Human nature is extremely complex.
The sincerity you deliver may not necessarily get the same response.
Without experiencing it a few times in person, it can sometimes be difficult to recognize a person's true face.
After suffering a lot of losses and entering many pits, he may have an epiphany: it turns out that he is such a person.
Especially those who despise you in their hearts, but still keep in touch with you.
You may be confused and do not understand this seemingly contradictory phenomenon, but you do not know the motives and real psychology behind it, which is what it is.
First, the relationship of interests.
Sometimes there are many reasons why people connect with each other.
Such as interests, social circles, family background, etc., these may be the prerequisites that facilitate everyone's interactions.
And these interactions are not necessarily sincere.
Even if you think someone is good, your evaluation of the other person may not be so.
You are in his heart, but there is no difference between you and the strangers in the crowd, so he also shows disdain for your proximity in his heart, but he only makes the choice to come and go because of the face on the surface.
Actually, there is nothing incomprehensible about this.
The hustle and bustle of the world is for profit, and the hustle and bustle of the world is for profit.
In the adult world, there is often a certain interest in communication. Even if the other party looks down on you, it may bring some kind of benefit when interacting with you, so he will put aside his personal likes and dislikes and maintain a superficial friendship to achieve greater benefits.
This phenomenon is especially evident in the workplace, where some people may work with people who are not as good as themselves, and although they look down on those people in their hearts, they must maintain team relationships in order to complete tasks.
Second, psychological needs.
I've seen a **, the beautiful heroine and the most unpopular girl in the class became best friends.
The girl was ugly, fat, had a lot of flaws in her personality, and had poor academic performance.
Others don't understand why she has such a choice, and think that she is beautiful and kind, but unexpectedly, her inner monologue is to let the poor girl set off her own more perfect.
There are always some people in this world who keep in touch with others because of their own psychological needs.
Because he feels that this will satisfy his self-esteem and obtain some kind of psychological satisfaction. Even if he looks down on the other person, he can satisfy his personal needs because he can feel more superiority and control from getting along with the other person.
Although it is sad, it is also an indisputable fact.
For example, in life, girls who want to look thinner may have a friend who is fatter than themselves. If you want to bring out your own excellent people, you won't easily get together with better people.
Third, the pressure of social circles.
Living in a modern society, it is impossible for everyone to exist in isolation.
Most people will have social circles of one kind or another, and some people's certain circles are also overlapping.
The influence of social circles cannot be ignored.
Sometimes, even if someone looks down on you, but you belong to the same social circle, or have mutual friends, relatives, etc., then he may keep in touch with you because of the pressure.
Because if he does it too obviously, his image may be questioned and alienated by others, which will have a bad impact on his career, future or the normal life of his family.
Therefore, for the sake of their future and life as usual, they don't want to do too decisive things on the surface, so as to maintain their status and image in the social circle.
The late writer Sanmao said that making friends is conditional.
If you really don't have any value in you that can attract the other person, then it will be difficult to maintain this relationship for a long time.
People have something to do with each other, so it's not a healthy way to communicate.
If you feel that the relationship is more important, then when others take advantage of you, you can actually take advantage of them as well.
When a lot of things are sorted out, it's not so difficult to understand.
If the other party only wants to ask and is unwilling to give, and looks down on you and wants to get benefits, then you must also keep your eyes open and don't blindly take the blame.
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