Recently, the incident of a female teacher cheating on a 16-year-old high school student has sparked heated discussions about the concept of love. Nowadays, it is very common for high school students to fall in love, but often because they are still young, they have not established a correct view of love.
Liu Haiping, a doctor of gender studies, once did a survey, and some students had seven or eight love experiences in high school, and each one was very short, only two or three months, which was very fast-food.
And their brief intimacy had already involved sex, and one girl said to him, "Teacher, we did everything in one week."
In fact, not only high school students, but also many college students who have become adults, there are also many worrying problems in love. And this may be the reason why many college teachers are committed to carrying out love classes, and love classes are popular.
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Some students do not hesitate to "turn the window for love":
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Liu Haiping, a doctor of gender studies, once wrote to the Academic Affairs Office to start the love class because the Academic Affairs Office did not agree to carry it out, and many students wrote directly to the Academic Affairs Office to ask for the class to be opened; Professor Liang Yongan of Fudan University's love class at station b has reached 4 million ** in a single episode.
What are these packed love classes about? After listening to these love classes, what have you learned is not only about love?
Nowadays, many students are reluctant to openly share some opinions in class, so in order to allow students to discuss and protect their privacy, Liu Haiping, a doctor of gender studies, uses a classroom barrage to conduct discussions.
It is precisely because of the protection of anonymity that students dare to speak, and there are some real remarks in every class.
For example:"The wise do not fall in love, and the wrongs repeat the mistakes of the past. The widow king has mastered all the way and built a beautiful China".It is true that many young people now feel that intimacy is so difficult, so they simply give up love and devote themselves to their careers. There are even surprising remarks, such as joking that 2 million are willing to be dogs.
Young men and women are big and can easily be led astray by the wrong view of love.
Some girls will use all kinds of domineering president-style content, whether it is ** or micro-short dramas, as a love meal replacement.
In this regard, Dr. Liu Haiping showed the students an article in Chinese ** on the study of the domineering president in class, and shared with everyone that because we didn't get what we wanted, we fantasized that there was an extremely successful male domineering president in the market who had no feelings for others and only favored you;
Everyone who watches those dramas will think that Bidong is particularly charming, but in fact, Bidong is a toxic masculinity, and he forcibly carries out some intimate actions regardless of the other party's wishes.
Some boys will be curious about PUA and hope that Dr. Liu will tell them some PUA dry goods, and will send a private message to Dr. Liu to show some free information they find.
Many male classmates may have had problems with social interaction because they had been depressed for three years in high school, and after learning some PUA methods, a male classmate told Dr. Liu that he felt that this was very useful.
And Dr. Liu saw that these students would post some ** that was very atmospheric but seemed strange, such as standing and shooting his girlfriend squatting from top to bottom.
Seeing that students may be at risk of being led astray in love, Dr. Liu encouraged students to fall in love while guiding them to establish a correct view of love, and even felt that the term "love brain" was actually misunderstood by everyone.
In her opinion,Nowadays, many girls will say that they are too in love, and this kind of self-blame is completely unnecessary. During the period of passionate love, the brain will inevitably produce a very excited and happy state, and it is also the most worthwhile part of the early stage of love, it is only a temporary state, and it will not characterize people as the attribute of your brain is the love brain.
The important thing is that when you may do something particularly altruistic and unfavorable at this stage, keep some bottom lines, don't be cheated, don't be hurt.
Instead of saying that "wise people don't fall in love", she encourages everyone to fall in love positively, and intimacy or love cannot be simply defined by positive or negative.
Moreover, love is not only love, not only the relationship between oneself and one's lover, but also the relationship between oneself and oneself, seeing oneself in loving and being loved.
Professor Liang Yongan's love class at Fudan University encourages young people to establish a sound and independent personality before falling in love.
If a person does not have a way out, he hangs his way out on another person. I felt that I couldn't live without this person, who could provide me with the emotional comfort I needed to survive. So many people in today's society are not of high quality loneliness, and we need a high-quality loneliness. What is quality solitude? High-quality solitude is the realization of one's own oneness. ”
People are spiritual, and people without spirit are always lonely, and it can be said that they are also lonely when they are married. That's why we say that the most fundamental problem for a person is not to solve the problem of finding a friend, a love partner, or getting married. The key issue is to find such a spiritual ** of your own, to find the foothold of your spirit, this question is beyond all else. ”
He believes that not everyone has to choose to fall in love and choose to enter marriage, but we understand ourselves better through the mirror of love.
And when each of us finds our own value**, we will not fall into the quagmire of feelings and cannot extricate ourselves, nor will we be anxious and worried about emotional insecurity.
A survey showed88.23% of university students support the establishment of "love classes".How to resolve the contradictions and disagreements in love and how to face the end of the relationship are the most important things that college students want to learn.
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In addition, how to start a relationship, how to find a suitable partner, how to pursue the object of your crush, etc., are also love problems that plague college students.
Colleges and universities offer love courses, whether it is on the hot search on the Internet, causing netizens to praise it, or there is a scene where students are full on campus and "a lesson is hard to find".All reflect college students' desire to have a healthy intimate relationship.
On the one hand,College is an important time for young people to "practice love".It is the proper meaning of education to convey the correct concept of love to students by setting up "love courses" in colleges and universities, understanding how to get along with the opposite sex and the responsibilities they bear in love, solving the psychological problems in the process of love, and avoiding college students from hurting each other in love.
Before Mr. Liu Haiping started the love class, he wrote a course application, and he had a hunch that the course might be rejected by the review, so he made a false English name called "what do we talk about when we talk about love".
After handing it in, it didn't pass. According to the Academic Affairs Office, the review panel considers the content of the course to be sensitive. Love, marriage, and gender are all sensitive, and it is not appropriate to take students in colleges and universities to talk about how to fall in love and gender equality.
And when the student learned that the course could not be opened, he said,This class is a real solution to our needs and must be opened! Then at least 10 or even more than 20 students wrote letters to the principal's mailbox, which may have alarmed the upper echelons, and after about two days, the same teacher in the Academic Affairs Office called ** and said that there are many students who report that they need this course, so it is better to open it now.
In the Douban salon group with more than 50,000 members, the most popular discussion post is called "Is falling in love an ability", and the subject's confusion about intimate relationships has resonated with many netizens.
There was once a doctor who did a good job in scientific research and confided in Teacher Wang Xiaoling:Falling in love is much more difficult than doing scientific research, and it is not possible to rely on hard work.
WhileThe love elective class in colleges and universities provides an overhead scenario that is conducive to group communication, so that the existing barriers between men and women, and between generations, are easier to break, and the exchange of common sense becomes smoother. The love class does not equate love with success, nor does it put romance in the first place, but inclusively **how to deal with the relationship between people, how to live happily, and teach people to get happiness**.
This is exactly in line with the deeper psychological needs of the young students who come to the class in the topic of love: through learning to love and be loved, they can finally see their true selves in relationships.
In addition to talking about "love", the love class also has a wider range of contentIncluding how to communicate and get along with others, how to establish a healthy outlook on love, marriage, and family, and how to improve the ability to love, including loving oneself and family.
In fact, with the deepening of the intimate relationship, the differences between the two parties in terms of thinking and cognition will gradually appear, and in this process, it is not only necessary to communicate and run in with each other, but alsoThe individual's cognition and adjustment of the self again and again.
As Fromm points out in The Art of Love, "Love is the manifestation of the personality as a whole, and to develop the capacity to love, one needs to strive to develop one's own personality and move towards a beneficial goal." "So, the ** for intimacy doesn't stop at marriage and loveIt also includes the process of inward exploration such as self-discovery and self-understanding, which is obviously not something that a love class can solve.
In the first lecture of each course of "Love Psychology" of Tianjin University, the lecturer will solemnly declare: this is not a "single course", but if you learn it well, you can feel more "happy" moments in life.
Not only the love class of Tianjin University, in the traditional love script, when the myth of love comes, all the self-narratives about it seem to have to take a back seat, andAlthough the name of the love course offered by colleges and universities today is "love", most of them have jumped out of the established framework of the relationship between men and women.
In an inclusive environment, discuss important life issues such as intimacy, family, marriage and childbirth, and self, and explore how to improve the ability to love and how to live more consistently.
Love classes can be elective courses for college students, but love and relationships are a compulsory course in life.
The Love Class is not only about learning to fall in love, but also about a journey of self-discovery and self-improvement. References:
1] Theory of light: Colleges and universities offer love courses, which cannot stop at teaching students to fall in love.
2] Zhizhi.com: A full-capacity college love class: see yourself in loving and being loved.
3] Guangming**: Why is the college love class so popular?
4] Yixi: A boy in the love class raised his hand and said, 2 million I am willing to make her a dog seat vol13