On May 25, 2010, Sheng Hailin, who was nearly 60 years old, gave birth to twin daughters in the hospital, and the elderly woman set a new record and became the oldest woman in China at that time.
60 years old should be an age to be a grandmother, why did Sheng Hailin risk her life and did not hesitate to use IVF to give birth to this pair of twin daughters?
In fact, this is not the first time Sheng Hailin has become a mother, she originally had an eldest daughter in her 20s, and the eldest daughter had already worked and married, but an accident took the life of the eldest daughter.
This incident hit the elderly Sheng Hailin deeply, and she couldn't get out of the shadow of her daughter's departure for a long time. So after thinking about it, she decided to give birth again to make up for the shortcomings in her heart. In this way, two twin girls were born.
Originally, Sheng Hailin didn't have to go through so many ups and downs, but everything began to change from the year her eldest daughter left. Originally, the life of a family of three was very happy, Sheng Hailin's husband was a businessman with small assets, Sheng Hailin herself worked in a hospital, and their family was considered a middle- and high-income family.
At the age of 30, Sheng Hailin gave birth to her eldest daughter Tingting. Tingting has been lively and cute since she was a child, very sensible, never let her parents worry about it, and went to college, work, and got married smoothly.
Tingting used to be the only child of the old couple, and Sheng Hailin didn't think about having another child at that time, because Tingting was their only pearl in the palm of their hands.
But in 2009, just a few days after the Spring Festival, Sheng Hailin suddenly received a call from her daughter-in-law's family, saying that her daughter and her husband were being sent to the hospital for emergency treatment due to gas poisoning at home.
When Sheng Hailin heard this, she was so frightened that she broke out in a cold sweat and hurried to Anhui, where her daughter and son-in-law were. But after arriving at the hospital, the doctor told Sheng Hailin very sadly that there was no hope of treatment, and her daughter had left her forever.
This news overwhelmed Sheng Hailin, she didn't expect that her daughter, who was still standing in front of her two days ago, would be separated from herself forever, and she didn't even have time to say a word of goodbye.
As a mother, Sheng Hailin couldn't stand such a blow, in the months after her daughter's death, Sheng Hailin didn't know what she relied on to survive, she didn't want to do anything, and she couldn't wait to follow her daughter immediately.
She didn't even dare to go out, because as soon as she went out and saw someone else's mother with her daughter, her heart was like a knife, and she didn't even have the strength to cry.
After returning home, she locked herself in the bedroom every day, sometimes crying for a while, but more often she couldn't cry when she was sad, and the whole person was numb and lost all consciousness.
After her daughter died, Sheng Hailin locked the bedroom where her daughter lived forever, she didn't go in herself, and she didn't allow anyone to go in, as soon as she saw something related to her daughter, she felt like she was about to collapse.
Who would have thought that the disaster would come so suddenly, and the daughter who had been raised by him for more than 20 years would be gone, and no one could accept it. Relatives and friends have tried to enlighten Sheng Hailin, but after experiencing such a thing, it is difficult to get out of the pain easily.
Sheng Hailin, who had lost hope in her heart, could only start to try to burn incense and chant Buddha, trying to numb her nerves by relying on spiritual beliefs, hoping that she could forget the pain.
Once, when Sheng Hailin went to the temple to burn incense, an old monk saw her sad expression and came up to talk to her.
After hearing what happened to Sheng Hailin, the monk was also very sympathetic, but also gave Sheng Hailin a pertinent suggestion, since she missed the child, why not adopt a child again? This is not only a good deed, but also a little bit to make up for the regret of her daughter's departure.
The monk's words made Sheng Hailin's heart move, yes, she really missed her daughter too much.
Since her daughter left, she has no more support in her heart, no longer hope, if she can have another child by her side, a living child, can she make her feel better? Can I transfer my past love for my daughter to this new child?
So after returning home, Sheng Hailin discussed with her husband that she wanted to adopt a child in an orphanage, or adopt one from relatives and friends, but both of these options were quickly rejected.
If you adopt from an orphanage, if you want to adopt a healthy child, you don't know what year and month the queue will be, and even couples of the right age may not be able to get a suitable child, not to mention that Sheng Hailin and his wife are over half a hundred years old and do not meet the conditions for adoption in the orphanage.
Adoption is even more impossible, it is not the old society now. Even if everyone's life is not rich, they will not have to give away their own children, so Sheng Hailin's hope that has just been ignited is quickly shattered.
Sheng Hailin once again returned to the previous state of numb and desperate life, and fell back into disappointment when she had hope, which is really cruel.
Until one day, Sheng Hailin heard a term from a colleague in the former hospital - IVF. Through modern science and technology, we help parents who want to become parents, but are unable to conceive due to various physical conditions, to get the opportunity to have children.
Sheng Hailin also learned about this technique in the past when she was working, and she knew that the chances of conceiving with IVF were easier to succeed than ordinary methods of conception. She suddenly thought, can she do a test-tube baby operation and give birth to a child with the same genes as her former eldest daughter?
However, most of the people who use IVF technology are couples of normal childbearing age, and women in their fifties like Sheng Hailin have almost never had them. When Sheng Hailin told her husband and relatives and friends about her thoughts, everyone felt that she was desperate because she lost her eldest daughter.
At the age of 59, the idea of giving birth to a new life is really crazy, and the risk to be borne is too great, and everyone advises Sheng Hailin not to be impulsive.
But for Sheng Hailin, this was not an impulse, this was almost the last straw that she was able to grasp when she was desperate at that time.
No matter how others persuade her, Sheng Hailin must give it a try, but there is no way, her husband had to follow Sheng Hailin to the hospital for IVF surgery, the probability of success is not large, but perhaps a miracle befell Sheng Hailin, she was successfully pregnant, and she was still pregnant with twins.
When the doctor told Sheng Hailin the news, Sheng Hailin was so excited that she was about to cry, she didn't expect that God would really give her a chance to be a mother again.
After learning that Sheng Hailin was really pregnant, the opposition around her was still endless, after all, Sheng Hailin's age was here, even if these two children were born, Sheng Hailin's husband was already 60 years old, and when they were old, what should these two children do?
In this regard, Sheng Hailin said that she and her husband have a pension of 10,000 yuan per month, and they will never let their children suffer. So no matter how others object, she must be a mother.
At first, no hospital was willing to accept Sheng Hailin, because the risk of such an elderly woman was too great, and if she was not careful, both mother and child might die.
In the end, Sheng Hailin went around and came to a hospital in Beijing, which saw that Sheng Hailin had always been so determined, and heard the story between Sheng Hailin and her eldest daughter, and was very sympathetic to her, and finally decided to take the risk of giving Sheng Hailin this operation.
So ten months later, Sheng Hailin gave birth to two healthy daughters in the hospital, looking at these two children, Sheng Hailin burst into tears, for her, these two children were God gave her a chance to be reborn.
Finally free from the pain of losing her daughter in the past, she has two newborn children, and she vows to let them grow up happily.
For the sake of these two children, Sheng Hailin suffered a lot. It is conceivable that a 60-year-old woman experiences more pain than ordinary pregnant women when she is pregnant, and when the child is five or six months old, Sheng Hailin even vomited out almost all the food she ate because she couldn't sleep peacefully.
But even with all the hardships, she survived, and the desire to conceive a new life had overridden everything, and she could do nothing but ask for the two children to be born safely.
The two daughters were seven months old and were fortunate to be healthy. But after a short surprise, Sheng Hailin and her husband have to face the cruel reality, they have to find a way to support the two children.
Previously, because of IVF surgery and the cost of subsequent childbirth, Sheng Hailin and her husband had almost emptied their family savings, and now their two children are waiting to be fed, and they need more money to provide a better material life for these two children.
Obviously, the pension of 10,000 yuan a month that Sheng Hailin said before cannot afford such an expensive cost.
In order to make her two daughters live a better life, Sheng Hailin decided to go out to work again. Sheng Hailin found a training class, went out early and returned late every day, and gave lectures to students. The clothes you wear and the things you use are the cheapest.
But for her two daughters, Sheng Hailin was very generous, enrolling them in the most expensive training classes, attending the best primary schools, and wearing the best clothes. No matter what the children want, Sheng Hailin is willing to provide it to them.
But raising two young children is not so easy, Sheng Hailin thought about things a little simple.
She felt that she didn't feel much trouble when she took care of her eldest daughter, so now that she is a mother for the second time, she should be more familiar with the road.
But she ignored that she was only 30 years old when she gave birth to her eldest daughter, which was in the prime of life, so she had enough energy to care for a young child.
But now she is a 60-year-old old man, her body functions are gradually declining, and she does not have so much energy to take care of her children, and even needs to take care of herself.
But for the sake of her two daughters, she had to grit her teeth and persevere, forcing herself to work as energetically as 30 years old.
After a busy day's work, she has to run to the school to pick up her two daughters from school, and sometimes she picks up the children from school, and some unsuspecting parents will think that she is the child's grandmother. Every time this happens, Sheng Hailin feels very embarrassed.
The only thing that comforts Sheng Hailin is that the two daughters are very sensible, they understand their mother's difficulties, and they don't blame their mother for bringing them into this world.
Sometimes, Sheng Hailin will talk to her two younger daughters about their dead sister, and the two younger daughters will innocently say to their mother: "If there is a next life, you can give birth to the two of them first, and then give birth to Tingting, and let the two of them be Tingting's sisters and protect Tingting." ”
The children's innocent words always make Sheng Hailin feel sad, and the more time passes, the more she doesn't know whether her original idea of insisting on having a child is right or wrong.
She had brought these two children into the world, but she had already felt that she was getting older day by day, and maybe one day she would also meet death, what would happen to these two young children?
Even if I can see them come of age, how long can I stay with them?
11 years have passed in a blink of an eye, and the two daughters have grown up very smoothly in 11 years, which is the only comfort in Sheng Hailin's heart, and she has passed her 70th birthday.
When her eldest daughter was still alive many years ago, Sheng Hailin didn't expect that her 70-year-old would be spent like this.
She is still working, and her two 11-year-old children have become a burden of life, although Sheng Hailin is willing to bear such a burden, but she admitted to reporters that if there is a next life, if there is a chance to choose again, maybe she will not make the choice of a second child.
Of course, she has no regrets about meeting these two children in this life, and the children have brought hope to her in despair.
Even if she later undertook countless hardships for this, Sheng Hailin understood that these two children had allowed her to persist in living until now, and if it weren't for these two children growing up by her side day by day, maybe she would have been dead a long time ago.
Many times in the dead of night, Sheng Hailin still thinks of Tingting.
11 years have passed, and every night, Tingting appears in her mother's dreams. When she dreamed, Sheng Hailin was in the happiest mood, because Tingting in the dream would not experience death and would still be by her side.
It's just that when you wake up from a dream, you always find that everything is illusory.
We can't accuse this mother of being ill-conceived, because what she went through was so cruel that God gave her a daughter and then lost it. Let her grasp the hope for the second time, but she is always under pressure, and fate always makes the poor mother face the wind, frost, rain and snow.
Maybe she didn't think about the consequences when she chose to have a child at an advanced age, but for a grieving mother who was about to die, did she have any other choice?
All people can do is to wish her that her future days will not be so bitter anymore, and they can only wish that time will heal the deep wounds in the mother's heart.