With the rapid development of society, the education of children in modern families has attracted more and more attention. Especially for children who are in the rebellious phase, their behavior and emotions often leave parents feeling confused and helpless. Teacher Zhao, a psychological counselor of Zhishan, believes that correctly guiding and educating children in the rebellious period is a skill that every parent needs to master. So, how do you educate effectively? This article will discuss this issue.
1. Establish a relationship of trust: Building a good relationship of trust with children is the cornerstone of educational success. At this stage, the child's sense of self and independence gradually increases, and they crave the best respect and understanding. Parents need to respect their children's opinions, listen to their ideas, and encourage them to express their feelings. At the same time, parents should try to understand the real reasons behind their child's rebellious behavior in order to communicate better with them.
2. Cultivate independence: As children grow older, they will become more and more eager to be independent. Parents should try their best to teach their children to think independently and solve problems, so that they feel that they are capable and worthy. At the same time, parents can provide their children with some opportunities to do things independently, such as assigning housework, making study plans, etc., so that they can learn and grow in practice.
3. Listening and Communication: Rebellious children often have a lot of confusion and doubts, and they need someone to talk to. Parents should listen to their children and give them adequate attention and support. When communicating with their children, parents should avoid using a commanding tone and instead communicate with their children in a guided and encouraging way to help them solve their problems.
4. Proper guidance: Rebellious children may have a strong interest and enthusiasm for certain things, but some things are not suitable for their age. Parents should guide their children appropriately and help them choose beneficial entertainment and hobbies to avoid indulging in undesirable things. At the same time, parents should also encourage their children to participate in beneficial social activities, such as participating in extracurricular activities and joining interest groups, so as to enrich their life experience.
5. Give positive feedback: Children in the rebellious period tend to have strong self-esteem and self-motivation. Parents should give their children appropriate positive feedback, affirm their efforts and achievements, and encourage them to keep moving forward. At the same time, parents should also pay attention to guiding their children to take a correct view of failures and setbacks, and help them learn to learn from failures and face challenges bravely.
6. Set an example: Parents are their children's first teachers and the people they trust the most. Parents' behaviour and attitudes can have a profound impact on children. Therefore, parents should set a good example and show a positive attitude and values towards life to set the right example for their children.
Through the above six aspects of education, Zhishan psychological counselor Zhao believes that parents can better guide the healthy growth of children in the rebellious period. In this process, parents need to communicate with their children patiently and carefully, and give them enough care and support. At the same time, parents should continue to learn and improve their educational abilities in order to better cope with the challenges of their children's growth.