Children's friction is in the hearts of many parents"It's hard to get old"Finish. asked them to go to dinner, stared at the TV and refused to leave, and after ten minutes they still sat and refused to moveIn the morning, when they go to school and get up, they have to sleep for another ten minutesI asked them to do their homework at night, and they just refused to sit at their desks.
To deal with children who are grinding, most parents' methods are to urge, urging twice if it doesn't work once, and three times if it doesn't work twice. But urging the child all the time is actually the next policy. What should parents do in the face of their children?
To correct your child's procrastination, you must first understand why he is procrastinatingIn the early years of children, not only is their cognition and experience still very shallow, but their understanding of time is also insufficient. At this time, children almost do not recognize the preciousness of time, and they do not have the ability to arrange time reasonably, which leads to the fact that children themselves do not realize that procrastination is a bad thing.
There are also times when the child lacks interest in doing the thingLack of motivation, or difficulty in achieving goals, can also lead to children being reluctant to do it, thus procrastinating. Of course, it is not excluded that when children are bored and rebellious in their hearts, they deliberately work against their parents.
Whatever the situation causes your child to start procrastinating, it is worth being wary of as parents. Once this kind of Xi habit is formed, it will not only make the child procrastinate and inefficient, but also disrupt the child's work and rest and affect the rest;It also leads to children being prone to inattention and distraction, and it is also difficult to form good Xi of self-discipline and self-reliance.
The following three methods are worth learning from.
Give the child back the control of the time
Every time I argue with my child, my child will always say that 10 minutes have not yet arrived!The truth is that children can't define how long 10 minutes is, and mothers always think that children are cheating, but in fact, you are talking about chickens and ducks. At this point, it's time to give the child back the lead, for example, in this case, I'll say, "Tell me, how many minutes are you?"Let your child think for himself, and after a few times, he will understand how long 5 minutes or 10 minutes are. You can also use a timer to remind him when the time is up.
Supervise and encourage
Many parents will pay too much attention to their children when they are doing homework, and this attention will also make them feel very stressed, and the speed of writing homework will slow down a lot. Therefore, it is recommended that parents should not supervise their children and not put too much pressure on their children. In addition, if the child has a lot of homework, it is best for parents not to force the child not to be distracted in the middle of the homework, on the contrary, do homework for a while, parents can let the child play with his favorite toys for a while, such as building block toys such as boats in a collection bottle. In addition, playing with building block toys can also allow children to change their brains that have become chaotic because of learning Xi, after all, only the combination of work and rest can make children's thinking smoother.
Improve your child's ability and avoid urging
When the child is procrastinating due to poor ability, we must not urge again and again, but should focus on encouragement and improve the child's ability in a targeted manner. For example, some children may have poor fine motor skills, we can guide children to do more games to exercise fine motor skills, such as paper cutting, puzzles, building blocks, etc., some children may have difficulty concentrating, we can let children try to play balance beams, swings and other games, and gradually guide children to calm down and improve their concentration ability.
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning Xi methods, the stronger the child's Xi in learning.
I would like to share with you a set of books that teach children to learn time management, "Watch at School" series.
This set of 8 books is suitable for children in the lower grades, and corresponds to the key issues in children's learning Xi, such as how to manage their time and how to complete homework easily.
Who stole my time" guides children to arrange their time reasonably and not to do "little procrastination".
This book can help children easily understand what going to school is all about.
Writing homework is no longer difficult for me" tells children that writing homework is actually very simple.
I'm not afraid of exams" tells children that by doing so, they can get good grades.
A set of 8 volumes, ** is not expensive, but it can cultivate children's time management skills and become excellent children.
Through humorous and imaginative stories, the book adds appropriate fairy tale colors to real life, and tells the story to the hearts of children.
While reading the story, the book also proposes many practical ways to teach children how to manage their time and how to better complete their homework ......
This set of extracurricular reading materials imported from South Korea can help children quickly adapt to school life, cultivate good XiXi learning habits, and develop good time management Xi habits from an early age.