After graduating, many college students cannot find a job, and very few are able to study for a doctorate. There was a college student who got a Ph.D., came out and was assigned a job, worked in a private company, and earned a lot of money, but he still had to work hard to manage his own life. After some operation, the level of life seems to have improved a lot, but it is very hard and makes the family feel worthless, but in his own opinion, it is very worthwhile.
It took him more than 20 years of hard study to finish his Ph.D. During his doctoral studies, he was oppressed by his supervisor. The mentor started a business and asked him to help in the past, but he only gave him a little pocket money every month, and there were no allowances and subsidies. I finally survived until I graduated with a doctorate, found a job in a private company, earned a lot of money, with an annual salary of more than 300,000 yuan, found a partner, and got married quickly. The wife's annual salary is also hundreds of thousands, which is quite a high income. But if they want to buy a house in a big city, they have to drain their six wallets and take out a loan to buy a house. However, they all have hope that the future will be better. Although the current days are tight, and even beyond the means, in the end, you can still earn it back.
Soon, a child was born in the family. If you spend more money and have to pay off the mortgage, your money will be tighter. However, it can get through. College students have become the breadwinners of their families and need to change jobs to earn more money. The job change went smoothly and earned more money, but his time was almost gone, and he couldn't even go back to his hometown to visit his parents during the Chinese New Year. Children grow up quickly, but they have to be raised by educated people. Therefore, let the woman's parents take the child, but will not let their parents take the child. Because his parents live in the countryside and don't have much education, while his wife's parents live in a big city, they are knowledgeable and educated, and they have nothing to do after retirement, just to take care of their children, and they can save money for hiring a nanny.
He has long planned the trajectory of his life, to settle down in the city, to find a woman in the city to marry, to let the child settle in the big city after birth, and to enjoy the treatment of the big city. In this way, if you are steady and follow the plan, you will get good results. Step by step, I really followed the plan, and I really got a lot of treatment from the city. Although he and his daughter-in-law earn a lot of money, they still need to be frugal to support the family. If you can settle down in a big city and continue to live, even if you are a city person, even if your child is admitted to a key university in a big city in the future, you will get a discount.
You must not save money in the training of children, you need to spend money. So, they engaged in prenatal education before the child was born, entered the prenatal education tutorial class, and paid a lot of tuition fees. After the child is born, it is necessary to eat imported milk powder. When the child reaches the age of one, they hire a tutor for the child to specialize in bilingual teaching. When the child is three years old, he has to hold a summer camp and a winter camp, and let the family follow, which costs a lot of money, but they are willing to do it. As a result, both husband and wife do not have much time for themselves, and both spend most of their time in private businesses, and they do not even have time to take care of their children, but they can pay for others to take care of them. You can find a tutor, you can find a father-in-law and mother-in-law to take care of you. I finally took a little time to take my children to the Children's Palace to learn **, learn art, dance, tea ceremony and so on. Poor little child, he has learned a lot of things at a few years old, and he is very smart, but he has lost the happiness that a child of that age should have. And their family seems to be very busy, there is no time to take the children for leisure and entertainment, except for work is to raise children, and it seems to follow the plan of life completely.
The husband and wife worked hard to earn money, earned a lot of money, but had to spend it all, sometimes in a hurry, but hard and happy. Because they all look forward to the future, and they all hope that their children can go to major universities like them and be able to study abroad in the future. For this, they pay a lot, the children pay a lot, and the elderly pay a lot. The family has no leisure for a moment, and it seems that they are all for a better life in the future. In fact, they are all very hard, but they have forgotten the true meaning of life. It is not easy to get ahead, especially young people who have worked hard from the bottom, and it is not easy to mix in the big city. They are much better than urban workers, earning a lot of money, but also spending a lot. They will become high-spending people, and they will spend all the money they earn, and even be played around by the rules, but they will only lack the joy of life. If they have any psychological support points to survive, it is a good life in the future. The current life does not make them happy, nor is it the psychological support point for them to live.
The life dominated by capital and power is not a free life, and their family is dominated by capital and power, although they have jumped to the high-consumption class in the big city and become urban white-collar workers, they do not immediately get a good life, nor do they get the happiness of the present, but pin their hopes on the future. Perhaps, for them, the future is good. But life can't be the best, you should enjoy it when you should enjoy it, and it is always unrealistic to only know how to work hard, work hard, and be busy with hope. When people are old, although they have some money in their hands, and the mortgage has already been paid off, they can enjoy it, but they are already old and frail, and they can't eat, drink, or play, so they must be restrained, and if they eat, drink and have fun like when they were young, it will be harmful to their health. As long as they have money in their hands, they will be restless, they will continue to buy real estate, continue to invest in their children, and continue to pin their hopes on the future.
Perhaps, they will not enjoy it for the rest of their lives, they will only work hard to make money, they will invest, they will gain a foothold in the big city, plan every step well, together with the life of their children, but they have not calculated the happiness of life, have not escaped the calculation of capital and power, and are addicted to it. At the end of the day, who is it for?
Perhaps, when he entered the big city, he was already determined to follow the rules there and live for the rest of his life. I don't know if it's a comedy or a tragedy. It seems to him to be a comedy, but to outsiders, it seems to have become a tragedy. However, for him, he had to do that, as if the tragic character had to follow the guidance of fate and achieve the tragedy of fate, no one forced him, but he himself complied with the rules of the city people, and he became a city man who worked hard and dedicated to the future. And he looks at the countrymen outside the city, and seems to look down on the countrymen with very low incomes......
It's just that life is just a few decades, happiness or not has nothing to do with how much money you make, and it has nothing to do with living in **, only when you feel happiness is true happiness. He seems to have completely ignored this.