mother was angry with me, so I "taught" again.
Let your child be in control of their own pace
Fan Deng once shared a little story about his son Dudu, one day, Fan Deng's mother-in-law came to the house as a guest, and at night, Dudu had been sitting there watching TV, and grandma couldn't help but ask Dudu, is the homework done? Doodoo said, no.
Grandma was anxious at the time, and said loudly: Why don't you go to do your homework immediately, it's so grinding.
Dudu was unhappy, Fan Deng hurriedly went over to comfort his grandmother and said that Dudu had always controlled his own time, and Dudu also asked his father proudly: Dad, which time did you say I didn't write my homework? Fan Deng said: It's all done very well. Grandma stopped talking.
Children will have their own rhythm, just like sometimes they are lazy and like to arrange their own time.
When parents have let their children grasp the concept of time, and also train their children to master the importance of time-limited efficiency, they can let their children control their own rhythm, instead of parents desperately urging, the reality is that the more parents urge, the more rebellious the child may be, the more slow it is.
Parents lead by example and have a good habit of doing it right away and doing it ahead of schedule
* When doing something, there is a 72-hour rule, that is, if you want to do something and you don't start within 72 hours, then the chances of doing it again after that will be much smaller.
Nike's slogan is: Just do it! A popular sentence in the world, because the world of ** is also full of laziness and procrastination, you can take this just do it as a motto and stick it in a striking place at home, and parents should also "do it immediately" when doing things on weekdays, and set an example for their children.
In addition to doing it immediately, you should also have the habit of completing it in advance, for example, you can share your work with your children, the original deadline was 30 days, and you will set the time to complete it on 28 days, so that it will be abundant, and share the benefits of early completion with your children, and your children will naturally be affected.
Kobayashi's son has a serious oneProcrastinationEvery day, we must advance the time so that the child can be on time, urge the child to sleep, the child is always playing with toys and reading books without wavering, urging the child to get dressed, but the child is still rolling in bed. And the most serious thing is that it takes 20 minutes for the child to go to the toilet, and every time he goes to the toilet, Xiaolin has to accompany him to play games. In the face of the child's serious procrastination, Xiao Lin thought of an excellent way, which is to make two time lists, one is the child's healthy and normal work and rest time, and the other is the child's usual procrastination. And make an agreement with your child that if you complete what you need to do every day according to a healthy schedule, you will have a small reward, otherwise, there will be a punishment. As soon as the child heard that there was a reward, he obediently did it! Sure enough, within a few days, the child's procrastination was gone at all.
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
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Who stole my time" guides children to arrange their time reasonably and not to do "little procrastination".
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Writing homework is no longer difficult for me" tells children that writing homework is actually very simple.
I'm not afraid of exams" tells children that by doing so, they can get good grades.
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