I received a private message, the content is very long, but the plot is not complicated.
There is a buddy who is very distressed, after 30 years, he and his ex-girlfriend met again, at first the two were very excited, and then chatting, the woman became indifferent.
Because both parties have families, women want to be well, but this buddy can't let go.
He wondered, what should he do?
To be honest, for many outsiders, it is difficult to imagine why a person who runs for six is still so persistent.
But,Sometimes, the more you experience in life and the more you have, you will become greedy.
Especially for some regrets, I always want to make up for it and cherish it.
So we'll talk about it a lotIf so, you can do ......it all over again
If we could do it all over again, could we really do better?
Actually, there will never be an answer to this question.
Because, choosing this path means that other roads are unknown to us, and these unknowns may also pile up into regrets.
So, good and bad, it's relative.
The same,Many times, we can't let go, does this mean that we still love?
It can only be said that it may be, but not necessarily.
1.If you can't let go, it may be an obsession.
Sometimes, I can't let go not because of love, but because I become an obsession after losing it.
This kind of obsession may be because we are unwilling to lose, or it may be because some wishes have not been fulfilled, and regrets have accumulated in our hearts.
In such a state, the so-called can't let go is not that you really love each other much, but that you have an obsession and can't extricate yourself.
Not being able to let go may contain a curiosity about the unknown, a desire to have the other person again, or simply a habitual insistence.
In either case, it may be born of true love, but it is not true love.
2.If you can't let go, it may be true love.
It is said that lovers eventually become married.
In real life, from time to time, we can hear some stories of couples who have gone through ups and downs and finally come together.
Objectively speaking, even if two people are similar and have been together for a long time, there will definitely be various frictions, and it is normal to quarrel occasionally or something.
Sometimes, even if you break up, you can get back together.
This is because they love each other deeply, and even if they break up, they are still attached to each other in various ways.
They can't let go, so they are willing to correct themselves, and they are willing to tolerate each other.
3.After a long time, true love depends on imagination.
It is undeniable that there are some breakups that cannot be reunited in time.
Therefore, some can't let go, and it will last for a long time.
In this case, not being able to let go may be a kind of true love, but such true love will be divorced from reality.
Everyone changes over time.
When we can't let go of someone for a long time, the other person in our minds will be frozen at a certain point in time, the image that we are deeply attached to.
This kind of love will slowly deviate from reality, and then rely on our own brains to make up for it.
The person in our minds, based on our inner memories and imaginations, becomes our emotional sustenance.
This kind of love seems to be true or false, like a dream.
Actually, sometimes, if you can't let go, you can't let go, but there's no need to worry too much about whether this is love or not.
Without affecting each other's lives, just do what you have to do and follow your heart.
Finally, I want to say that,Love has become a pity, it's really a pity
So, when it's time to cherish it, don't be too ......wasteful