This same-sex friend has known me since I was a teenager, and I have been in frequent contact until after work, and I will share with you a few small things that impress me:
One. It was high school, and the students would sometimes go together to eat bowls of noodles or something, and sometimes she settled everyone's accounts, and everyone went back tacitly to give her the money they consumed, and she took it very happily, and she didn't accept it when it came to me, saying that she didn't need to give, I invited you. I definitely don't agree, although my living expenses are not as high as yours, I can have basic expenses, and I didn't say you invited me before I went to eat. Because of similar things, I have had a stiff several times, and I have to give it to her.
Two. After work, she moved, I went to help, I proposed a plan, can easily save a lot of effort, she was very happy and said, "I didn't expect you to be smart". What do you mean? In her heart, I have always been inferior to her everywhere, and I have always been in a state of being looked down upon by her. My heart is broken.
Three. Because I did something wrong, I had a very depressed time for a few years, and once when we were chatting, I said that you look down on me, but she actually said: "What you do yourself, let me think of you". She didn't feel sorry for me like a friend, and second, she stood on the moral high ground and blamed me, complacent that she had finally found a high-sounding reason for looking down on me for so many years.
At that moment, I finally understood that I had been deceiving myself for so many years, she had never treated me as a friend, and she had made me passively take advantage of material things, on the one hand, because she needed a sense of superiority, and on the other hand, it could be a balance that I listened to every time she had any troubles (she didn't listen when I needed to talk).
In fact, she inadvertently revealed that she looked down on her after a year or two of knowing her, she didn't admit it, and I didn't want to admit it, that moral flaw, I also paid a great price, in the long run, I saw that no one was harmed, and I myself have always blamed myself, and I have not been morally degraded because of this.
At this point, the fate is over.