The deceived do not know the pain of being hurt, and the betrayed do not know the cruelty of the deceiver.
How many ** ignorantly believe that as long as they make amends, apologize, and admit their mistakes, things will be in the past. You can reconcile with your spouse. This is due to the fact that the traitor does not take into account the psychology and mentality of the spouse.
The traitor simply did not realize that serious psychological changes could occur with his spouse. Even if we can reconcile, things will never be the same!
Cheating is not a mistake. Deception can defile a person's life. With one move, the Cold War can solve the problem in a few days. However, dirt is dirt, it can't be washed off, it stays there forever and never goes away. It's easy to forgive, and it's even less likely to be accepted.
Traitor is indeed a disaster and a devastating blow to the spouse. For an unarmed man who completely trusts a traitor, the sense of trust is destroyed in an instant! From then on, he began to doubt love, marriage, humanity, and even the meaning of life.
A feeling of shame, failure, and helplessness ensues. To the point of self-doubt, self-doubt, self-destruction! This can lead to confusion and disorientation. Like a thousand arrows piercing the heart, falling into the abyss, eternal destruction, difficult to escape. The serious damage done to your body and mind will never go away! My life was ruined and it was hard to let go! This is definitely a very brutal means and means, to completely destroy a person, to kill a person!
The traitor downplays his wrongdoings, appears fearless or complacent, and shirks all responsibility as if he were a victim. The betrayed person is the perpetrator. This further reinforces the psychological shadow zone of the spouse. Slowly, the heart dies, the hatred disappears, and the love ends. You will slowly understand human nature and understand life.
No matter what, the hurt is inevitable, the love is gone, the feelings are irreparable, and the marriage is irreparable.
No matter what excuse or reason, whether it's for the sake of the children or for the sake of profit, be together. Even if the traitor is terminally ill, even if the traitor is dying, even on his deathbed, the spouse will not give the traitor any sympathy and care. Needless to say, no sacrifice will be made for the betrayer, and the betrayed party will see it as not only atonement for past sins, but also heaven's retribution for the betrayer. Punish the traitors! And feel like you can smile because of it!
From then on, all the words and deeds of the betrayer will appear in the mind of the spouse. Not worth mentioning at all! Even more unreliable! In addition to the perfunctory treatment of the betrayer, the spouse has begun to see the betrayer's performance as a joke deep down. And it feels so silly! I'm so sincere.
There is a good chance that the spouse's plan for revenge against the betrayer is already on the line! Because those who have been betrayed know it in their hearts. What really makes ** realize the seriousness of the problem is not the big truth or tears, but makes them feel the same way. Too many people cheat just to get revenge on their spouse for cruel cheating or betrayal. didn't even let the divorce, and the two still fought!