The Book of the Later Han Dynasty profoundly points out that "those who only talk about depth and only talk about the surface are ignorant", and this old proverb has been passed down for thousands of years, and it is still a proverb that enlightens people's hearts and enlightens people's hearts. Make sense. In interpersonal interactions, the dumbest thing to do is to say something you shouldn't say. If you talk too much, you will make mistakes, and if you say too much, you will often bring disaster to yourself. Especially the following five sentences, you must keep them in mind deeply and don't easily leak them to others.
Family privacy should not be made public.
As the saying goes, "family ugliness should not be made public". Family issues such as between parents, siblings, and marital disputes should not be made public. 。Complaining in front of outsiders not only does not solve the problem, but may even exacerbate the conflict. It is difficult for the judiciary to solve family problems, and it is difficult for outsiders to understand the complex relationships within the family. Therefore, it is wise to keep the family quiet and maintain harmony.
Even if a family scandal spreads, it will not only become a hot topic of discussion, but also the family will feel humiliated. In order to protect the face and dignity of your family, you need to know how to protect your family's privacy and avoid causing unnecessary trouble.
Your child's privacy should be kept private.
Many people like to talk endlessly and never abandon their children. However, the child's private affairs should be kept confidential. As parents, we may care a lot about our children's lives, but that doesn't mean we should confide in our children's private lives to outsiders.
When a child tells his or her parents about his or her private affairs, it is a sign of trust and affirmation, but when parents tell their children's private affairs to outsiders, it is betrayal and alienation. Really smart parents know how to keep their children's privacy in order to maintain the intimacy and comfort of the parent-child relationship.
Silence on household income.
As the old saying goes: "Wealth is not revealed, wealth is not revealed". The family's financial situation is a private matter and should not be disclosed to outsiders. Whether your family is rich or poor, you need to be careful about what you say and do and avoid revealing your family's financial situation too easily.
Flaunting family income provokes greed in others, while complaining about others provokes contempt in others. Making money silently and unobtrusively is the best way to live a stable life away from good and evil.
Don't expose other people's shortcomings, don't talk about other people's private affairs.
There is a sentence in the "Regulations": "If you have shortcomings, don't expose them, and don't say them if you have selfish intentions." "It shouldn't be exposed, it shouldn't be made public. 。The character and abilities of others have nothing to do with us, so the evaluation of them will only lead to criticism. Uncontrolled speech can hurt others and cause trouble. Prudence in words and deeds, prudence in words and deeds, is the basis for getting along with others.
Keep your secrets to yourself.
There are some secrets hidden deep inside everyone, including emotions, regrets, mistakes. But these personal details are about reputation and emotion, so you should be silent and silent.
Even close friends, don't reveal them to the public without permission. Keeping secrets is the best way to protect yourself, and it is also the greatest responsibility to yourself. Always be thoughtful and avoid impulsiveness that causes unnecessary consequences.
If you don't talk, you're not honest. If you don't speak, you're being dishonest to others. The human heart is complex, the emotions are changeable, and there are too many words to truly understand. Silence is better than many words. Keeping these five sentences in mind and keeping your mouth shut is what a true wise man does. Only by keeping your mouth shut and having your heart right, can interpersonal relationships go smoothly.