"I wish to have one heart, and the white head will not be separated", this is people's most beautiful vision of love, and it is also the life that Zhang Hanzhi desires the most. However, life is not always as people wish, and the words "life and death" make it impossible to escape.
On September 22, 1983, Qiao Guanhua, Zhang Hanzhi's favorite man, left this world forever. Faced with the death of her beloved, Zhang Hanzhi couldn't accept the reality, and the death of her husband made her fall into a deep depression.
Not only did she confide in her friends to express her longing for her husband and her own pain, but she also brought her husband's ashes home and placed them in the bedroom, as if in this way she could get closer to her husband.
No one knows how deep Zhang Hanzhi's pain was after Qiao Guanhua's death, and no one understands how she survived the most unbearable pain in her life. She followed the advice of her friends and reluctantly sent Qiao Guanhua's ashes to the cemetery, but resolutely rejected all proposals to remarry and spent her life with her love for her husband.
So, what happened between Zhang Hanzhi and Qiao Guanhua?How did they come together?
Chen Fu has a son who has just grown up, Chen Du is a commendable man, his mother's name is Zhang Xueying, and she is a hot and famous lady in Shanghai. Zhang Xueying once worked at the counter of a jewelry store, and because of her beautiful appearance and high emotional intelligence, she was known as "Fu Lu Shou Xi Shi".
By chance, Zhang Xueying met Zhang Hanzhi of the Zhang family, and the two fell in love at first sight and had a daughter. Originally, Chen Du planned to take Zhang Xueying as a concubine, but Zhang Xueying, who had strong self-esteem, was unwilling to be at the mercy of others.
After several quarrels, Tan Xueqing and Chen Du chose to break up, and for their children, who will be responsible for raising them has become a problem. However, after Zhang Shizhao learned of this, he took the initiative to mediate the conflict between the two parties, brought their daughter Zhang Hanzhi back to his home, and gave her meticulous love and affection.
Although her biological father and biological mother left her, Zhang Hanzhi was carefully taken care of by her adoptive father, who regarded Zhang Hanzhi as his own and let her receive the best education.
In 1949, Zhang Shizhao, as a member of the Nanjing ** delegation, went to Peking with Zhang Zhizhong to negotiate with the Communist Party. Soon after, he returned to the embrace of the people along with Zhang Zhizhong, who announced his withdrawal from the Kuomintang.
When New China was first founded, Zhang Hanzhi came to Beijing to live under his father's arrangement and studied in Beijing Beiman Middle School. Zhang Hanzhi's academic performance has always been very good, in 1953, when she took the college entrance examination, she originally planned to apply for a water conservancy major, but the school's party organization provided her with a new choice, asking her if she was willing to learn a foreign language.
Zhang Hanzhi encountered difficulties in choosing a university major: she was interested in water conservancy, but felt that the organization had an urgent need for foreign language talents. In order to solve this problem, she consulted her father, and Zhang Shizhao suggested that she learn a foreign language and guided her to be admitted to Beijing University of Foreign Chinese with excellent results.
After graduating from university, Zhang Hanzhi first went to the local area to hone her training, and then went to graduate school, and in 1960, she used what she learned to teach at Beijing Foreign University. Although she had no intention of pursuing a diplomatic career at first, the appearance of a noble man changed the course of her life.
It was on December 26, 1963, at the celebration of his 70th birthday, that Zhang Shizhao and his family members were also invited.
** I was very appreciative of Zhang Hanzhi's English ability, and took the initiative to invite her to be my English teacher. Although Zhang Hanzhi felt modest, he was very serious, and the invitation did not change.
Zhang Shizhao relieved Zhang Hanzhi and said that *** could let her come over to study at any time. A week later, the secretary of ** contacted Zhang Hanzhi and asked for the date of learning English.
Since then, Zhang Hanzhi has officially become an English teacher. In addition to teaching grammar knowledge, Zhang Hanzhi also had an in-depth discussion with *** on English-related topics.
During a teaching process, the two had a conflict over the topic of an English textbook. ** Advocates political themes, while Zhang Hanzhi believes that literary themes are more suitable.
Despite facing ***, Zhang Hanzhi was fearless and firmly expressed his views.
Because of the strict logic of Mr. Zhang's remarks, he was appreciated and praised by ***, calling him an excellent and strategic person. Probably because of these few arguments, ** discovered her uniqueness.
One day, ** suddenly asked Zhang Hanzhi if she was willing to work in *** door, and after getting a positive answer, ** assigned her to *** door.
**With a unique vision, Zhang Hanzhi not only has strong learning ability, excellent English, but also high emotional intelligence. After joining ***, she worked in the Asia Division and was later promoted to Deputy Director.
However, she was not happy when her work was going well, because her husband was having an affair and the marriage relationship was about to break down.
Zhang Hanzhi is a thoughtful independent woman, although she can't tolerate her husband's betrayal, she still loves him deeply, so they have never divorced. **After learning about it, I specially talked to her.
In the conversation, Zhang Hanzhi revealed her contradictions, she thought that divorce was not good, and she didn't want to be criticized for it.
After Zhang Hanzhi expressed his concern, ** pointed out sharply: "If you think like this, then I have to criticize you, you lack guts, the reason why I say you don't have guts is because you care too much about face, you refuse to let yourself go, your partner has betrayed you, why don't you choose to divorce?"
Why are you afraid that others will know? *'s words made Zhang Hanzhi suddenly brighten, and she said firmly: "Chairman, you are right, I will go through the divorce procedures immediately, and I must get rid of this relationship as soon as possible." ”
Zhang Hanzhi was depressed after the divorce, but she didn't know that her divorce tugged at another person's heartstrings. Qiao Guanhua had a good impression of Zhang Hanzhi's beauty before her divorce, but because she was married, he hid his love deep in his heart and vowed never to show it.
Qiao Guanhua bravely confessed to Zhang Hanzhi, the two had frequent contact due to work, and Qiao Guanhua began to chat with Zhang Hanzhi and share interesting things in life. When Zhang Hanzhi was accompanying the Nepalese guests to visit the beautiful scenery of China, Qiao Guanhua took the initiative to ask her what good places she had been to recently, and Zhang Hanzhi replied: "Changsha, Guilin."
Although Qiao Guanhua was worried that his behavior would make Zhang Hanzhi feel scared at the beginning, he still expressed his feelings firmly.
Qiao Guilin humorously mentioned: "If there is a **, you may wish to send me a few", Zhang Hanzhi immediately agreed. Zhang Hanzhi and Qiao Guanhua were in contact very frequently at that time, and even if they didn't have any work affairs, the two would keep talking on the phone several times a week, but their conversations never involved love or politics, just small talk.
The passage of time moved Zhang Hanzhi with Qiao Guanhua's sincerity. In a phone call, Qiao Guanhua expressed his emotions in English: "I love you, would you marry me?."”
This sentence caused deep ripples in Zhang Han's heart, and she hesitated for a long time before she replied tremblingly: "I know, thank you, but it's impossible." Hearing the answer to refuse, Qiao Guanhua felt a little lost and immediately asked the reason.
Zhang Hanzhi explained that this society may not accept our union. Qiao Guanhua understood that Zhang Hanzhi was still worried about the eyes of others. In order to dispel Zhang Hanzhi's worries, Qiao Guanhua said a lot in **, but in the end the two did not reach a consensus.
Many years later, Zhang Hanzhi recalled the night when Qiao Guanhua gave her **, and he had mixed feelings in his heart. She understands that this emotion is incomparably precious, and it is the pure love she has been longing for.
Giving up this love may make her regret it for the rest of her life, but at the same time, she is worried that once this love is made public, she may be tainted by worldly prejudices, and she is worried that she and Qiao Guanhua will be under social pressure.
Zhang Hanzhi is not a cowardly person, in order to give herself an explanation and an explanation for this relationship, she hurriedly wrote a long letter to Qiao Guanhua, frankly expressing her inner thoughts.
Zhang Hanzhi is frank about her feelings and firmly believes that the love between the two is sincere and profound, but she thinks that what they need more is sobriety and sanity, so she decided to bury this newborn love deep in her heart.
Her decision was not only to avoid the gossip of the world, but also out of respect and protection for Qiao Guanhua's career, and she was willing to make sacrifices for it. However, what Zhang Hanzhi didn't expect was that Qiao Guanhua's reply was full of indignation.
He understands the importance of emotion, has no trust in those petty-bourgeois sentiments, and firmly believes that love does not have to be sacrificed, as long as you love each other, you don't need to care about the gossip of the outside world.
In order to get love, Qiao Guanhua launched a passionate pursuit of Zhang Hanzhi, and soon, Zhang Hanzhi was moved by his initiative, enthusiasm and infatuation, and decided to establish a relationship with him.
In this way, Zhang Hanzhi, who is in his 30s, and Qiao Guanhua, who is in his 60s, came together, although their marriage was opposed by many parties, but they firmly walked through more than ten years hand in hand, and everything was as Zhang Hanzhi expected.
Zhang Hanzhi loves Qiao Guanhua deeply, and she feels extremely lucky to be able to get all of Qiao Guanhua's love. Although the age difference has troubled the couple, as long as she can be with Qiao Guanhua, she is satisfied.
However, fate was cruel and ruthless, on the night of the Mid-Autumn Festival in 1983, Qiao Guanhua, who was suffering from cancer, passed away, and Zhang Hanzhi, who was only 48 years old, lost his lover. Although she envisioned 1,000 endings for herself, she never expected to enter ***, let alone experience such grief at the age of 48.
Qiao Guanhua's cancer condition is well known, and everyone has expected his death, but when this day really comes, the pain is still raging. Seeing her husband lying quietly on the bed, Zhang Hanzhi completely collapsed, she threw herself on her husband and cried: "I don't want anything, I just want you." ”
Zhang Hanzhi couldn't accept Qiao Guanhua's death, nor could she accept the loss of love, but in the face of life and death, she could only accept it helplessly.
During that time, she always shared her story with Qiao Guanhua with the people around her, expressing her deep thoughts about Qiao Guanhua. She claimed that she was exhausted, had nothing to love, and desperately longed to see Qiao Guanhua again.
In order to get closer to her lover, she even took Qiao Guanhua's ashes home to treasure. However, under the persuasion of her friends, she realized that her behavior was too selfish, and she should also take Qiao Guanhua's feelings into account.
Zhang Hanzhi adhered to his love for Qiao Guanhua and chose to bury his ashes in the cemetery.
Although some suitors and friends persuaded her to start a new relationship, she refused, saying that she had already experienced the sea and no longer wanted to swim in the creek, insisting on her deep nostalgia for Qiao Guanhua.
Zhang Hanzhi's life is full of challenges and gossip, but she has always maintained the spirit of romanticism, enthusiastically paying attention to people's livelihood, country, love, politics and the people around her, and her life is full of enthusiasm and pure and flawless.
At 8:20 a.m. on January 26, 2008, Zhang Hanzhi passed away peacefully in Beijing Chaoyang Hospital, and her daughter Hong Huang accompanied her through the last journey of her life.