Mr. Yang Jiang said:
Having an absent father will make an anxious mother, and she will eventually raise a child who is lacking in love and out of control.
Raising children has never been the responsibility of the mother alone, the father's love gives the child strength, and the mother's love gives the child sunshine, both of which are indispensable.
Since the choice gives life to the child, he should be responsible for the child's growth.
Instead of dumping the child at the mother, the father can ignore the child, so that the child is in a situation of lack of fatherly love.
Well-known parent-child experts emphasized:
The people who decide whether their children are "confident enough and feel that they are good enough" in the future are more fathers.
This is because dad represents the child's connection to the "other world", and if dad is only busy with work every day, or when he comes home and plays games, he never cares about the child.
For everything about the child, I always show that everything is none of my business, and educating the child is the mother's business.
That child will give birth to a state of mind that I don't deserve the care of others, that I'm not good, that I'm bad.
Especially when dad is absent, mom has to be on duty 24 hours a day, and the focus of life is entirely around the children and family.
If there is no one to discuss things, you can only carry them yourself, and if you continue to do so for a long time, there will be no outlet for anxiety and resentment, and you will inevitably be more strict with your children.
So many people ask, why are mothers always prone to anxiety and collapse?
At the end of the day, it's one person who bears too much and no one shares.
Just like me used to be, every time my husband comes back, I am full of joy and feel that I finally have someone to help me take care of the children.
I can also have a good rest, who knows that my husband comes home to wash and go to bed, or go out for a walk, clean and wash the children is still my business, and it has nothing to do with him at all.
Every time I wanted to ask him to help, I ended up too lazy to communicate because I was angry.
During that time, I was extremely irritable, and I often broke down emotionally and yelled at my children, and my husband also accused me, saying that I had nothing to do, what to yell, and I didn't talk about cleaning, and the house was messy.
Until I couldn't bear it anymore, my emotions exploded, and I gave him a sentence directly, if I was too busy and didn't need to come back, and I didn't help when I came back, I would be very angry when I saw it, and the child was like my own.
The book "Fatherhood" also wrote:
The absence of a father is the misfortune of the family, the sorrow of the wife, the sorrow of the children, and the depression of society.
It was also the outburst and the voice that poured out his inner anxiety.
My husband was very angry at the time, but the next day it changed, and when he came back in the evening, he began to take the initiative to cook dinner, and he began to take the initiative to clean up, and if he was tired, he played with the children.
With the change of my husband, I began to become emotionally stable, no longer continuing to look for trouble, and no longer always blaming my children for their mistakes.
My children have also become confident and cheerful because of my husband's participation and my changes.
This reminds me of a popular quote on the Internet:
Only the complete love of parents can provide sufficient nutrients for their children.
As a father, no matter how busy you are, don't forget your responsibilities as a father and husband, and try to spend as much time as possible with your wife and children.
Written at the end: The child's childhood is only a few years, and missing it will be a lifelong regret.
On weekends, accompany your child to a nearby park, or accompany your child to read books, play games, take a walk, and talk with your child every day.
As long as the father accompanies him attentively, even if it is just 10 minutes, the child can feel the love and warmth of the father, and get the nourishment of the father's love.
Mothers can also begin to have enough patience with their children because of their father's participation and commitment, and their emotions become stable and prone to development.
Children can also thrive in a happy and stable environment.
About the author: I am Tonglu's mother, a mother of the second child born in the 90s, I am very happy to meet you here, I am here, focusing on women's growth and parenting.
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