Kindness is both a virtue and a double-edged sword. Some people say that "too good is stupid", but this sentence, although short, profoundly reveals the negative effects of being too good.
People with a good personality always instinctively consider the feelings of others and habitually think about others. However, keep in mind that this kindness does not equal endless giving. Excessive kindness tends to reduce one's own efforts and also harms those who don't know what to do.
Good people are often vulnerable. This is not because goodness itself is wrong, but because there are ungrateful people. As the old saying goes, "Friends have grace, and there is kindness and hatred." "Dealing with ungrateful people can only lead to a build-up of conflict.
Some people lack gratitude, take the selfless dedication of others for granted, and even go beyond their own limits. When faced with rejection, you may feel resentful. They choose to forget their past efforts and form a mentality of "crossing the river and tearing down the bridge".
People who have lost trust have a hard time finding someone who can help them. In this case, no matter how kind you are, you should be careful, because giving may only lead the other person to laugh at you for being stupid.
As the saying goes: "Endure for a while, the sea will be calm; Take a step back and the sky will be brighter. But in the face of people who have no conscience, it is difficult to choose to endure. You may not get any results. Calm down. Sometimes you need to show your strength to maintain your boundaries.
A good heart should also be wary of those who have repeatedly hurt you. People who forget about the pain after the wound has healed are more likely to be injured again. While choosing to be kind, it is equally important to protect your sense of self.
I've heard this before. "If being smart is a gift, then being kind is a choice. "While we choose to be kind, we must also learn to be wise and protect ourselves. Only by being kind to yourself can we be kind to others. True kindness is not unconditional, but must be given at the right time.
Kindness must also be maintained at a certain level. While we are kind to others, we must also learn to protect ourselves and not let our excessive kindness become a burden to others. A kind heart brings warmth, but you must know how to protect your own interests at the right time.
Kindness is a virtue, but excessive kindness can be easily exploited. In this world, we cannot expect all to be grateful, nor can we expect all tolerance to be exchanged. In the face of ungrateful people, we need to be cautious and know how to say no at the right time to avoid becoming their punching bag.
Instead of tolerating others without interest, it is better to show persistence in the face of provocation. When dealing with problems, excessive leniency may not lead to desirable results. For those who have no conscience and only know how to bully the weak and fear the strong, sometimes they need to show their strength in order to force them away despite the difficulties.
For those who have repeatedly hurt us, we cannot easily trust their apologies. Apologies may only be superficial, and true repentance takes time to test. When choosing whether or not to trust them again, we need to be more careful to ensure that a momentary weakness does not lead to the next harm.
In this complex society, kindness and wisdom are equally important. Kindness keeps us warm, and wisdom allows us to protect ourselves while being kind to others. Kindness is a choice, and a wise choice embodies a truly kind heart. So find the right balance between kindness and wisdom, and be a kind person, not a fool.