The rebellious period of adolescence is a particularly important stage in the child's growth process, and the psychological and behavioral characteristics of the child at this stage are different from those in the past, showing more autonomy and independence. At this stage, the child may experience various problems such as emotional instability, uncontrolled behavior, communication difficulties, etc. As a parent, how can you guide your child correctly and help them through this stage? Mr. Zhao, a psychological counselor of Zhishan, believes that you can start from the following aspects.
1. Understand your child's psychological changes.
First of all, parents need to understand that adolescent rebellious children are at a special stage of psychological development, and they crave independence, recognition, and understanding. Therefore, parents need to let go of parental authority, establish an equal communication relationship with their children, respect their children's individuality and ideas, and give their children enough freedom and space. At the same time, parents also need to recognize that their children's behavior is not a deliberate challenge to parental authority, but an outward manifestation of their psychological changes.
2. Establish a good way of communication.
Communication is a bridge to solve family problems, and it is also an important means for parents to guide their children in the rebellious period of adolescence. Parents need to change the traditional imperative and critical communication style, adopt a guided and open communication style, and have an equal dialogue and exchange with their children. In the process of communication, parents need to listen patiently to their children's thoughts and feelings, give positive feedback and encouragement, and let children feel the attention and support of parents. At the same time, parents also need to pay attention to communication skills, such as avoiding offensive language and maintaining a calm mind.
3. Pay attention to your child's emotional needs.
Children in the rebellious stage of adolescence face more emotional pressure and distress, such as academic pressure, interpersonal relationship handling, self-identity and other problems. Parents need to pay attention to their children's emotional changes, understand their children's emotional needs, and give them appropriate support and help. Parents can share their experiences and feelings with their children, guide their children to learn to express their emotions and needs, and enhance their children's emotional cognition and self-regulation ability.
4. Establish family rules and boundaries.
Adolescent rebellious children often crave freedom and independence, but at the same time, they also need certain rules and boundaries from their parents. Parents need to work with their children to set family rules and boundaries, clarify the responsibilities and rights of family members, and make children understand what behaviors are allowed and what are forbidden. At the same time, parents also need to respect their children's individuality and ideas, and give their children enough autonomy and choice. By establishing family rules and boundaries, trust and respect between family members can be strengthened, helping children better adapt to social rules and standards.
In short, Ms. Zhao, a psychological counselor of Zhishan, believes that guiding children in the rebellious period of adolescence requires the understanding, attention and support of parents, and the establishment of equal communication relationships, attention to children's emotional needs, and the establishment of family rules and boundaries are all very effective means. In the process of guiding their children, parents need to communicate with their children patiently and meticulously to help them through this important stage.