Editor's note:Do you work hard but are not appreciated by your leaders?Valued at work but lacking motivation? Let me follow the protagonist Xiao Zheng, after all. Xiao Zheng (pseudonym), female, in the 8th year of working in the world's top 500 companies, entered a foreign company as soon as she graduated, and began to feel very tall and hard-working, and made some achievements because of this, and promotions and salary increases also flocked to her. Later, I became a project manager, and I had several projects running at the same time, and the work was turning, and I began to look like a high-speed machine, and I became more and more unhappy without direction. 
What exactly do I want? ”She didn't understand what was wrong with herself, until she participated in a group consultation, and there was a part to explore what she wanted at the bottom"Happy".She said: That feeling came out and hit me all at once.
Although I usually love to laugh, but in fact I am not happy, I don't feel very relaxed when I go out to travel, and I feel very tired when I come back. Over the years, she has been doing all kinds of things non-stop, and she never dares to relax for a moment, and overtime at night and on weekends is commonplace. It's finally time to have a holiday, and I don't let myself relax or know how to make myself happy. I didn't even know that I was unhappy.
"Feeling is an ability".Feeling is our innate ability, but how to feel and use feelings is experienced and learned in the process of growing up and interacting with caregivers. Sometimes our caregivers' own inner feelings are out of order, and there is no way to give us the ability to experience and learn from them, and then gain the ability to perceive themselves.
With the more things that are missing, causing our sensibility to be slow or missing, it will also make everyone fall in the world, until they embark on the road of self-growth, and obtain it through acquired growth and learning"The ability to feel".。It's like a small fight,As she continued to grow in group counseling, she gradually gained more and more knowledge and understanding of herself, only to realize that she was giving herself high standards and a lot of pressure.
Xiao Zheng said: I can't forget it until now, one day, I suddenly loosened my tie on myself, and from that moment on, my whole person was like drinking high for three whole days.
Later, I found that I gradually returned to life and family from the original workaholic mode, and happy days came quietly! It was also from that time that she finally experienced what happiness was, and realized that happiness was so simple. Since then, the floodgates of her "feeling" have also been opened, and she has taken a crucial step of "loving herself"! 
"Feel yourself you deserve it".On the road to growth, "feeling" is like our inner "barometer" for a person, telling us what state we are in now, what makes us happy, and what makes us stressed.
This is also the direction of self-regulation, often keep yourself in a comfortable and happy state, and treat work in such a state, in order to get twice the result with half the effort. If you also want to improve your ability to feel yourself, make yourself physically and mentally happy and work more efficiently, welcome to talk to us about your daily life, feel yourself better together, and take care of yourself.